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Keeping things for best, I’ve turned into my mother! ?

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Marydoll Mon 16-Nov-20 19:04:29

When were clearing out my mum’s house after she died, we found lots of unworn clothes, still in bags, which had been given as gifts. Yet she would insist on wearing the shabbiest of clothes.

Today, I was looking for a missing Christmas present and realised that I had turned into my mum, by virtue of keeping things for best.

My stash included:
*One Jo Malone Red Roses bath oil,
*Four L’Occitane rose scented hand creams,
*Six bars of Italian rose scented soap, stashed by me in DH's hand luggage as I was over the weight limit, which resulted in him being taken away at Fumicino Airport, by customs officers wearing guns, who thought he was smuggling drugs blush
This is not the first time he has been searched because of me, a Nativity scene comes to mind, which started playing "Silent Night" one September day in the security area!
*Four aprons with an Italian theme, picked up in Rome. I am a messy baker and need to wipe my hands on something, rather than my clothes.
My neighbours don't call me call me the Apron Queen for nothing. wink

This is only a small selection, but I have decided that due to my failing health, I'm going to start using them, as my children will probably find them unused when I die and they hate anything rose scented.

I have come to the conclusion that life is too short to keep things for best, so tonight I will soak in a rose scented bath and tomorrow my very tatty aprons are going in the bin!

Do any of you Gransnetters have a stash, which you are keeping for best?

I did find the missing gift, in the very place that I previously looked at least three times. I fear I have lost the plot. wink

Happysexagenarian Wed 18-Nov-20 16:02:00

My Mum always kept a few clothes for best, and a black coat for funerals which she never wore at any other time. I do keep a couple of outfits and jackets for 'smart' occasions, mainly because I'm a very casual dresser (scruffy even?) and my everyday jeans & t-shirts just wouldn't cut the mustard at a wedding or evening out. But in general I love wearing new stuff I've bought straight away. Having said that I do have an Eternal Beau teaset (a new home gift 40 years ago) which we've never used but it's too pretty to part with.

Lizbethann55 Wed 18-Nov-20 17:19:18

My mum wasn't too bad but both my in laws were dreadful. And I think my DH is turning into them. Today I have washed his very scruffy jeans and he is not getting them back as he has two pairs of brand new jeans in his wardrobe. He loves checked shirts, but only wears the same two or three. His waxed Barbour jacket is a disgrace. Last year I bought him a brand new one for his birthday (in December). It still has its tags on. He plays the ukulele and has always wanted a banjolele so guess what he got for Christmas last year? Cost me days and days of research and a fortune to buy. Has he ever played it? Has he thump!!! I despair???‍♀️?‍♀️

Lizbethann55 Wed 18-Nov-20 17:21:54

Unwanted soaps, handcreams etc make brilliant "top of the wardrobe" presents. Ready wrapped but obviously unlabelled, they are great for when you receive presents from unexpected sources, you can smile and say " I will just get yours, it's upstairs"!

Lynnenana Wed 18-Nov-20 20:38:48

What a fantastic post! You have given me food for thought! We are moving so have been sorting stuff. I am going to wear this beautiful mohair long black cardigan I have worn twice in over 40years as I loved it sooo much! It’s coming out - I promise I will enjoy every moment of it now. Thank you x

MissAdventure Wed 18-Nov-20 20:48:34

smile
You'll feel like a star.

Callistemon Wed 18-Nov-20 20:54:58

threexnanny

I don't have too much of a problem wearing / using something new straight away, but I do have a problem parting with the old items which the new were meant to replace!

I've decided to have a ruthless clearout.

What's the point of keeping things when you put them on, think 'No' and put them back in the wardrobe?

Joesoap Wed 18-Nov-20 21:51:02

I have a lovely bed cover which was a Wedding present for my parents eighty years ago ,it is a heavy silk embroidered huge bedspread,it is now a bedspread on our bed in Cumbria which we have as a holiday home, it certainly saves dust on the bed, when not in use and looks decorative, but because its so heavy I couldnt use it every day, but I am glad it is useful now. My parents would be proud of me.

Flakesdayout Fri 20-Nov-20 12:31:32

When I cleared my mums home I found similar things, still in bags with labels on, boxes of shoes never worn and 'best' clothes, yet she would sit in old track suit bottoms and an old cardigan with the elbows darned which was my Dads and he had died some 15 years before.(sentimental I know) She had some lovely thick woollen cardigans in her wardrobe. I am the same though. I have things for 'best' and save gifts as I like them and do not want to use them. I have a Jo Malone candle which is lovely but I do not burn it, its too nice. I have a L'Occitane gift set - too nice to use and so it goes on. I really must get a grip and start using the nice things.

MissAdventure Fri 20-Nov-20 12:35:27

You never know, once you start actually using these things, you might discover they're not all that great after all. smile