Secrets

I am good at keeping secrets, and I think, I hope, my family and friends know this and that I am completely trustworthy. They don’t, however, know why maybe this is. .....That I have my own very long standing secret.............

Hello Elle.

Thank you so much for your positive response, my comment were quite brief. It’s my first posting.

Fortunately Mum is still alive, and has her little apartment at the rear of the house. She is going well and is 84 in October.

Drinking was a big party of my life, I found it an easy way to escape my issues from being abused as a 10 yr old. But it’s something I’ve had help with since stopping drinking alcohol. Counselling has given me the confidence to talk about it. Since stopping drinking and especially since the counselling I’ve come on leaps and bounds.

I’m sure my self hatred regarding the chain is my being very remorseful. Especially as my parents had six children, and therefore the cost of the chain was needed elsewhere. I have bought another chain since. But it doesn’t carry the same sentimental value. It wouldn’t actually surprise me if Mum has guessed what I’d done.

Thank you again for your understanding and have a wonderful day and weekend. Love, Barry

I am keeping at least two mega secrets that would ruin two marriages if they were ‘out there’ .... I can always keep a secret and I will take them to my grave! Oooohhh ...just thought....make that three BIG really BIG secrets!

In my work as a tutor I heard some truly disturbing family secrets. Confidentiality was something I had to explain to them (in detail) as I had a professional obligation to report some things (if revealed) - so had to forewarn them. I had more than a few nightmares!

All these people weighed down with "big secrets" they must take to the grave..

I have found that often they are not secrets at all but rather unspoken taboos.

This has happened to me several times, thinking I was solely responsible for a big secret and wondering if I was right ir wrong to not tell.

In one instance when I told (believed I had to as I thought the secret was doing real harm), everybody knew already! They were just miffed that I brought it up because it was knowm just not spoken about..

Another time I was confided in re a big secret which filled me with guilt. Again agonising over whether I should warn those involved or not...
I didnt need to tell as once again, found out that EVERYONE knew... we just werent supposed to talk about it

In both instances the secret teller implied that I was the only one who knew so I felt that the weight of the information was all on me!

If you've been told "in confidence", others probably have too

Everyone told my mother their secrets and everyone tell me too.
I worked in a psychiatric hospital for many years so not only knew the diagnosis of a patient, but all about their lives too. Sometimes these were people known for many years to my family, but it appeared their lives were nothing like we all believed. Confidentiality was an absolute and whenever I met a patient when I was out it was up to them if they wanted to recognise me.

I can keep secrets and not tell anyone because they are not mine to tell. But if I did some of them could cause ructions. With two of them I was not the only holder of the secrets but others were suspicious and would keep asking. But I still never told. I have also been told something about one of my DDs which I would never bring up with her although I wouldnt be surprised if it were true. She just told the wrong person her secret if she did.

Hmm, well, I've got loads of secrets about myself that I will never share. Let me say though, I have had a damn good time in my 61 years on this earth and there is still time to do some more 'secret' stuff to make my life even more FUN.
I also hold secrets for other that I will never share, not mine, to share.

Lovely.. glad you're having fun.

I am researching my family tree and have unearthed many, some that involve living relatives of my family. Many of them are not nice and now I am sorry I did it.

Although I am fairly open about my own life, I would never betray a confidence and so have been told all sorts of things over the years. One ‘friend’ royally stabbed me in the back and despite this I would never dream of disclosing anything they have said. More about my principles than them deserving any loyalty.

Yes, and I don't think I will ever be able to tell anyone about them as they are not mine to reveal.

Thankyou very much Tillybelle