Does everyone have a cleaner except me?

Luckylegs.
What a BL===y cheek your daughter has. If she is so concerned about what she sees as a house needing a clean what is stopping her from being a good daughter and doing it for you ?Only get a cleaner because you feel the need not what DD dictates.

No, I don't have a cleaner as in my small house we'd be in each other's way which would be awkward. I'm able to do the job myself though I do so unwillingly, keeping the house reasonably clean, especially the bits which matter such as the kitchen and bathroom.

The sitting room is presentable but where I'm sitting now in my sewing/computer room is a bit of a tip, I'm afraid.

Load of older people have cleaners and we'll deserved after years of working. However I would have to take my daughter to task about the way she speaks to people if it were me.. I would not put up with the disrespect.

I had a cleaner when we lived abroad. I was pregnant and working full time. She was a godsend. She loved cleaning and did everything, even the oven. I would love a cleaner now as I have a big house but hubs thinks I should just do it myself.

I have had a cleaner for the past 10years or so, as I'm physically unable to do it myself, and l live in a fairly large house. I started off employing a team of ladies who worked for the MerryMaids chain, they worked in pairs and often it would be a different pair that would turn up to do my fortnightly clean. This went on for a couple of years until the local franchise branch closed down. I then had a couple of local self employed cleaners, the first one stole an expensive designer cardigan from my Daughters bedroom, it was very distinctive, and l spotted her wearing it one day down at our local hospital. Needless to say she never worked for me again after that. Her replacement was a very nice girl but was more into tea and chatting than actually doing the task in hand. She ten started turning up with her toddler son in tow, needless to say he was making more mess than his mum was cleaning up! My daughter now cleans for me once a week, and does any other little chores that need doing too. Her family have grown up now, so shes got plenty of time to do it whilst her partner is out at work. I pay her a decent living rate, which helps buy her a few extras as a reward for helping me, she even cut my hair for me last week!

Why do we women have such a hang up about having a cleaner !! We think nothing of sending a car to be serviced so why not a house ?? We do enough without doing all that cleaning nonsense and if you truly have nothing better to occupy your hours then find a new pastime - or go and clean a friend's house as an extra gift !!

My children and other relatives all have cleaners. OH said we didn’t need one as he would take care of it, then announced he doesn’t do dusting!

Once life is back to normal I will be looking for someone to help out, probably on a monthly basis.

I have one but I am unable to do it myself. Having someone in to do a once over blitz might be an idea Luckylegs I once treated my son to one when his flat had got messy. Cost a bit but a good idea.

I last had a regular cleaner when I worked long days, sometimes 12 hours for 3 consecutive days was normal. I paid a nice Lithuanian lady for 3 hours on a Friday, which meant it was bliss when I got home from work.

Luckylegs
With respect your daughter sounds like a spoilt, entitled brat who takes advantage of you and then criticised you. She needs a good talking to but I know from personal experience how difficult this can be.

My SIL would never feel that her house was clean enough if someone else did it. She also uses bleach indiscriminately so we have to step away from the worktops.

I don't like housework and cleaning but I've never had a cleaner. Though when I was working I paid someone to do my ironing. With three sons there were dozens of shirts so that was a big help. Since we moved to our present house, which is in a very dusty rural location, I'm sometimes tempted to consider having an occasional cleaner for the times when the family come to stay, I now find changing five beds and cleaning bedrooms hard work. But DH is very security conscious and I'm not sure he'd like having a stranger roaming the house! But I'd really like to have my ovens professionally cleaned, it's a job I hate as they're so difficult to take apart. Maybe, one day.....

Just to say that cleaners are allowed to work in Tier 3

I don’t have a cleaner, we’re both 70+ but for the first time ever we have booked a company to clean all our carpets on Jan4th. I’m also considering getting a company to give my oven a birthday clean!

Be a waste of time with my husband his the messiest person I've ever met, he reckons he learnt to take care of himself in the navy ! Yes right his only talent is undoing what others do!
Can't even wash a cup clean.
It's Horrible when you can't have your home as you'd like.
Perhaps I will get a cleaner and remove him !!

I had a cleaner some years ago when my younger son was a baby. It was wonderful. I loved coming back to a clean, fresh house. Worth every penny. I had a lady to do my ironing before lockdown and have really missed her. If you can afford it, go for it.

I’ve never had a cleaner or would have one unless I was too infirm to clean. I look at it as a fitness workout. However, I have slowed down and things aren’t as pristine as they used to be. The bathroom floor has non slip dimpled tiles and they need scrubbing with a bristle scrubbing brush every so often. (Makes me ache) So I’m getting a new (hopefully easy clean ) floor.
I’ve started following a few cleaning Instagram accounts ie Mrs Hinch and have picked up a few tips that make cleaning easier. Eg. Floor ‘mop’ that has a removable rectangle pad and spray. So much easier than a squirrel.
No wet floor and pop pad in the washing machine and done.
That should be squeegee not squirrel but I left it for your amusement. Autocorrect.
I know a few mothers who go into their daughters houses and tidy up and comment on the cleanliness but not the other way around! A bit cheeky either way I think. If it was my daughter I’d laugh, call her a cheeky mare and say who do you think you are, Mrs Hinch!

I don’t want anyone to think my house is mucky, filthy or anything like that. I have cupboards bursting at the seams and a very careless husband who opens cupboards with dirty hands so there are marks on the doors, that’s all! Of course, it’s all covered in dust now and a real tip but that will be sorted as soon as I can do it.

My daughter was unnecessarily blunt with me as she is a bit OCD about her cupboard doors etc. I will have words with her when I get the chance but I’m easily upset and prone to tears so try to avoid confrontation if possible. I agree that it would be lovely to have a cleaner but I keep delaying the decision for all the reasons you’ve detailed above - do I want someone nosying around, shouldn’t I keep moving as much as I can, I’d have to have someone ‘nice’ and trustworthy and preferably recommended and I’d have to go out as I couldn’t bear to sit in the house whilst someone was cleaning for me. I was shocked when I found out our son has a cleaner and began to think it was very common but you’ve put my mind at rest about that.

I will definitely need the lounge carpet cleaning after all the wet and mud traipsing in as it has been very wet and muddy here for weeks. I won’t get all this done before Christmas so I’m going to make enquiries about a blitz being done as soon as I can arrange it all. Thanks for your replies.

What a great idea NanKate, going to try that out after Christmas

I have a cleaner fortnightly. Becaue of covid you have to keep socially distaced which means that you must be in another room. So do not worry you could use your ipad. If you must clean, you could find a sedentaqry job to do whilst she is with you such as polishing the brass or silver or whatever. Of perhaps doing your mending or ironing.

I got my cleaner from Maid2Clean.
www.maid2clean.co.uk/

I don't know anyone who does. Your daughter needs to mind her own business.

eazybee

I don't have a cleaner; gave her up when I retired.
Tell your daughter to keep her opinions to herself.

Or ask her if she's offering to pay for one?

I don't have, nor do I want a cleaner.

I have a friend (who is a bit Mrs Bucket who has a cleaner). She also cleans at the local care home and gossips about things that go on in the home (not bad things, but slightly indescrete) so no doubt she gossips about my friend also. I have a another friend who is a resident at this care home and I have told her to be careful about what she tells the lady.

With all the work you are doing in the house, Luckylegs, it's no surprise that things are not pristine. Hold your ground, and wait until the work is done, then you can clean it as you want it to be.

I don't have a cleaner now as I don't feel we need one, just the two of us. However, I did have a weekly cleaner when we lived abroad and the DC were little, also I was working part time so it worked quite well.
Now I clean upstairs one week then downstairs another day/week, have just done downstairs this morning and it takes no time, not a big deal.
My DIL has 2 cleaners who work together doing a 3 hrs clean, so they work for one and half hours. They seem to do a good job, and the charge is £40 which is normal here, I think. They do have a big clear up of toys and all sorts before they come!

No l don't have one and I think cleaning keeps me active I would rather be doing something than sitting around doing nothing and anyway they do not clean like you do yourself .

I have had several cleaners ..one who dropped a steam iron on a parquet floor, another who left Persian rugs out in the rain, broke ornaments and put them straight in the bin without even telling me, another who knocked over and broke a big bottle of perfume ....none of them offered to replace or apologized ...in the end I gave up and do everything myself as and when I can. If my daughter made such comments I would hand her the cleaning stuff ....