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farview Sat 16-May-20 21:30:59

I dont understand, why I'm so tired when I'm doing far less than I've done for well over 40yrs...I'm not picking up/dropping off/minding/playing with/outings with grandchildren etc...I'm not flying to the middle east 3-4 times a year helping my daughter for 3-4 weeks at a time....not doing my voluntary work..seeing friends...ete etc...doing less than I ever have...but am so tired...off to bed now..sleep until 6.30ish...Why? Anyone else finding they're doing less..but shattered ?

kittylester Sat 16-May-20 21:36:12

Yep!!

I feel awful as I am much less motivated than dh but could go to bed about 8.30 every night. Dh achieves so much more and can stay awake much later. I suspect that's part of it!

GrannyGravy13 Sat 16-May-20 21:38:48

Yep......permanently kn*****ed!!! no motivation

Juliet27 Sat 16-May-20 21:41:24

It’s boredom...lack of stimulation I’m sure. Just can’t be bothered.

crazyH Sat 16-May-20 21:42:15

Same here ....... just so lethargic?

Iam64 Sat 16-May-20 22:00:30

I think for me, it’s the repetitive days and that low level tension linked to this virus. I usually listen to the news on radio 4 or 5, some phone ins and watch the evening news. I find I’m zoning out, it’s understandably repetitive, all about the virus so I’m switching off.
Like farview, I’m usually busy with grand children . I think missing them is tiring ?
Ah well, at least we are safe, not hungry and things will get better some time

Washerwoman Sat 16-May-20 22:02:08

I'm sleeping better than ever in lockdown.I'm not shattered.Just relaxed because there is nothing much going on the next day and I find it hard to unwind sometimes. I felt like a hamster on a wheel for years and apart from missing family - and having the virus,fortunately mildly -I have loved the weather,the garden,walks with our dogs and spending time with DH.So much to feel grateful for as not the same experience for everyone obviously.

Callistemon Sat 16-May-20 22:03:07

Lack of structure, lack of purpose.
I am doing things, am busy but without the usual timetable.

Washerwoman Sat 16-May-20 22:04:22

Think it helps that apart from reading the paper every morning have stopped watching endless news updates and all the Corona virus specials.

MawB Sat 16-May-20 22:05:47

I think the constant underlying strain is a factor, plus the inability to plan for the short and medium-term future. We are all in a sort of limbo which makes relaxation difficult. Many of us are probably not sleeping as well as we might and our daily routine has probably been turned on its head.
That’s my excuse anyway!

Katyj Sun 17-May-20 06:39:43

Yes me too sleepy soundly. Usually asleep by 9.30 and awake by 6 am always been an early bird. Glad it’s not just me, I was beginning to wonder if it was normal for these times. I think it’s something to do with being more relaxed. Family are doing okay ?I’m furloughed from my part time job, so feeling less achey, and i’m only visiting my mum twice a week for a short visit, she hates it but I’m loving it (That’s the first time I’ve admitted it )? feel very guilty. Won’t be long before we’re racing about again!

grandMattie Sun 17-May-20 06:44:58

farview, I learned the other day that this brainfog is all allostasis.
Me too some days I’m so tired I can barely move after doing very little but certainly nothing out of the ordinary.

PamelaJ1 Sun 17-May-20 06:57:39

I think someone somewhere said the less you do the less you want to do.

At the beginning of this lockdown we, me and him indoors, saw this as a wonderful opportunity to get things done. So we did and now our house is sparkling, newly painted and de cluttered.
The garden is sorted. The cars have been dusted?. I can’t do any more cooking, the freezer is full.

Now what?
Thank goodness for tennis, I feel so much better for simply having a point on the day to work towards, enjoy the exercise, chat and the energy boost it gives me. As we normally play doubles and we are only allowed two on the court I am playing with my three friends and my husband so I hope I’ll be buzzing again soon.

Hetty58 Sun 17-May-20 06:58:26

I've relaxed into a calm and serene holiday mood. I'm sleeping very well, walking further and eating better (perhaps a bit too much, but never mind).

I certainly don't need tasks, stress, responsibilities and deadlines to keep me going.

I avoid routines though. I've never liked them. I try to do different things every day, often leaving the 'usual' stuff to try something new.

Now is an ideal time to experiment, potter and dabble - without interruptions - a golden opportunity for a second childhood!

sodapop Sun 17-May-20 08:27:23

I think that's right Pamelaj1 the less you do etc. If you want something done ask a busy person.

I'm taking it for granted now that I rest in the afternoon, never used to be the case.

farview Sun 17-May-20 08:47:44

....the plus side is that my garden is looking beautiful..house not so much so...dont vacuum every day like I used to do..no one will see it anyway, I'm having leisurely walks,sleeping like a log..which I have never done...do seem to dream more though....done cryptic crosswords galore...when life gets back to normal...will I ever find the energy to do all the things that I used to do? Hope so..?

LadyGracie Sun 17-May-20 09:59:40

I must say I’m going to bed later waking earlier but always feel rested after feeling like I’ve had a better nights sleep than I’ve had in years.

Grandmabeach Sun 17-May-20 10:09:35

I find I need less sleep. I could sleep for 9 or 10 hours before and always needed an alarm to wake up. Now I go to bed late and are lucky if I sleep for 6 hours. I read somewhere it is something to do with the hormones produced by the Adrenal gland. In times of stress or fear the adrenaline is produced for fight or flight. We can do neither so the excess hormones in our bodies cause us to feel tired. I am not sure how true that is.

Marmight Sun 17-May-20 10:16:43

I’m pretty lazy at the best of times. Never do today what you can do tomorrow which as we all know, never comes, but this lockdown lark is making me even lazier. Can’t be bothered. Bed at 10 and get up late (I’m writing this from it blush). However, yesterday I had a good talk with myself - no one else to talk to anyway - and threw myself into cleaning my bedroom from top to bottom. I even moved the heavy bed to deal with 2 years worth of dust .... and must admit I felt better for it, although I may have to take a few days to recover. One upside to incarceration is that my insomnia has improved and I am sleeping much better. In a fit of ‘I must do more exercise’ especially to deal with the weight gain from too much baking/eating chocolate biscuits, I had my old bike serviced on Friday. Its not been used in 10 years. All set, but am worried I may make an eejit of myself in front of the neighbours so will have to pick my moment.
It’s encouraging to know so many of us are similarly inflicted with lack of motivation and exhaustion. Perhaps it’s nature’s way of telling us to slow down.

CarlyD7 Sun 17-May-20 10:21:47

i think it's the constant, ongoing underlying stress and anxiety (personally, I've decided to miss the news entirely - just look at the headlines, and switch off). I agree with Grandmabeach - fight/flight/freeze - response is switched on during times of crisis. We are biologically programmed to withstand short periods of this, and then MUST work all that excess adrenaline and cortisol out of the system (this is why a lot of stressed people do exercise - to burn it off) but we're not designed to withstand sustained levels of this in our body (interferes with sleep; thickens the blood; interferes with blood sugar and digestion, etc). I know that I always feel better after a daily walk. But YES, I'm much more tired at the moment (and don't know anyone who isn't).

polnan Sun 17-May-20 10:22:02

oh gosh, I envy people who sleep well..

allostatis, had to go look that up, now I need an easy description of it

I was thinking this morning, as I MADE myself stay in bed till just after 7 am. that people will get used to this relaxed (!) way of life,, certainly a slower way,, that when , (if) we get back to working again, people won`t be able to stir themselves to the strenuous way we had before, when I think of how I used to be!! ARGH! funny that,, stress for working too much and too fast, and stress for not working... etc...

mumagain Sun 17-May-20 10:31:11

Yes really tired . I’m working four days a week from home and have to be so careful after lunch break not to cat nap as it becomes a fully fledged sleep and I wake up and still have to play catch up with work which means I end up working later. I have however found out from a pre lock down blood test that I was suffering from low iron levels so I’ve just managed to get a prescription from my GP for iron tablets which I’m hoping will help a bit

Alishka Sun 17-May-20 10:32:48

Pretty prosaic, me. Can't control it, didn't cause it, sooo?

I've got brill friends and family, even tho some of them are 5000 miles away, and I bless the Internet and the daily jokes they send. Also bless the near neighbours who add my shopping to theirs when they're out (I'm shielding for 12 weeks) & I really love the unexpected bunches of tulips someone gave me.

I'll certainly sleep well in this afternoon, been cooking all those wilting veg. in my fridge since early, just my bedroom to sort+ all that laundry to fold and put away - , then I'm on my recliner in the sun with a good book trashy novel, poss with my eyes closed.

Bed, then after listening to the News and drifting off to Sailing By, sleep, and so endeth another day in lock down.

HAZBEEN Sun 17-May-20 10:33:21

polnan I also envy people who sleep well. For years I have trouble getting to sleep and have to get up twice a night for the loo! At the moment when I do sleep I am plague with vivid dreams some of which have been scarey. Talking to my Counsellor it seems its a big problem for many.

4allweknow Sun 17-May-20 10:37:13

Reasonably busy but nothing like usual. Now with being able to go out more than once a day for a walk that makes me feel better though the routes I can use are becoming boring. Never in bed before midnight and I usually read for an hour before settling down and if I am lucky I sleep until about 6 am then that's me awake. Read again or try to get back to sleep but usually up just after 7 am for a slow start to the day. Yes the garden is looking great, almost watching the grass growing ready to cut it again. I don't seem to feel tired inspite of not doing so much.