I have always recognised that the main demographic on Gransnet is well educated, middle Class, middle Income, middle England. I am none of these but nevertheless often find common ground with many in that demographic who share the same life challenges as I do or are simply kind and caring people.
I do not appreciate, on GN and in real life, 'advice' when meted out by someone whose circumstances are very different from my own, nor blanket assumptions that those of us who are not 'comfortably off' nor well educated have only ourselves to blame.
Usually it is not bad choices, or lack of hard work that lead to reduced circumstances, but rather life events, bad not good luck, divorce, illness, widowhood.
This thread started with some references to the show garden thread. I love to see beautiful gardens and appreciate the work that has gone into them. However, for me the purpose of a garden is to provide food, exercise, fresh air. I am so lucky that my cottage sits at the foot of the hills and nature provides me with an ever changing landscape (balm for the soul) covered in wild garlic, followed by bluebells, then broom, then autumn colours, I never have to buy firewood or logs the forest supplies all I need, also in autumn yields more brambles than I can cope with for bramble and apple jelly. Meanwhile my garden makes me self sufficient in organically grown from seed veggies and fruit from existing bushes/trees or those swapped with other gardeners. All totally VAT and tax free. I consider myself blessed and rich in what matters to me. I do spend a fair bit of money on wild bird seed but am rewarded with constant bird song and the company of some almost tame feathered friends.
I take no exception to GNs sharing (I don't see it as boasting) about what gives then pleasure. We are all different and should not be labelled and put into boxes.