Did any GNs know a school bully?

I realise now that this child had serious issues that I believe teachers today would have noticed and done something about.

We had a bully at primary school who would use the most appalling language, shout abuse, tell lies and grab the girls 'inappropriately'.How he knew all that foul language etc. at only eight or nine I hate to think.
Yes, he had issues - wearing 'milk bottle' glasses and was constantly hopping up and down. When seen with his mother he was a very meek child. I don't think I ever saw his father.
Also agree about the lack of interest from the teachers as anyone complaining would be seen as 'wet'.

Our School bully wasa Girl in the first year of Grammar School when I was 11. She was a regular name caller, demander of money and any sweets you may have had, and a fighter and general causer of trouble. He favourite trick was to ask to go to the toilet during Gym class, then gather her victims clothes together and dump them down a toilet whilst she was there, leaving them soaking wet. When I refused to go to school one day becauseof what she had threatened to do to me if I didnt steal her some cigarettes out of someones packet and take them to her at school, my mother made an appointment with the headmaster to complain about her behaviour. The following day, she tried to push me into the path of a bus on the way home, leaving me with some nasty cuts nad bruises. Luckily the bus driver stoped, and called the police, whilst his conductor followed this bully home. She was then expelled from.school and sent to the secondry modern in another area. Her excuse for her behaviour on the po!ice report was that she was missing her twin brother and wanted to leave the Grammar school to be with him, but her parents said no, so getting herself expelled by being a bully was a delibarate tactic on her part. She had also attacked another parent with a hockey stick.when she was protecting her daughter who the bully was regularly pushing into the hedgerow on her way home from school, if the girl did not come up with the goods that the bully was demanding.

threesixnanny. It just wasn't done in those days to 'snitch' as the teacher would just tell you to stop telling tales.

JuliaM. What a frightening thing to happen. She must have been very vicious to try to push you under a bus.

Glad to hear she was expelled. I had to put up with my little tormentor till she went to a different secondary school.

Yes I can remember a nasty girl in the 50's. If I was in front of her when we stood in line she would punch me in the back and pull my plaits. I often wonder if she grew up like that.
I was never one for speaking up or telling tales so endured this behaviour right through from 11 to 15 when on leaving and looking at the smirk on her face I swung round with a right hook and left a handmark on her face.

She got the biggest shock of her life more than it hurt her. Let it be a lesson to her never to trust the quiet ones as they'll never know when the worm will turn.
I even remember her name after 68 years.

Well done EllanVannin! Glad she got her comeuppance.

The girl who bullied me was the youngest child of the local optician. Her bullying was psychological - laughing at my clothes, my hair, taunting me because I lived with my grand parent's, asking if I'd has 'it'!

It took me long time work out what 'it' was! Well, we were only 13 at the time.

DD2 was horribly bullied at school but eventually snapped. She was taken to explain to the head why she had felt it necessary to tell another girl to f off. She told them!!

Sadly, the bully was one of my good friends. That ended that too.

She certainly did AGAA4, and the fright of her life too because she'd known I wouldn't do anything about it, like telling a teacher. Why she targeted me I'll never know, unless she'd realised I was a soft touch. After 4 years she went a bit too far and I involuntarily swung round at her.

That is a good lesson EllanVannin. Bullies can't cope if you stand up to them.

I do remember her name was Jean horrible spiteful girl bullied all the quiet girls.

I went to an all girls grammar school where there were a lot of bullies . I was from a council estate and a fish out of water and hated it . So glad to leave . I was often “set upon” by a girl gang ( from a very well to do area) who’s parents probably thought butter wouldn’t melt in their mouths . A few weeks ago by pure chance I met a girl who was in my year at school. She works on the checkouts at my local supermarket . We never had lessons together but we recognised each other as victims of the same gang of bullies . Like me she said she couldn’t wait to leave . What a waste .

Yes I do - twins (girls) who made my life hell. They each headed up a “gang “ and you had to align yourself with one or the other.Then they would “fight” at playtime and after school. I used to get Mum to walk the dog to the school,gates so that I could go back with her. You could be in and only two other girls and I did not live on the council estate nearby so we were seen as “posh”.
About 10 years ago I attended a school reunion and wondered what I would say if they were there.
As it happens they were and all my remembered anger just dissolved away as I realised that what I had seen as bullying was to them the mere rough and tumble of their lives on the local council estate. They had grown into warm friendly women (still wouldn’t want to get into an argument with them though!) but it was such a weight off my shoulders to know that I no longer bore them any sort of grudge.
Took 50 years though!

“You had to be in one gang or the other”

Yes, the girl who used to bully my friend and me at junior school went on to become Head Girl at senior school.

I don’t remember bullies at my school. I don’t think there were any. That said, it was a very traditional girls’ grammar school . Talking when you should be silent was about the only thing we did wrong. This was in the 1960s.
My own daughters had their fair share in the 1990s in a different part of the UK and in a different kind of school.

I was about 5 when an older girl said I was a speccy 4 eyes due to my glasses.

Her name was Vivian.

I can still see her face now

I stood on a table in the canteen and screamed my head off

Nobody mentioned my glasses again!

I was bullied at my all girl Grammar school by a big thug who used to punch and kick me and give really hard digs in my back. It lasted for about 5 years. I used to vomit on my way to school, I was so terrified of her.
I went to my school reunion with dread in case she was there - and she was! She tried to intimidate me even after all that time but I literally stood up right in her face until she backed off. It was like a weight was lifted from me after 20 years!

When I was moved into my local area with my job I found that her sister was one of the staff in my section (they had an unusual name) but I never let on that I knew her sister.

It turned out that my bully had had four children to different fathers who had both walked out and left her struggling on her own. Two of her children have severe learning difficulties so her life certainly hasn't been easy.

I did feel a sense of justice!

No bullying at our all girls school but local children used to really scare us at weekends. They'd trap us in a barn or similar and hurt us. I still have a scar on my hand from a horrible boy called Jack. We'd tell Mum but she'd have nothing to do with it. Just said we should 'stand up to them'. That just made things worse.
I suppose they were maybe jealous of us. Their parents were always kind and friendly and their much older brother and sister were very nice. I still remember the horrible sinking feeling of coming across them as we turned a corner.

My daughter was bullied by a girl a year or two older when at primary school. She was nasty to her when walking home from school. Must have been when she considered herself too ‘big’ to be met by me.
I remember telling a work colleague about it. She said could you speak to the girl’s mother. I said the mother didn’t look the sort you could reason with, she had a hard, nasty face also.

Ashamed to say I can’t remember how it resolved itself, it was a long time ago, but I think the bully must have turned her attention to someone else.

Yes. Bullied by a very rough girl with a glass eye, and her gang. I told the teachers but was just told I was big enough to defend myself.

I think in the long run it toughened me up. I've worked for and with bullies since then and just have as little to do with them as possible.

I can’t help but feel bitter towards some of the teachers at my grammar school who knew the bully culture was going on but chose to ignore it . Maybe they thought it was a “right of passage “ ? I don’t know .

I love the fact that I now work and recruit in a big local company. I have had the pleasure of turning down the girls that bullied my daughter at school.

Oh, Lord, yes, at my senior school. She was a thoroughly nasty little thing - and she was little! Looking back, I dare say her ‘coven’ of co-bullies were afraid of her - she had an utterly vicious tongue.

She went on to be a primary teacher - I’ve often wondered about the poor children she taught. Not to mention whether she ever had any children, and if so, if they were ever bullied, how that made her feel. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone’s children, but it would certainly be karma with a capital K.