"Thank you" would be nice, it's not too much trouble!(whinge alert)?

You are so wrong.

I dont dish up any more.
Himself always moaned that I gave him too much so I put it on the side and we help ourselves.

Tonight he helped himself to curry, admittedly there was more than half left and I can't bear waste so I put it on my plate.
However, I couldn't eat it all, so he said 'are you leaving that?and promptly ate it!
Did I give him too much?
No.

He did say thankyou.

MawB I remember when we were first married making something, asked if he'd enjoyed it and he said, yes, it was ok but he didn't want it again, thank you.
I nearly did LTB.

@ MawB - oh, yes; I recognise that scenario. OH was always prompt and courteous with his thanks for a meal. If he really enjoyed it, he would positively enthuse and ask if we could have it again, soon, please? If he wasn't keen, he'd add a comment like your Paw did and then I would sulk because the things he wasn't mad about were, inevitably, my favourites.

His mother must have trained him well because he always thanked me when I presented him with a pile of clean clothes to put away or ironed his shirts. But I thanked him, too, when he did something for me - from bringing me a coffee to fixing my broken radio to giving me a lift somewhere. Just because you live with someone doesn't mean manners don't matter.

Scribbles
How lucky we were to share our lives with true gentlemen
(PS well done MIL!)

Surely anyone can start as many threads as they wish on GN? Phoenix’s tone was pretty obvious to me, and it didn’t warrant a snarky comment, bad day or no.

I hope she comes back, I enjoy her quirky take on life.

Oh my phoenix you are in a snit today.

Wanting to be thanked for everything, so a UK psychologist** once said, is a very female trait because we don't have confidence in ourselves and our actions.

If we are happy with what we've produced, that should be enough. We shouldn't need male approval to legitimise it.

**Don't ask who she was, it was years ago on the wireless.

You can't alter another human being you can only alter yourself, this comes from 50 years of being married.
You have to find ways of working round problems.

Phoenix please keep starting your threads. You are always entertaining and I love to see you do so.

And I do feel this thread was meant to be somewhat tongue in cheek which appears to have gone over some heads.

I always thank dh when he makes breakfast, makes coffee etc. But he rarely makes dinner. When we both worked if he was in before me which was about 50% he would have had dinner ready. Tho...... I had done the thinking and told him what to make.
The other morning he asked what I'd like for breakfast and I replied poached eggs. Hmmm. Dh said he didn't know how. I said simmering water with vinegar and I'd like soft yolks please, and went upstairs. They were delish.

He also doesn't say thankyou. He will say that
was dead on, that was fine, that was tasty.

I recall when I showed him the outfit I got for one of our son's weddings (which could go back to the shop if he didn't like it). He said that's fine.... I was so cross....I replied fine!! fine!! A roast chicken is fine!! I think I probably skreeked like a chicken. He got the point that day but still fine still rates top of the scale.

But I wouldn't change him. He spent his working life keeping us all safe and here in NI that wasn't easy. He was blown up on duty and off work for a year when he moved a bicycle that had explosive packed in the saddle.
I told him if he could tackle a riot then he can tackle poached eggs now

In our family when someone cooks a meal, makes a cuppa, or does anything for someone else if a “thank you” is forgotten
we’ll always nudge each other and say “where’s your manners?” and a thank you is the quick response.
He just needs a bit more nudging than most Phoenix.
Good Luck.

Please keep posting Phoenix, it’s lovely to have some topics which can’t be turned around to bemoaning the CV situation or slagging off the government.

I always thank my husband after he has cooked the meal, its self preservation really in case he gets fed up and expects me to do it.

Why does he say after helping with the housework - "I've vacuumed for you " does he not live here as well ?

phoenix and NfkDumpling. Yes! Please!
I too would love to see more threads that are nonCV or Lockdown related.

After 49 years of marriage, my husband always appreciates what I serve up. Sometimes he says ‘ lovely but what was it?’

Yes Phoenix keep on with your amusing threads. OP dont have to read them. We need to have other thoughts In These times.

And I do feel this thread was meant to be somewhat tongue in cheek smile which appears to have gone over some heads
Coolgran65 Well said! And this is not the first one, either!
Excuse me for butting in, but just like to say that Phoenix is Senior Court Jester and must stay.
In any case, as such, I'd never believe that she means to go!
OoRoo

Agree (and disagree) with lots of posts but have to add so pleased my husband is sitting opposite me still after nearly sixty years of marriage, I guess he could have been fed up when I didn’t say thank you every time he did something for me too. His health has been dodgy over the last few years but luckily copes well. hope we’ll make it seventy??

Gingster

I am so grateful to all the posters who start threads. Especially the humorous or tongue in cheek ones. Also, anything that is a break from the usual! Long live the jesters!!

I always enjoy Phoenix's threads. The more the better but annsixty's comment is not like her. I hope she's OK we need her too!

Thank you phoenix

Agree Jane.

Me too Jane

Replying somewhat late to Hithere...I said you may be taking it too seriously and that’s exactly what I meant! Phoenix was clearly having a light hearted moan which didn’t mean she needed to knock her OH into shape!

To whoever thinks Phoenix starts too many threads, why not go into competition with her and start a few too ? But please not about you know who ....m....h...

If he does the shopping and seemingly chooses what to buy why not ask him what he suggests is cooked with said ingredients. Then get him involved with the preparation of the meal. Simple!

I do not claim to be a fantastic cook but OH tells me that I am leagues ahead of his first wife! Apparently she was so lazy she would wait for him coming in from a 12 hour shift and expect him to cook for her ! We often cook together, this teaches him kitchen skills and me tolerance as I never usually liked anyone in the kitchen.