Gransnet forums


Does everyone have a cleaner except me?

(208 Posts)
Luckylegs Mon 14-Dec-20 14:37:43

My daughter is trying to get me to have a cleaner as she says my kitchen and bathrooms aren’t kept clean enough! I’m struggling at the moment as we are doing up and decorating the conservatory and dining room (all the same room) including sanding the wooden floor and painting it plus the hall prior to having new carpet. Consequently, every single room is stuffed to the gills with furniture, boxes, pictures, mirrors etc.

I’d love a cleaner (never ever had one) but I’m here most days and would be embarrassed to have someone cleaning whilst I’m doing something else or sitting on my iPad! It’s impossible just now as we’re in such a mess, we’re in tier 3 so presumably can’t have anyone in and I’d probably wait until after Christmas but I just wondered if most people have a cleaner?

PS I’m dealing with my daughter.

Calendargirl Mon 14-Dec-20 14:40:19

In answer to your question, no, I don’t have a cleaner and neither do lots of people.

Wheniwasyourage Mon 14-Dec-20 14:40:35

I don't have one, although sometimes I would be tempted (not just now, obviously) to have someone to blitz-clean the place. I've had one in the past, and it is awkward both keeping out of her way and cleaning the place yourself before she arrives!

Kate1949 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:41:24

I've never had a cleaner and never would. I would hate someone else doing my cleaning. We only have a small house and we manage quite well. I'm not really into cleaning. The house is clean enough.

eazybee Mon 14-Dec-20 14:43:50

I don't have a cleaner; gave her up when I retired.
Tell your daughter to keep her opinions to herself.

Loislovesstewie Mon 14-Dec-20 14:44:27

No, because I would have to clean before the cleaner arrived!

Situpstraight2 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:49:14

Mine left when I retired, but I never actually wanted one, I just wanted more time to be able to do it myself.

But no, whilst I’m able to do it all myself I will.

3nanny6 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:49:45

I am the same as Loislovesstewie I would clean up and tidy before the cleaner came so the house was presentable.

ginny Mon 14-Dec-20 14:50:33

I don’t have a cleaner, never have. I won’t have one until I am unable or unfit enough to need one. While I am able and have the time , keeping clean and tidy ( enough) when there are just two of us is not a problem.

silverlining48 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:53:55

I have never had a cleaner. A lot of people do though, many of my dd friends have had cleaners for years... and she would love one but cant afford it.
I dislike housework so would really quite like one but i am retired and feel we should do this ourselves.
One day maybe, but for you luckylegs you are in the midst of decorating etc so of course your house is in a bit of state.

GillT57 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:55:09

I don't have one, but I am tempted to get one in after Christmas to give the place a good blitz, which I can then maintain. I manage ok, but I would love someone in to do things like clean the skirting boards, the edges of the carpets, the frames of the kitchen cupboard doors etc.

Whitewavemark2 Mon 14-Dec-20 14:58:44

I stopped the cleaner when I retired, as I thought I needed the activity it gave me and I quite like piddling around doing housework.

However if I live to a great age, I will probably employ another one.

Witzend Mon 14-Dec-20 15:01:28

Someone I used to see at work told me about a Christmas present she once had. Guests were coming to stay for Christmas, she was working full time, and the whole house needed a really good blitz.

He husband paid for a whole team to come in and do absolutely everything - oven, shampooing carpets, cleaning the windows, kitchen cupboards inside and out, you name it.
She said it was the best present she’d ever had!

Puzzler61 Mon 14-Dec-20 15:05:23

I’ve never had one but have been being nagged by my DS, DD1 and my goddaughter who all have regular cleaning ladies.
When we lived in Germany we were in a row of 4 houses. The German family had a cleaner, as did the Swedish family and the American family. We, the English family didn’t.
I booked an oven cleaning company once, and then felt guilty, cleaned the cooker myself and cancelled the appointment.
It’s just something I’ve always done, to the best standard I can manage.

Willow73 Mon 14-Dec-20 15:11:07

Ask your daughter if she would like to do it for you? You could pay her less than a cleaner and it would stop her saying its not clean. My bet is she won't mention it again!

Septimia Mon 14-Dec-20 15:12:11

Housework isn't my favourite occupation - I'd rather read a book! The cleaning gets done when either a) things are too dirty to ignore any longer or b) people are coming to stay.

Even so, I'm not convinced that a cleaner would necessarily do things to my standard (when I do clean). Consequently I wouldn't bother with one.

Our neighbour has cleaners as she isn't in the house all the year, having to live elsewhere part of the time. The cleaners arrive, spend about 20 minutes in the house and disappear again. DH goes in to check the post and plants and can't see what they've done, apart from leaving doors open or closed and messing up the post system. Waste of money.

aggie Mon 14-Dec-20 15:12:52

I had a lovely Latvian cleaning lady coming weekly for two hours , but she stopped during the first lockdown, I really miss her , she was so cheerfully and did more in two hours than I could do in a week !
I just moved from room to room as she whizzed around

GagaJo Mon 14-Dec-20 15:13:17

I don't have one but would love one. I'd even work a few extra hours a week to pay for one. Flippin' hate housework.

NotSpaghetti Mon 14-Dec-20 15:17:44

I flippin hate it too GagaJo except hanging out laundry which I love! smile

Luckylegs Mon 14-Dec-20 15:19:21

Thanks for replies. Unfortunately our daughter works full time and wouldn’t be able to do it for me. She wanted to pay me to clean for her at one time! She hasn’t really got anything to crow about as she has a cleaner, I do her washing and ironing, we pick her daughter up from school every day and they eat here at least three nights a week. She is fanatical about kitchen cupboards I admit whereas I’m not.

She gave me a real telling off last night, about decluttering, throwing stuff out, not buying as much stuff and the state of half the cupboard doors as I did half of them a few weeks ago. For my own good, of course. I’m fuming and have been stewing all night about it.

lemongrove Mon 14-Dec-20 15:20:45

Being retired and reasonably healthy and active I shall keep on with all cleaning and gardening until....I can’t do it.
The only thing ( luxury) I have is to have the oven professionally cleaned.

Jane43 Mon 14-Dec-20 15:21:53

I’ve never had a cleaner either, even when I worked full time. I think I would be like 3nanny6 and clean before they arrived. I do like the idea of a one-off deep clean though but it would depend on the company. A friend of mine was in poor health, couldn’t manage the heavy cleaning jobs and didn’t want to burden her daughter with the job so she booked a cleaning company and told them she wanted them to deep clean the whole house. She was really disappointed because they rushed the job and were only there an hour.

We just started using a hand wash cleaning service for the car and having seen the thorough job they do I will never clean our car again. We are also considering using an oven cleaning service though and somebody to clean the block paved drive, jobs we both hate doing.

lemongrove Mon 14-Dec-20 15:22:46

Luckylegs I wonder how your DD would react if you gave her a lecture on how wrong things are in her own house?
Not well, is my guess.

Luckylegs Mon 14-Dec-20 15:24:22

A older friend of mine has a cleaner but she went through her cupboards and threw away everything that was out of date leaving her with hardly any food in! That puts me off plus having to clean up before she comes of course.

NanKate Mon 14-Dec-20 15:25:23

We decided about a year back that we needed an occasional cleaner as it was just too much for the two of us. She comes every 4 - 5 weeks for 3 hours. We move most of the ornaments and bathroom paraphernalia before she comes, to make it easier for her.

We leave as soon as she arrives and go off to a pleasant riverside town nearby for coffee and cake. We visit their Waitrose and stock up, as well as looking around the charity shops. I always take my Kindle to read in the car or cafe if we finish our shopping early.

We really look forward to our morning out together. We come back to a pristine house. It is worth every penny and has stopped us feeling stressed about the state of things.

She also brings all her own cleaning materials.

It costs £12.50 an hour which is about the going rate in this part of the south east.

Go for it Luckylegs 👍.