Night Owls of Gransnet

BBbevan X posts. How are you?
I am feeling a bit like trying to go to bed, I havent made it yet. But I can hear my H snoring away, and dont want to disturb him, he wakes easily!

Just got into bed with a dose of red wine had a busy day in the garden hoping for a sleep goodnight x

Yes wine can help Redhead56 hope you have a good night.

I’m awake now. .-I’ve just finished one book so I’m hoping for something soporific to help me doze off again. Any suggestions?

Hello Night Owls. After sleeping for 9 hours last night I am predictably back to not sleeping. I've given up trying to find ways to fall asleep -I'll fall asleep when my mind and body decide to let me. But if anyone does come up with a foolproof cure for insomnia I'd love to hear it. But then again, if you've found the cure you won't be reading this! Hey ho.

I have been reading threads and after the latest post on a thread I started about the COVID-19 vaccine I feel I may never get to sleep again.

Well, I can’t sleep, I am feeling distraught. My OH had made it quite clear he doesn’t want anyone to come for Christmas. Daughter told me yesterday she has bought her train ticket. She is in a shared house since splitting with her partner of 7 years, Son, his partner and 4-year old granddaughter had been invited a while ago. OH just isn’t happy, in fact he’s terrified and said he would never forgive me if he developed coronavirus. Obviously I would have to tell them all if they are uninvited. One thing I said I would do is drive to London with all their presents. He wouldn’t have to come. I can’t sleep and I’m not eating much either. I am just so sad.

Annsixty sometimes it's best not to know too much! Particularly in the wee sma' hours.

That's a horrid dilemma Lady. Perhaps they could isolate for a couple of weeks beforehand? Although that's probably not possible because of work and school. I feel sorry for your DH's anxiety too which must be difficult for you both.

Lying awake as usual - not as cold tonight as last. My feet were cold and still cold when I woke up.
Unfortunately DH’s treatment couldn’t go ahead as his bloods weren’t right. Hopefully, he should pick up during the week, so same place, same time next Tuesday. He’s heartily sick of being ill now and says all this is just putting off the inevitable. Privately, I agree, but he needs to keep going because the NHS has done so much, at huge expense for him.
I will meet a friend tomorrow and we can have a good moan.
Lights out now. X

Taichinan

That's a horrid dilemma Lady. Perhaps they could isolate for a couple of weeks beforehand? Although that's probably not possible because of work and school. I feel sorry for your DH's anxiety too which must be difficult for you both.

You’re right. Granddaughter is at school until the 18 December and son works in Whitehall. My daughter offered to have a COVID test but OH reckons she could catch it on the train! He is actually quite low at the moment. He is awaiting a hip replacement and is in constant pain. He also has twitching leg syndrome and is on strong tablets. Not a happy bunny, or any other sort of animal,

So sorry to read of everyone's distress and worries. I am off to bed now in the hope that I will sleep as usual.

Sorry to hear about your DH Georgesgran. Sending you a hug, and so glad you have a good friend you can unload to.

And oh dear Lady, your poor DH. Old age is so cruel when it gets going. I can't think of anything comforting to say, but sending you a hug too.

Lady, I feel bad for you, but understand your husband's feelings. I know we all have varying amounts of fear; your husband's fear and stress is obviously higher than yours.

We are not having plans for Christmas either, but 2 of 3 of our grown children are in the same town. I miss them and the grandchildren terribly, but we are under strict orders here for no visiting or meetings. We could arrange an outdoor visit, perhaps you could do the same? Or would your DH be ok with you going down for a visit the week before Christmas and isolating yourself in your house when you return?

To add to prior message, I know some of us with sleep issues will toss and turn with our worries big or small.

Try to distract yourself; do some yoga breathing exercises, get up and read for a little while, or listen to soft music or podcast (with earphones if necessary not to bother DH). Problems can be better solved in the morning.

Hello everyone!
I've hardly read any of the posts on here, so I feel like a stranger on my own thread! (Not that it is mine - but you know what I mean).

Since I've been taking Amitriptyline I'm sleeping much better.

Monday was a horrible day. MrC had a funny turn - he's recently been in hospital with Covid and pneumonia - he went white and was shaking and his oxygen was ridiculously low.
They took him to hospital again, but thankfully he was booted out again once his oxygen was normal. It appears is was because the daft bigger went out to the shed in the cold and it was a shock to his lungs.

Right, I'm going to have a proper read now.
Best wishes to you all. I'm so glad that this thread has bought a crumb of comfort to us reluctant night owls, as we fret our way through the early hours!

Wide awake as usual. I am glad you are finding your medication helpful Fanny. I can imagine how you are feeling Lady. It is this sort of difficult issue that keeps us awake at night. You obviously want to keep the peace and do the right thing as well.You may find your family understand your dilemma and would be willing to postpone their visits until it is safer but the difficulty is telling them ,I know.

well it's 3.40 am and I am still awake! Just can't switch my brain off! Had alka seltzer as it sometimes helps, then remembered the night owls thread so thought I'd have a look - although computer screens not meant to be condusive to sleep! Worrying about my future I think as living in OH's house (been together 10 yrs - got married in Sept) but he is on dialysis and whilst I have volunteered to donate a kidney they aren't doing anything about it due to covid and he is not well! If anything happens to him what happens to me? He says I can live in house as long as I want but it's an hour away from my grandchildren and my friends (his are in this village) and only reason I moved here was to be with him. I thought we'd buy somewhere together but he persuaded me to stay here as we couldnt find anywhere we both liked, saying I could extend etc to make it better (and he seemed reluctant to move away). I would never have chosen this house and he lived here with his ex-wife and I think he is being very unfair to me expecting me to live here. I feel very financially vulnerable. (I have half proceeds from my house but as my money is in banks, not property it's not kept up with property prices and is not enough to buy a reasonable house.
Sorry this is jumbled - am tired - just not able to sleep!

That is a horrible dilemma Lady.
Sending you a hug too.
Just remember, it is only this year.
Next year will be better, even by late Spring.

George'sgran - if you can't moan here, where can you? And you are not moaning, we all need to express these things.

Redhead - do you know if your sensitivity to medication is connected to your colouring? I've heard that it is 'a thing'.

Gosh janipans, you've got a lot on your plate.
I hate that 'brain won't switch off' thing. Especially when you are thinking about work matters.
That's one thing that I don't have to worry about at the moment.

Do you remember in old cartoons, they used to show a person's false teeth in a glass on the bedside table?
I always think that it would be lovely to do a similar thing with one's brain.

Prior to my days of heavy medication, I found that Bach Night Remedy helped.

Hello fellow insomniacs I have been awake since before 2 and been listening to world service as usual but not been able to get back to sleep. No reason that I can work out. Couldn’t write before as my eyes felt full of grit but I can see clearly now....
Awful isn’t it. 2 hours sleep ? and my Fitbit days I have had a Fair night. Ha!

Fitbit says ....typo

Took the Bach remedy already. Trying not to revert to the sleeping tablets I'm only supposed to take "when desperate" as not actually desperate - yet!
Usually doing the Daily mail puzzles on OH's i-pad helps but all done and still wide awake.
Good to know I'm not the only one though! (I think!)
I want to be a cat in the next world - no problems sleeping for them! Night all! sleep tight .... or just sleep? Going to try again!
(Actually, I feel better just for writing everything down!)

Sending you all hugs. Lady I hope it will all seem easier in the morning.
People suffering great pain are often irrational.
I too am lying wide awake.