Feeling crap, what makes you feel better

b1zzle

M0nica. I'd like to join you. Please leave some worms for me. In 2019 I lost everything that gave my life meaning. Now in 2020 Covid has taken the rest.

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P. S. Thank you to everyone for concern and good wishes.

Update

DDiL has been diagnosed with SCAD. A fairly rare kind of heart damage which prevents blood getting through. The treatment will be medication. It often happens to fit, healthy women, and is not predictable or preventable. So not stress-related thank goodness.

Try hard to think "it's going to be o.k" pensionpat - until she's been properly assessed. Positive vibes are needed. Sending loads your way. Stay strong !

So sorry to hear about your DDIL, pensionpat, and wishing her and your family all the best.

janeainsworth

maggie And gov.uk hasn't even been updated with our new restrictions, which were announced on Thursday
The Northumberland County council website has detailed information - including what is actually illegal as opposed to just advisory.
I don’t think you’re in Northumberland but it will be the same throughout the NE lockdown areas.

I’ll just say that some authorities are more on the ball than others, janea.

Pensionpat
Kindest vibes wending to your DDiL and to you of course.
The same good vibes go to all under stress in these troubled times.

Hope your DDiL is ok and you too Pensionpat
As you say nothing will help just yet but thinking of you

I have just been for a long walk and collected a big bag of conkers (I love them!) and that always makes me feel better.

I’ve just heard that DDiL (52) has been taken off in ambulance. She had chest pains. Of course she has no-one with her. She is a teacher so we’re hoping it’s stress from feeling vulnerable. But her son ( 17) has lobbed a metaphorical grenade into the family. I can’t talk about that yet. I’m hoping that he isn’t feeling responsible. I’m in suspended animation. Nothing can help just yet. But it’s good to put it on here.

MawB2

Annsixty and Ayse
My DD has more than once threatened to put her “6 going on 16 “ year old daughter on eBay - but no takers!

Actually I am going to be completely superficial now - and am pinning my hopes on a luxurious new shower gel from Molton Brown.
If that doesn’t work it will have to be shoes.
Sadly a new lipstick (former go-to) is no good as you can’t wear it with a face covering.

Well, you might feel like crap sometimes, MawB but you still have a GSOH ?. Your suggestions are sound - only small point I would take issue with is the no-lipstick. Take some time before presenting your cheery self to the world and use that lipstick on the outside of the mask? Why not.....it always worked for Superman and his pants!

Just reading some of the comments on here can cheer.

For me, and if you have a garden, being outside never fails. Monty Don, who has battled illness and too much depression, always says that it saved him. Not sure whether it’s the air, the peace, the nurturing or the distraction but it really works for me. Last year I lost my dear Mum, in another country. I couldn’t breathe. DH and I went out into the garden and piled cushions and rugs onto our couches, we poured wine and lit lamps and candles and watched the Swallows for hours, then the bats, then the shooting stars for hours .....but I felt better.

Yesterday, I went to local garden centre and bought spring bulbs to plant, I also bought some blue geraniums to cheer me up. I find gardening helpful when feeling down about virus and potential further lockdown

On the subject of retail therapy to lift the spirits, I came across this.
So if buying the new dress doesn’t “do the business” you clearly need the bag and shoes as well.

maggie And gov.uk hasn't even been updated with our new restrictions, which were announced on Thursday
The Northumberland County council website has detailed information - including what is actually illegal as opposed to just advisory.
I don’t think you’re in Northumberland but it will be the same throughout the NE lockdown areas.

Same here, Merlot. I am tallying up the glasses to make sure I don't go over the 14 units every week, honest! But I look forward to sitting down with my glass of red of an evening.

A lot of my friends have cut out, or cut down on, their intake since all this started. I'm suitably impressed, but have taken up daily exercise sessions instead.

Family, friends, and a garden bench to sit on with my book are what help. And wine.

I laugh (like a drain) whenever I see another one of those, Britain's elderly drinking themselves to death during the pandemic' articles.

Remember the days when a moment of shock, bad news, sadness or just being fed up was met with the offer of a good old cup of tea or 'something stronger?'

Every day feels like a 'something stronger' moment now. We're not drinking any more than usual but boy, do I appreciate that G&T or glass of

I tell myself its less harmful than cake, chocolate or biscuits - which we don't eat!

I'm usually a glass half full type, but our latest local lockdown has got to me a bit. A friend living on her own was very upset to hear on the local news that as of Tuesday we won't be able to meet anyone from outside our own household even in the park or other public space outdoors (this is totally incorrect). She won't be the only vulnerable person thrown by that. And gov.uk hasn't even been updated with our new restrictions, which were announced on Thursday. I feel I'm about to join the why can't they ever get it right? brigade.

Family, friends, and a garden bench to sit on with my book are what help. And wine.

Annsixty and Ayse
My DD has more than once threatened to put her “6 going on 16 “ year old daughter on eBay - but no takers!

Actually I am going to be completely superficial now - and am pinning my hopes on a luxurious new shower gel from Molton Brown.
If that doesn’t work it will have to be shoes.
Sadly a new lipstick (former go-to) is no good as you can’t wear it with a face covering.

ayse
At the present time I am not sure many people would be looking to buy kids online but I dare say there will be some fed up parents willing to sell one or two. ???

I'm very much a "glass half full" person really. I maintain the philosophy that there's always someone else worse off, I give myself a regular "kick in the backside" and buck my ideas up. Yes, the first lockdown was difficult, not hugging family, not seeing grandkids etc was so hard BUT we survived it!
As for the loneliness that goes with isolation, I'm a member of a Social Group who would meet up regularly prior to Covid so we do our best to maintain contact with our colleagues. We still produce our monthly magazine, we still email each other and regularly phone those who have no email facilities. As the winter approaches we are stepping up our regular contact with each other; shorter days and longer darker nights are going to be difficult for so many but we have a core Membership who are determined to do all we can to help.

FannyC, I’ve been looking at pinch embroidery as something new to try. It looks like rug hooking but on a much smaller scale. You can buy kids online and there are loads of videos on UTube. It looks fun and easier and quicker than traditional embroidery once you have the hang of it. It is an old form of embroidery that’s taken off relatively recently and it very popular in the USA.

If you want to give traditional embroidery a go then I recommend the A-Z of embroidery stitches. You would need a hoop to keep the fabric stretched.

For both types you can buy iron on transfers or draw your own patterns etc. if that appeals. I think now is the time to try something new.

Last time I was going through a really bad patch I was painting bottles with glass paints. Not to very high standard but it kept my mind occupied and distracted me from my troubles at least for a time. It’s occupational therapy by another name.

There are loads of ideas on Pinterest but the site is not super user friendly. There are also loads of groups on Facebook about upcycling and using household objects for new purposes. There are ways of using pine cones to make Xmas decorations. The list is endless.

Just have a go at something that spikes your interest.

I should take my own advice!

Callistemon, that's a cracking idea, thank you.
"Spending a huge amount of money on something that you won't do".
Blimey! That's spooky! Have we met?

Hey! It was my song Calli

Apologies , janeainsworth
I need to go to that High Street opticians.