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A lovely Lady who re-invented herself

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MawB2 Thu 17-Sept-20 21:19:07

I’m afraid these posts have really upset me and it is possible that I am not alone among those of us who have lost our life’s partner.
For every “Merry Widow” I should think there are hundreds for whom bereavement is like losing a part of themselves.
Good for your friend Judy but she is not me.

MissAdventure Thu 17-Sept-20 19:44:01

My aunt, for a short while after her husband died.
She painted every room in bright colours (he only liked magnolia)
She cut her hair short and wore pretty clips in it (he only liked long hair)

Sadly, she got ill and died, all too shortly after regaining a little life.

vampirequeen Thu 17-Sept-20 19:37:50

I know several older ladies who's lives started when they became widows. I decided not to wait that long and escaped instead of hoping for widowhood. I admire anyone who manages to escape or rebuild their lives. It's not easy to find out who you are when you've not been you for so long.

Judy54 Thu 17-Sept-20 17:57:43

A family member was married to a controlling man who decided she could not see family and friends without him being present, could not wear make up or nail varnish and chose clothes for her to wear. When her Husband died she started to see family and friends, went on holidays abroad, had her hair highlighted, had manicures and pedicures and delighted in choosing what she wished to wear. She is a totally changed woman enjoying life to the full. I have the greatest admiration for her. Do you know of anyone who did something similar?