Tears after visit

I am apparently allowed to stay with a 'support bubble' family as i live alone with my sons who both have a disability(as do i) and my youngest son is only just turned 17- but the truth is i dont think its a good idea, and my 17 yr old wont even leave the house (nor his bedroom for long) as hes always very susceptible to any bug going around, and despite a flu jab every yr he gets it anyway! (Which each time effects him much worse) So he does not wish to do any of that and be at risk of covid 19, and i dont want to risk bringing anything back to house to him, even if i went without him-so i wont be doing it!(despite me missing all my AC & GC greatly, who mostly live an hour&a half's drive from me)Its not just about me!

As usual BoJo expects us to use our common sense to carry out his ridiculous and quite frankly cruel policies. It is not fair for any grandparent or child to be separated.
Just because you live with someone else does not mean you are not lonely and desperate to see the family. Like a lot of couples we have not seen our family for 14 weeks and it is very painful to see on the news one grandparent having hugs, kisses and staying over night. Not to mention all the crowds doing their own thing without protection. It just makes me wonder what the hell are we doing. Being married feels like we are being punished, whilst we are imprisoned in our own home, other people, using their 'common sense' do what they like. The question is who are the idiots?

Dont think we're supposed to be dipping in their pool tho?

You can hug them if you are in their bubble. First hugs were on Saturday and it was great. They were a bit timid at first having been used to keeping their distance, but we are all good now!

It’s a guideline people !
Not a law
Doubt you will be arrested for cuddling your grandchildren..
Just use your common sense..

No but just think how awful it would be to unknowingly pass this horrible virus on to them, or to anyone else??? You see thats the thing isnt it? You just dont know...

I've had odd visits to my family but no hugs yet they haven't been well despite a negative covid test I'm taking no chances, however I've told my gradgaughter I will squeeze her till she squeaks when I do see her. My elderly mother wants me to join her in a bubble while my daughter wants me to join her in a bubble. I'm in great demand

Totally agree to the pain and pleasure of a family visit. No hugging the DGC so sad. I also have the added "self pity" of living with my husband and so the other Granny to each family, who are single, have been about to hug the DGC under the bubble rule - I'm trying not to be jealous but it's hard - I understand the reason for the rules, and I don't envy anyone who had been totally on their own for the past 12 weeks. But I'm human, and jealous.

Think the single person rule was made on the assumption that these people just might be lonelier than those in relationships. We know there are exceptions but I feel it was a reasonable option to start easing us out of lockdown gently. I had the joy of meeting up with family last weekend under the distancing rules. Worked wonderfully for me and no hugs was not even remotely a problem. Just so glad to be in their insane and noisy company. We had a long riverside walk and I did miss the occasional hand joining during that but it was fleeting. I also feel there is a natural order of things when the dilemma of 'who to bubble' arises. Sometimes greater need takes preference over desire. We will all have a turn eventually. It is not a competition which makes life even more difficult for those we love. I live in hope.......

I went to my son and daughter in law's house for the first time in months,on Saturday,I gave my 10 year old granddaughter a hug,the first for a long time.We had a lovely time,sitting in the sun then going in for a meal.They had invited me round,it's worked out well,as my DIL's mum has been to her other daughter's house,where she has a grandson,so we each have our social bubble.It means we can only see other family members outdoors,I go for a walk with my daughter,I wish I could meet her properly,but we have to obey the rules.I feel sorry for grandparents who are a couple,they can't see grandchildren properly yet.

My husband and I haven’t seen our grandchildren since the middle of March nor are we likely to as my husband is working from home but fully shielded as he is on immunosuppressant drugs for his Crohns disease. My daughter told me last night that my gs who is 3 on 11th july cries after our ft calls . Im just heartbroken for all of us. And to top it all this morning I’ve tried to video call my 95 yr old mum who is in care home and it was useless because theyve lost her hearing aids. Even when she had them in previous calls they always forgot to change the batteries for her so I haven’t seen/ hugged/ spoken to my poor mum since the middle of march either . So alot of you people out there are very fortunate. I know i am too really coz we’re all healthy and thats the important thing isnt it?? Just gone through a bit if a sad moment , sorry ?

I understand that the scientists advising the Gvt were against these new social bubbles, saying that the risk of infection is still too high but BJ over ruled them.

I can appreciate that it is frustrating for grandparents living with someone else but you have to try to appreciate how lonely and isolating it is for some people who live on their own. I'm OK because I'm happy to use Zoom and other video calls to see people and join in with social activities but not everyone is that confident.

I have a friend who I was really concerned about, she has just finished cancer treatment so was told to shield her self and was able to get food deliveries. Apart from a few phone calls, she saw no one bar the delivery driver for over 10 weeks and was getting rather low in mood. The change in her voice and energy after just one visit from a friend was amazing.

I would love to sit in the garden or visit somewhere with my son and his family. Alas they live in USA so will not see them face to face for a long time, my real fear we will never see them again. We FaceTime regularly but it is not the same as being nearer physically.

I found it very hard to hold back the tears when my DS, Ddil and the children left after a 'distanced'; visit - we are a cuddly family and the little ones held their arms out and took a few steps, and then realised and dropped their arms. My son said later would I please not cry as he can take a lot of things but he can't cope with his Mother crying. The last visit I kept the emotions back and it wasn't so hard; I was so happy to see them and talk to them in the garden.

My earlier rant was not against anyone living on their own being able to see their families or staying over night. I am happy for them but Yes, I do feel upset that because I do not live alone, BoJo's latest revelation has penalised all of us who don't live alone.

We can't see our family because of transport problems. We haven't seen our new GS since his birth in March because parents would have to travel via tram and train. The same goes for our other GC. due to lack of private transport. So popping in for an hour in the garden is out of the question. Unless they can stay overnight, our children's common sense says until Scotland and Wales are comfortable with easing the lock down they will stay put.

So we are being as patient as we can , which is not easy when crowds gather to protest, shop or sun bathe, most of them ignoring the social distancing rules. That's okay because BoJo will change that too if it suits because he just does whatever people want disregarding the scientific advice.

My major compliant is that since the easing of lock down (in England only) the country has gone mad and all we get from BoJo is 'use our common sense', which suggests that if the sxxx hits the fan and many more die, it will not be his fault.
The inconsistencies of these policies, follows the Dominic Cummings philosophy of ' do what I say and not what I do' is causing upset and anxiety.
A sobering reality brought us back down to earth when a good friend died of the corona19 virus today, so we are using our common sense and staying put because we not safe yet.

I’m in Ireland and saw my grandchildren for the first time since mid March on Saturday. My 3 year old DGS looked dumbfounded when he saw me, and I couldn’t stop crying! Only my 8 month old DGD smiled happily, recognizing me from the phone screen only!!

My daughter brought our little 2 1/2 year old granddaughter over to play in our garden today. It was the second time since lockdown. She cuddled our knees! I think it is unfair that single grandparents can provide childcare but we can't because we are a couple. surely the risk is no different. I'm thinking of sending my husband to go and live in his shed over his allotment!

Don't feel too down at least you saw them and connected somewhat. ?Spare a thought for those of us with family abroad who can't even book a flight yet!

How about, instead of thinking one is 'penalised' for not being alone, that some are being 'compensated/considered' for actuallly being alone. It will never be perfect but anger or jealousy just adds to our current angst.

Kim19 - I so agree with you about being compensated for being alone. Sadly, I am still unable to visit my elderly folks as I have no transport and really do not want to risk Public Transport in case I give the virus to my folks.

Makes a change that being single actually works in our favour - Single Supplements, 2-4-1 offers etc.

We have 4 AC 3 of whom live nearby so we’re very lucky. Right from the start of lockdown we paid weekly visits to the pavement in front of each house to maintain contact with the grandchildren. When we were allowed to travel further away we did the same with the other family who are further away. We are actually dreading the time when a couple is allowed to form a bubble with another household. What about the others? We will regrettably have to wait until there is even further relaxation. Having said this my heart goes out to those who are unable to have any contact at all and I do realise how fortunate I am.

Perhaps if it's all so hard, people shouldn't see their families at all?
Crying if you do see them, crying if you don't.

Nobody is being penalised; it's the way the lockdown is being 'eased'.

Had the Gd for the day as Mum and Dad working and I am the usual childcare. We've seen them social distant throughout lockdown until last week when I did get a cuddle. My heart is full.

We’re all experiencing very different emotions, I’m alone since DH passed away 3 years ago, was so excited to be able to join my Daughter and her husband and my 2 grand daughters in a support bubble and stay overnight, I naively thought we’d act as previously as I’d be ‘part of their family’ with hugs, my daughter hugged me but was obviously unsure, my son-in-law hugged me, but it’s totally floored me that my teenage granddaughters felt unable to do so as they’ve only had physical interaction with their parents for the past 3 months, there was no intention to hurt me and as their parents said , it had to be what they were comfortable with, but I’m now back home on my own and that’s where I’ll stay with my tears as I can’t and won’t put them under pressure by telling them my feelings.