I tried, I really did......

I think it could be Greymar.

I've just read the whole thread so far (quite quickly really because I skipped all the Grandad bits).

The stories made me laugh because I can so relate to them.

I remember once being in the baker's and a chap came in and asked for a certain type of roll. They didn't have them so he went out without buying anything. This was back in the day when (here in Germany) shops had very strict opening hours - they still do, but not quite so strict. The shops were due to shut, it was a Saturday and there would be nothing available till the Monday morning. That was one Sunday morning ruined by having no bread or rolls for breakfast - an absolute must in these parts. If I had been his wife, I'd have been furious.

DH has offered to do the shopping next week. I have managed for the past 2 weeks to do just one shop per week, scuttling in to Lidl and getting almost everything on the list, substituting as necessary - I don't want to risk having to go out again later in the week, or going to another shop. If DH did it, I would certainly have to go out and get some things which he forgot/didn't find/substituted insufficiently, so I may as well do it all myself.

JackyB Quote [If DH did it, I would certainly have to go out and get some things which he forgot/didn't find/substituted insufficiently, so I may as well do it all myself.] End Quote.

Well, if you have so low an opinion of your husband JackyB, don't agree to him to doing it in the first place and get off your backside and go out and get the shopping yourself as you state.

Some people live in some very strange relationships and then wish to make a "song and dance about it" on a forum such as this. Husband offers, has it thrown back in his face and even has it spoke of behind his back on here. Now there is appreciation for you.

If it were me in such a self-made circumstance, I would wish to keep it quiet and to myself. ?

My DH retired 7 years before I did, so took on the basic shopping tasks while I was still working full-time. He can manage all the usual items - loo rolls, bread,milk, chicken breasts/thighs, tinned goods etc. But fresh veg? No idea at all apart from potatoes and onions. I think that, growing up, he didn't go to markets like I did with my mum (we lived close to 2 London markets and bought all our fresh veg from market stalls). Not his fault. If I had sons, I would do as my mum did and make sure they were aware of where their food came from. Both accompanied her on shopping trips to the market just as I did. They were both taught to knit and sew (back in the 1950s). Conversely, I was taught by my dad to wire a plug, strip down a carburretor (not sure I've spelt that right!) and grow flowers and vegetables in the garden. Although my parents were very old-fashioned in some ways, in others they were very progressive. Education-wise,whatever they got I was expected to get the same. I hope their OHs are grateful that they have the basics!!

I have to add that both my mum and dad were from very poor, Inner London backgrounds and left school at 14. Even though they both passed the 11+ exam (and don't get me started on that!) their parents couldn't afford the uniform and books for them to go to grammar school. What I meant to say in the previous post was that whatever my brothers got, I got too including a decent education. No difference between us, in my parents' thinking. I know how lucky I was and am forever grateful to my dear Mum and Dad, God rest their souls.

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'And even has it spoke of.' Oh yes..........the real, the one and only original Mr Puniverse 1943 is indeed back in the room.

Consider yourself told, JackyB

I particularly enjoy laughing at the Quote [ ] End Quote. Most formal and in fitting with the general pomposity and stuffiness.

"Women"?! (21.03) Plural? Hmm, The Handmaids Tale?........

SirChenjin where I see injustice and non-appreciation of a good gesture whether it be made by a man or woman I shall speak out on it.

JackyB carried out a boast on this forum of her insensitivity and non-appreciation of her husbands best intentions towards her. That I would hope would be condemned by everyone without a second thought.

It hasn’t occurred to Gabdad his wife posts on this forum ,
husbands read it

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SirChenjin my quote and end quote gives clarity that even forum members such as yourself can comprehend I would hope.

That I feel is much above the so often incomprehensible, ill-considered and ill-constructed posts that you and some others have made in this thread and many others on this forum. ?

Better stuffy than continuously sloppy. ?

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SirChenjin, and you come across as a sloppy ill-mannered little women.

Woman Grandad - singular.

SirChenjin, be assured I will especially in regard to your often incomprehensible posts.

You will what? You’re becoming somewhat incoherent in your keyboard bashing.

I think their is only one forum member who has become angry on this thread this evening. ????

There Grandad - it’s there.

I think it is described as "knickers in a twist"?

I’m not sure why JackieB should appreciate her husband doing a half-arsed job, Grandad43.

I’m sure you do.

she has now joined the forum spelling and grammar police. ??

And at the same time speaks on others being pompous. ??

Anyway a long day tomorrow, so good night all. ?