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Wrong...but oh so good..

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farview Wed 24-Jun-20 16:40:50

I went in my sons garden this morning to see one of my younger grandsons...he turned 4today..and although i have seen him a couple of times during lockdown..its been at a distance...but today as i sat down in the garden he came running over and flung his arms around me...and i just held him so tight,eyes filled up..i felt so was just so wonderful to hold him...tears streaming again as i write i know i shouldn't have...but it just happened !

toscalily Wed 24-Jun-20 17:17:50

I can imagine how you felt and now you can remember that moment again, and again and again. smile

kittylester Wed 24-Jun-20 17:37:26

DD3 came over with her 3 yesterday. The youngest is 20 months so we have not seen him, or he us, for almost 4 months and we were concerned that he would not remember us.

He came over and asked to sit on, first, my knee and, then, on dh's. Not an opportunity I'm going to turn down.

crazyH Wed 24-Jun-20 17:42:56

That's ❤️

MiniMoon Wed 24-Jun-20 18:14:40

My 2nd grandson had his birthday last Friday. I took his card and gift and he gave me a huge hug. I didn't want to let him go.😊
There and then we decided that we had formed a family bubble.

vegansrock Wed 24-Jun-20 18:36:15

Great. We have our little one twice a week till the end of this week when he returns to nursery. Little ones don’t understand social distancing and if they haven’t been anywhere nor their parents the risk from them is low. It will be a different story once he is back at nursery and we will miss our walks in the park, hugs and kisses. Hopefully, the risks will ease gradually.

Nannapat1 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:34:03

My DGD hugs me most days that she sees me. I'm not going to turn her away

Knittynatter Thu 25-Jun-20 09:35:26

My DD is so anxious about hands because of the hand washing message so I’m not allowed to hold hands with my DGC - but I am allowed hugs and cuddles 💝
I don’t understand but I’m more than happy to go along with it 😁

Dorsetcupcake61 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:38:24


red1 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:38:40

nothing wrong with your reaction,extra normal in these times,shows how much they mean to us and how much we have missed them.

SillyNanny321 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:42:54

Think I have said before on here that at 75 something is going to make me 'pop my clogs' before long. I would rather go out slightly more sane after cuddling my GC last week than the last months climbing the walls from being alone & not able to see & hug them. Felt so much better after so fingers crossed we go on without the virus getting us. That goes for everyone on GN too. Stay safe but sane through GC cuddles.

recklessgran Thu 25-Jun-20 09:45:07

Ah @farview good for you, guilty here too but NOT ashamed. I've hugged DGD who is 2, played boing with her [i.e. let her jump on our bed] and also played snuggly-wuggly [wrapped her up in a faux fur throw] and tickly-wickly! To qualify we have been isolating and so has DD who is a single mum so we are now a bubble -but we were doing this before the bubbles were introduced.

Dillonsgranma Thu 25-Jun-20 09:47:31

How lovely for you. I miss my grandsons so badly 😢

Teetime Thu 25-Jun-20 09:47:32

Quite understandable my GS is getting a hug if he wants one of not when I can eventually get to see him.

EllanVannin Thu 25-Jun-20 09:48:28

It would have to be a heartless person who turned away from their GC. sad I'd have to hug mine if I saw them. My D still kisses me on the cheek, always has done and I know it's not going to stop.

I can't see the GGC though as they're all at school sad I'm willing myself to keep going for their sakes until I can see them again. Now and again I have a downer so have to shake myself.

NotSpaghetti Thu 25-Jun-20 09:50:32

It isn't actually wrong though farview if you live alone and this is your one family "bubble".

It does all seem rather random though I have to admit!

Juicylucy Thu 25-Jun-20 09:50:46

That melted my heart reading that.thanks

Mercedes65 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:50:51

I did exactly the same on grandson 6th birthday on Tuesday

timetogo2016 Thu 25-Jun-20 09:55:51

Well fairview you have made me very tearfull i cantotaly understand and will more than likely do the very same when i cuddle my grandchildren/son`s dil`s.

Starblaze Thu 25-Jun-20 09:56:08

Not hugging children that need hugging is like not sneezing.

You cannot stop a natural reflex 🙂

Sadgrandma Thu 25-Jun-20 10:06:52

We are going to start childminding our darling granddaughter tomorrow - she's 2 1\2. Before lockdown we used to look after her Mondays and Fridays but haven't had her since. We have seen her in the garden a few times and, yes, I'm afraid we have had hugs but only round the legs as she seems to know she shouldn't kiss yet. However, I find government new rules confusing as it said originally that single grandparents could visit and hug their grandchildren which was great but the new rules around expanded bubbles now say no hugging and must social distance! Also I can't see anywhere that Grandparents can now officially start childminding, or have I missed something? Can anyone explain that for me please?

GoldenAge Thu 25-Jun-20 10:07:57

Farview - don’t spoil your lovely experience by even thinking it was wrong - nothing to feel guilty about here - govt policy is inane - millions of people have been truly breaking lockdown advice for weeks so give yourself a break here - you’ve shown a measured and careful approach - Enjoy these little opportunities as they support your emotional health.

BGB31 Thu 25-Jun-20 10:10:05

I haven't seen my DGCs since mid March. I have been very strict about staying away from people because I have a number of health conditions (not shielding) .

I may be able to see them at the weekend but I just don't know what to do.

Should I cuddle them? Would I be able to refuse a hug.

I wonder if it would be better to not see them but then when will it be ok?

It's causing me a lot of anxiety and unhappiness at the moment and I can't decide what's best.

My daughter is leaving it up to me, but is also slightly concerned that the elder DGS might be more unhappy afterwards if we do meet.

Pantglas2 Thu 25-Jun-20 10:11:37

Last weekend I saw my dad for the first time in four months and we hugged - he said he didn’t care if he caught the virus and died, a life without hugs wasn’t worth living.

I saw my darling granddaughter a month ago and she asked if she could hug me (she’s 20) and I’d rather die than say no.

A shorter life well lived and loved is better than a long lonely one in my view.

Molypolly1 Thu 25-Jun-20 10:12:39

I’ve done it too. Given children are almost all not badly affected by Coronavirus, then I felt the risk was mine to take. If I were putting them at risk then certainly not, but I weighed up if I was prepared to take a small risk and did. It was glorious.