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Whatever happened to my waist?

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Lexisgranny Tue 03-Nov-20 08:43:48

When I weighed myself this morning, my weight was exactly the same as when I was in my early twenties when I was regarded as slim. According to measurements taken at my annual medical, my weight is perfect for my height and my BMI is spot where has my waist gone?

I used to have one, I remember quite distinctly, I used to cinch it in with wide belts, but now my pj trousers seem to end up under my boobs at nighttime and skirts have a life of their own! Granted my arms are now on the skinny side, not by being beautifully toned, but more ancient looking if you know what I mean, definitely to be hidden under sleeves. Legs are ok, apart from the veins, but nothing that can’t be disguised. Hands once a good feature, now distorted by knobbly knuckles, but nails still good.

Really it’s the waist. What bit there is seems to have dropped like that of a flapper’s dress, the original site now home to a bit of a bulge. Other measurements remain the same. Unless I want to float round in smocks, shopping for clothes is a bit of a bind. I’m rapidly approaching 80 so maybe I should gracefully admit defeat, but I would have preferred to plod on with my waist intact..

Lucca Tue 03-Nov-20 08:47:47

You are not alone. Even my very slim friends with nice legs arms etc seem to have a midriff issue. The alternative to cinched in belts etc is not necessarily floating in smocks! Just sweaters have to be a bit longer, dresses less fitted etc.

Lexisgranny Tue 03-Nov-20 09:00:31

Thanks Lucca, I’m awash with tops and sweaters, not really a dress person, but maybe I should be. I live in leggings at home, but to get good fitting trousers is a problem, bigger waists seem to mean larger cut thighs, which sag on me. And I really don’t want to escort to elasticated waists.

J52 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:05:08

For many it’s a result of child birth! Our ribs and muscles are expanded to accommodate the growing bump. Some women are very lucky and snap back for ever.
As we age the muscles become more lax, even maintaining weight doesn’t remove the waistline flab.

Hetty58 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:05:53

Lexisgranny, it happens to the best of us, I'm afraid. Last time I measured myself (big mistake), I was utterly horrified to find my below-bust and waist measurements were exactly the same! I'm now a tube shape!

Hetty58 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:08:49

When you have no waist, but slim hips, start looking for men's trousers. They seem to fit me perfectly (great, tube shaped with a man's figure - never mind).

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:15:32

It so obvious!!

The flesh from your arms has moved to your waist.

Jane10 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:17:00

Don't diss elastic waist bands! They give you a lovely waist amidst the rolls of flab. Life is too short to feel constrained about the middle.

Lexisgranny Tue 03-Nov-20 09:19:22

0opsadaysy4 😁😁 do you think there is any chance it could find its way back again?

dragonfly46 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:22:22

I have always been tall and slim with little waist (not to be read as a little waist!) - quite boyish but now I seem to have a tyre around my waist. Legs are still good although arms less so.
I lost quite a bit of weight when I was on chemo last year but still the tyre remains.

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:22:27

Lexisnanny Nope. That ship has sailed!

GrannyLaine Tue 03-Nov-20 09:31:41

I don't think it's a result of pregnancy and childbirth so much as falling oestrogen levels post menopause that changes our shape. I too once had a small waist hmm

Hetty58 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:31:44

To me, it seems that the couple of handfuls of 'padding' I used to have, on my bust, has slipped down to take up permanent residence, below my belly button, but above my cesarean scar. Perhaps I should sleep hanging upside down - like a bat?

lemsip Tue 03-Nov-20 09:36:43

thanks for the chuckle it gave me, yes me too.

twinnytwin Tue 03-Nov-20 09:37:10

Thanks for the laughs this morning. It's when tube shape turns to apple shape that's the real problem. Luckily not quite there yet. I sew all my own clothes and tend to make dresses without a defined waist. Some folk advise to wear belts - Noooo way!

AH64 Tue 03-Nov-20 09:37:19

I want to know where my bottom’s gone. I seem to have a long back that disappears into my thighs. Again like others I’m considered slim but resort to baggy, long tops to cover the shapeless rear view.

Rosina Tue 03-Nov-20 09:40:50

I have always had a waist, however much my weight has fluctuated, and that waist has always been proportionately small for my overall size. Where it has gone now I have no idea; I didn't notice it going, but I now have a roll of...well, fat. No subtle way to put it, I have a roll of fat where I had a waist, but weight, food consumption, exercise - nothing has changed. Most depressing.

M0nica Tue 03-Nov-20 09:43:57

I think most of you will have noticed that as your waist has thickened your height has reduced. This is because the disks of cartilege between the vertibrae of your back shrink and become much thinner; that means your spine shrinks and the gap between hips and ribcage shrinks, so that means less space for the skin to go into the waist and out again, a bit like a vertical hammock.

I have been saved this problem, as I never had a waist to begin with as my hips and ribs were always very close together, the main problem has been that my rather short neck has got shorter and I sometimes feel I look like a tortoise with its head shrinking into its shell, I love polo neck and cowl necked sweaters, but recently have started looking like Kilroy in them, nose and eyes, peaking over a wall of knitwear.

Grandma70s Tue 03-Nov-20 09:45:58

It happened with menopause for me. Childbirth didn’t affect my waist, but now.....slim everywhere but my waist. Very annoying.

chattykathy Tue 03-Nov-20 09:59:22

Elasticated waists aren't what they used to be. All the high street stores sell them. They're usually called pull on trousers. I like the way they fit without having buttons and zips spoiling the smooth look.

Liz46 Tue 03-Nov-20 10:07:05

I have a fat tummy but am not too worried. A couple of years ago I was ill with a lung problem and the weight dropped off me. That was the only advantage of my illness - I had a lovely flat tummy!

Thanks to some very clever doctors I am ok at the moment but a bit flabby.

Bazwheat Tue 03-Nov-20 10:10:52

Lucky me ! Always fairly slim. Now well into my seventies, too late to change ?

Pantglas2 Tue 03-Nov-20 10:11:45

My proportions haven’t changed - I still have a waist albeit larger, along with larger boobs and hips! The hourglass just gets bigger as I get older!

Patticake123 Tue 03-Nov-20 10:12:18

Not sure where your waist has gone but if you find it,could you please ask them to have a look for mine? Disappeared, no idea where or when but I’d welcome it home if found.

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