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Baggs Wed 05-Aug-20 11:32:28

Is it polite to have your cleavage on display at a funeral?

sodapop Wed 05-Aug-20 19:18:44

But they were on TV, nuff said.

GagaJo Wed 05-Aug-20 22:10:21

LadyGracie

I’ve never had a cleavage, more a dual carriageway.

I've got a flippin' bypass these days.

Tmeadow2 Thu 06-Aug-20 09:58:35

Depends if you have any respect for the deceased.

NotSpaghetti Thu 06-Aug-20 10:03:13

I have been to a funeral this week.
"Please wear something colourful if you can bear it" came in the info.

(Nothing about my cleavage though)

ExaltedWombat Thu 06-Aug-20 10:05:55

Only if you're a woman.

Paperbackwriter Thu 06-Aug-20 10:10:43

I once went to a funeral where the wife of a well-known rock star was wearing the shortest possible black lace dress. I thought she looked terrific though from the remarks on here I'm assuming there'd be a lot of tutting from the Gransnet collective. Do we really need to pass judgement on what people are wearing at a funeral? Isn't it their own business? Maybe the outfit was a particular favourite of the deceased. Or maybe the boobs-in-question were!

Coconut Thu 06-Aug-20 10:10:54

not very appropriate !

polnan Thu 06-Aug-20 10:14:46

I have never understood the need to show cleavage, nay breasts as is done nowadays, at least in my day women with nice boobs wore jumpers to the neck,, sweater girls? I think was the description,

and yes, I wore mini skirts back in the day, but I get distracted from the news items when seeing all these youngsters with skirts up to their bums etc... strange how we like to flaunt it when we have it, and some flaunt it when they have too much!

is it jealousy I wonder..

Blossoming Thu 06-Aug-20 10:18:47

Lefty and Righty have never put in an appearance at a funeral.

Lin663 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:19:50

@Paperbackwriter I am totally with you....surely it would be more disrespectful to not attend the funeral at all...who cares what anyone else does, everyone needs to do what they feel is right, without judging anyone else!

Garfield1 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:21:11

Its not respectful to show your cleavage at this time.
Save it for the good weather sunshine

Athenia Thu 06-Aug-20 10:21:58

May I just thank everyone who has contributed to answering this question by Baggs! Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that a query on such a serious topic could release the torrent of witty and hilarious responses that have made me choke on my chocolate biscuit this morning! I suspect that the topic of women’s cleavage, and a new word coined too, boobage, is one that can never fail to arouse all kinds of emotion, partly because of their sexual connotations in our Western society, but also from the sheer practical necessity of dealing with them in the everyday.

Aitch1 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:23:09

NO

TrendyNannie6 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:27:49

No

Seajaye Thu 06-Aug-20 10:28:21

I think it depends on what the deceased's family feels appropriate.

There is a move away from sombre all black attire at some funerals. Some people regard the funeral as a celebration of the deceased life and ask attendees to dress in bright colourful clothes or in their 'normal' attire. Personally I would not display any cleavage at a funeral or any sombre event, but would not be bothered by others doing so if it had been made clear that attendees could wear what they liked.

There is a funny incident in the first episode of the BBC bittersweet comedy called 'Mum', where on the day of Mum's husband's funeral, the son's dippy girlfriend walks down the stairs dressed in a very very short dress in order to attend the funeral. Mum looks slightly surprised, which the girlfriend picks up on, only to say 'do you think I should wear knickers with this dress'.

Bbbface Thu 06-Aug-20 10:37:55

I would so love for you to have posted this on mumsnet and seen responses from a younger generation!!

netflixfan Thu 06-Aug-20 10:38:59

Ok if it's one of the last requests of the deceased hehe

Alexa Thu 06-Aug-20 10:44:36

I understood no theme in it, it was not much more than a medium for displaying cleavages and more .

GrannyGravy13 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:45:07

Baggs I have just seen footage from the steps of court after the trial of the murderers of the young policeman. Are you referring to the two ladies in black dresses by any chance?

Bbbface Thu 06-Aug-20 10:46:14

And as for being “disrespectful”

I find it more disrespectful the idea that someone (a woman in all likelihood) at a funeral judging another for what they’re wearing.

micky987 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:46:48

Slightly different but i was at the inauguration of my DH’s cousin’s bishophood. There were hundreds of priests and ‘higher ups’ in the cathedral and my brother-in-law’s partner turned up in a fuchsia pink floor length dress with a side split right up to the top of her thigh!! So inappropriate.

Bbbface Thu 06-Aug-20 10:48:02

And if a woman always dresses like that
And that is how her husband knew her and loved her style
Then why the heck should she change her style at her husband’s funeral for the sake of a judgemental person?

donna1964 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:48:46

There is a time & place for everything...not showing them off or having them out at a Funeral.

Ngaio1 Thu 06-Aug-20 10:48:51

No.

Alexa Thu 06-Aug-20 10:51:26

is there a theme in it at all?