Going out out

stop the crying Molli, you will soon be able to meet, she needs a bit more time.

I hope you all have a lovely time those of you planning to be out. I have only been doing a walk no shops at all but have decided today that I will go for a short local drive without getting out of the car. I haven’t driven at all for nearly 8 weeks so a bit apprehensive but have been worried about the car standing idle so thought I’d give it a go . I’ve missed driving

Are not that should be!
definitely not, Rosalyn keep the marauding hordes out.

Nid oes croeso i chi Cymru

Well DH and I had an outing yesterday - for a non existent appointment at the hospital!! They claim to have telephoned us, but can't think both of us would forget!! The car enjoyed the trip!!

It's now almost 18 months since I saw my family in England and missing them all. I do have a DS and DDiL here in Portugal and was able to see them in March just before our lockdown. I hope everyone enjoys their meetings because they do make such a difference to our wellbeing. Being able to meet up with my lovely Portuguese friend makes such a difference because we chat about very different things compared to what we talk about with our husbands.

How did your meeting up with your DD go yesterday GabriellaG54 ? I bet she was thrilled to see you.

To the lady who is anxious about going out in the car I would suggest that you start with a short drive around your local area. If you don’t get out you cannot be at risk. Keep going each day until you feel more confident. You don’t want to be like my neighbour who has had to call out the AA to replace his flat battery! I’m more nervous of crowded pavements.

DH was so happy when he returned after seeing his son. They'd missed each other so much

Molli - sorry its been so hard for you and that your daughter is particularly anxious. My friend has a son in his forties who doesn't live with her but went for her shopping at first and droppped it at her door. He has since become so anxious he won't go out and a friend has to drop his shopping off now. Maybe your daughter is just a naturally cautious person, or has specific concerns over her son's health? Just support her by phone and video calls until she is confident to meet up. Perhaps you could bake(&freeze it),sew,knit, collate photos, send small gifts (if she's ok with that) or do something else specifically for your DD and GC to give them when you can meet up so that you feel you are also supporting them practically as well as holding them in your thoughts and prayers.

Laurensnan, so sorry that you lost a son. Must be very hard. But the rest of your news is happy. Love to your new grandson!!!

Anrol (flowers) but I don't know how to do this, sorry.

Hoping to do "a drive by" on my grand daughters 10th birthday at end of month; shes having a tent in the front garden so friends and fam can wave... I usually do her birthday cake so will take a small one and surprise her... Sadly missed grandsons 1st birthday and not sure when I will get to see him as parents are sadly estranged.
But due to see best friend next week.... yey!

Kate54 and Jul23 she suffers from anxiety and depression and it’s been really bad since her daughter was born 21 months ago. It took 15 months to get her support even though she was considered high priority. She has had iTalk sessions since Jan this year face to face but Since then lock down she’s had a few. But she just won’t go out unless it’s essential. We say that we are supposed to be going out for exercise but she just keeps saying it’s ‘not essential’. It’s as if she has heard that one message from the government and won’t listen to anything else. Fortunately her hubby is at home as he can work from home and only goes in once a week. I have felt for sometime that He is basically her carer. He already seems to be doing the washing up or cooking or putting kids to bed. I was going over there 3 x a week before lockdown. Monday so she could work in afternoon, Wednesday work all day and Friday morning so she could have her counselling sessions. I clean the house as I can’t bear to think of the GC in such a mess. I don’t know how to not let it affect me all. ?.

I think there will be a second wave of the virus, so all of you going out then please stay safe. My condolences to all of you who have lost loved ones.

Such sad stories as well as joyous ones has mad me want to cry. Xx

I got a phone call yesterday offering me a hospital appointment today, after some reassurance about the safety measures in place I agreed. I am now looking forward to the wee jaunt out and seeing a change of scenery. Never thought I would be looking forward to a hospital appointment ?

I think our emotions are very close to the surface, whywhywhy.

Sunlover, I hold my hands up to doing the same as you on Tuesday, a day before we should have. I was passing a friends house after a visit to help my disabled daughter. We met in the carpark of a garage, bought a costa coffee from the machine and sat in our cars, door opened talking. It was just wonderful and we had an excuse ready in case the police dropped by. The excuse, sorry officer we thought it WAS Wednesday, at our age the memory starts to play tricks.

I have just returned from seeing my son. We have had s lovely walk around cannon hill park and through Mosely high street where I bought canoli from the Italian deli. Said good bye as we got back to his flat and I came home in my car. It was wonderful. Felt like a bit of normality and it was the first time I had seen him since march.

Thank you for asking Daisyboots ??
Yes, she was a bit overwhelmed and thought it was a wind-up as she didn't recognise the car but she flew down the garden path, not sure if her feet touched the ground.
I had the windows up but it was awful seeing her cry and press her hands to the glass.
She changed, I left the car and we walked to the town centre with food/drinks I had brought and found a nice place to sit and talk where there were few people about.
We later walked near the river and several interesting places, in fact, we were out until quite late taking photos of our day and planning another meeting.
Her husband was at work and she forgot to tell him where she was until he returned to an empty house and rang her ?
She works a 3 day week at home with her own business.
Yes, it was wonderful as we don't see each other often enough but it only serves to remind us what odd times we are living in and how disjointed the rules are.

So, it’s now FOGO that’s paralysing most of you.

I can’t understand fully why people are not relieved to be able to venture out a little.

Do you all really want to turn into old crusties, fearful of everything and everyone.

Unless you are ill,or have other medical needs, just go out.
Do it a little bit at a time. Drive to somewhere scenic and look around you. Maybe even open the car door and breath in the fresh air.

I shall be wearing one. If everyone wore one it would help to reduce the transmission rate.

We were allowed to move our boat yesterday, to our new mooring. It's much closer to my bestie. I haven't seen her since Feb, as soon as we moored, she was over like a shot. It was awful not to be able to have a good hug. But 3 hours later , her parking has run out. It was great. So Enjoy yourself

I have no idea what FOGO means
Perhaps I am an old crustie

Plenty of fresh air here, thanks, even fresher than normal because where I live is still on lockdown.

A word of warning to those who haven't driven their car for weeks - I hadn't been out for over a month and went to post a letter and give the car a little run and the battery was completely dead. I have a hybrid and they need an outing once a week according to the lovely AA man who came and recharged it for me. I admit I was quite nervous about going out in the car but then found out it needed an hour's drive to get the battery completely charged so had no choice but go for a nice long drive and must admit I felt fine after the first five minutes! Enjoy your outings everyone and if you can't make it out hopefully this will end soon and we can all get back to normal - whatever normal is!

FOGO
Frightened Of Going Out

Oh, thank you.

You are obviously not an old crustie!

Anyone who calls me one has to beware of my Nordic walking poles, I have an excellent swing.