How to meet men in real life?

Ineedamum. As you see in the reply’s there is a wide variety in what women want, the important thing is what you want. Obviously socialise with any mixed groups or clubs and get to know any single men, you are more likely to find a match close to home.
Dating sites, you have a lot of competition, so you have to present yourself well, attractive photos and realistic description of what you like. Look at the senior dating sites, don’t bother with men more than 30 miles away any dating will be much more difficult. Spend a couple of weeks chatting online then meet for coffee and take it from there, don’t travel to meet them, if they are keen they will travel to you .

You need quite a thick skin because there are trolls, anything distasteful just block them, the good prospects are widowers because they are more likely to be serious wanting a new partner. Tip, most site you can browse without paying anything, sign on as a man, you will see what the others side says, you will also see how badly many are presented.

I was lucky, hope you are too.

Whatever happened to meeting the opposite sex through friends. It seems such a cattle market meeting people online. Just my opinion, feel free to comment

interesting to hear others' wants/needs in a man, but am I the only one who would like a " forever" committed platonic male companion, preferably (after a suitable period of getting to know each other) as a housemate? Does this make me odd? I have a house in London and my on/off partner and I are in lockdown together in it. Usually we are semi-detached, live separately, see each other at weekends and I want to return to this after this virus situation is over ( if ever!) But I really would like the stability and continuity of a permanent companion/housemate who I could rely on and who would be there for me - and vice versa. On/off partner not too good at this! Plus is 15 years older than me which doesn't help matters. Am I being totally over-optimistic and does anyone out there have/want such an arrangement too? And, if so, how did they go about getting it??

Thanks again everybody.

I don't put a photo online which may be a factor in not being successful but I have had a few dates as men were interested in me as a person.

I am possibly too guarded, and I'm naturally a quiet person. we have two ears and one mouth- we're designed to listen more than we talk! But these qualities do go against me online.

I am in walking groups, so far there is a 20 year age gap. However, I love walking so I'll carry on for me not to meet anyone.

I have been single for 10+ years now!!

Within our local U3A I'm aware that quite a few people have met a "significant other" who has become their partner/spouse.

Shared interest groups are great BUT my hospital must be the greatest free pick up place around.
I've been offered everything from going out for a drink right through to spending the winter on one of the Costas at his place. My(female) Dr. always wants feedback whenever she does a referral

I met my no2 at the climbing wall. We have weekly social climbing sessions & at 68 I thought my 'partner' days were over 15mths after sudden death of my husband. I began to recognise a mutual attraction to someone I'd known for 5yrs in the group. Apparently he'd always fancied me! Message is, join an activity you enjoy, mixed of course, with people about your age. It's more likely to happen!

I met my last husband (l have been a widow now for over four years) at work, just saying hello in passing for quite some time. I didn't expect to ever meet anyone again, after he died, even though l belong to many groups and clubs. So you can imagine my surprise when l did. My friend and l went to watch a male friend, who has a band, when he played at a local pub. Neither of us is pub goer, so it was unusual. A nice man offered me a chair and checked if l was ok all evening. He was known to my male band friend and asked me out. It took a lot of courage for me to turn up to meet him, but l'm glad l did. We have been seeing each other now for eighteen happy months. Try something, or somewhere different, you just never know. By the way l am 73, and get out many places with my man, as he is a singer with a local rock band. Another surprising turn in life.

I wouldn't worry. Imagine being in lockdown with someone you don't want to be with all the time. Nightmare. Enjoy your freedom.

DS is the loveliest lad in the world and is looking for Miss Right -he has a charming young lady friend, but that is all she is - his best friend. But at 36, with Aspergers, he has joined several on-line sites and despite having written a really good resume, not so much as a single reply. Why don't girls want a loving gentleman these days? And wouldn't it be polite to at least send a "sorry, not interested message".

All the older people I know who have met partners in later life have done it through being active outgoing people, who are out in the community, belonging to local interest groups or working as a volunteer, or have found new partners in their current freindship group.

Most importantly they haven't been consciously looking for a new partner. There is nothing more likely to put a potential new partner off than the man or woman who clearly sees every member of the opposite sex they meet as potential prey. (obviously, I am not talking about dating sites)

Id read some of the comments on here about folk who seem to be miserable with their partners in lockdown/isolation. Im not saying everyone, but there seems to be more than a few who cannot stand each other. Take your time. I had a good friend that made the mistake of moving someone in very quickly. Her life ended up hell. I hasten to add he had everybody fooled as folk thought he was wonderful. He definitely lulled my friend into a false sense of security. Be wary.

I remet my wife after a gap of. 8 years I was dj at a party she came to and I invited her to my divorce party. We have now been married for 43 years. She now has dementia and getting worse. I cannot see anyone interested in me after she has gone as I am disabled partially sighted and cartlidges gone in both knees.

I met my previous relationship through work. He was a client and also known socially by one of the staff.

I met my current relationship (now husband) sort of through work. He is the brother of a colleague's partner.

Match dot com.
I met my OH on there almost 7 years ago. Some quality men on there if standards are the same.
I did lots of background checks on the ones I met, before meeting.

Skweek1
It doesn't always work like that.
If you write a polite 'No thanks', one often gets a reply asking why and if they don't like the reason they can be a bit rude.
Not everyone is blessed with good manners.

I have a woman friend who is in her 80s and always has a man friend. I think a) she is attractive and dresses nicely and b) she really likes male company.
She has been widowed for many years and has grown up family. I doubt she wants to marry or even live with these men but she enjoys their company and likes an escort. I don't know where she finds them. Sorry.

I certainly wouldn't be looking at anyone my age or older. You would end up looking after them in their dotage.
I prefer men in their late 40s to 50s and ones who haven't gone to seed.

I hope you find friendship and love after this is over indeedamum I was on my own for over ten years before I met my second husband. We have been happily married now for 15 years.

GabriellaG54 Ones who can look after you in your dotage? A good plan!

I go to a local blues club and there are lots of men Of A Certain Age. Music is a great bond - it's easy to talk to people there. I'm not single and not looking for anyone but if I were, I think that's where I'd start. I go on my own mostly as my OH isn't over-keen and I talk to lots of people I've seen there over the yeas but if you're a bit nervous of doing that, see if you could hook up with a friend to go along with at first. There are bands on at many a pub. Good luck!

I met my husband of 41 years through a penpals section in a music magazine. We exchanged several long letters, then met up, and within a few months we were living together. Obviously it worked out! But of course things are different nowadays and everything is online. And all that sending "sexts" and photos of each other's naughty bits before they've even met.

I met my bloke on holiday. I was in the ashes of my previous relationship and he was nice, chatty and good fun. He gave me his email address and I mulled it over for a while when I got back from hol and then emailed him.

Not sure if his eagerness was a good thing or not, long term. That was 14 years ago.

I’m single, 62 have been on date sites before years ago and mainly met game players, but one was local to me and we became great friends for 3 years. I moved house 2.5 years ago to start afresh and joined the local fb village page and met a great female friend who although married her husband never wanted to socialise or anything. She has been a great inspiration to me and we formed a craft group in our village and met other local people who were also interested. I now look after my grandson two days a week and have taken him to my local playgroups were again in meeting other people as well as giving him some social life. My friend is now divorced and joined plenty of fish date site and after meeting many players again she’s found a great fella who lives 2 miles away. I’m back on the site and I have met one guy already, am chatting to five others at the moment. It’s great fun and now you can video date while in lockdown or chat on the phone if you wish. I did try volunteering at a theatre as that’s my main interest but all the guys were married but I’ve seen some lovely shows for free and met some lovely people anyway. If you’re not keen on date sites I would recommend the meet up groups of which there are many. At the moment, they are holding them online, so if you have the technology I’d say go for it, you’ve nothing to lose, but everything to gain, good luck x

I have tried a couple of dating sites and am amazed by the number of men in their seventies who expect girls young enough to be their daughters to be interested in them. Some sites ask for your income, and so many men give impossibly high salaries such as £100000 that I think they are trying to make up for their unattractive photo. I dated 3 men, and the first two spent all the time talking about their first wife. The third was nice and I went out a couple of times with him, but he was just too forward... kept trying to hold my hand etc. In the end I dropped him.