I joined solely to post and get some feedback. I am 63, have had a rotten year, discovering last November my husband of 39 years was having an affair. To cut a very long story short he was sorry ( only to have been caught out i am sure ) ,but we are not well off and have no family at all, apart from 2 daughters aged 34 and 31.
So we decided to try and make it work -if we had sold our home at 280k, there is not enough to buy a flat each in the part of the UK we live in. Then came Covid and we were stuck together having been living apart. I work in the NHS and was working 7 days through April and May. I then decided we would have to sell as i discovered so much more that i could not accept his lies. +
But then my younger married daughter tell sus she is pregnant. She was so happy and apart from the normal worries this was some great news and gave me a new feeling of purpose as she sais she would my help and i was willing to give it.
However, she has been very sick, vomiting and relentless nausea. She cries all day - her husband works abroad and is not here to help, his parents live 300 miles away.
So i have been supporting her as best i can with food, care and just being around. But now she says she cannot cope and wants to terminate. She has meds from her GP which do not help , and she is signed off sick from work. She is very poorly.
I know this is her / their decision to make, but it has blindsided me. If i try to talk to her she gets very aggressive and angry , so i back off.
I feel so disappointed in her, i support a woman's right to decide , but this is dreadful in my view. I dont want a wedge to come between us , because i know deep down i am being selfish hoping for a grandchild to fill a void.
But just when i thought life couldnt get any worse for me , it did.
People wil be told she has had a miscarriage , and i will keep her secret, but i dont recognise her now - and that is what my husband did to me, he lived 2 lives.
My sadness isnt just for me - as she so wanted the baby , she cant cope and cant work...
Any words welcome as i cannot tell my friends - i am too ashamed,
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