Does everyone have a cleaner except me?

I had one about 25 or more years ago. I was working full-time, could afford it, so thought ‘Why not?’ I resented spending all day on the Saturday cleaning. The one I chose used to go into a close neighbour. It was great for the first couple of weeks, but I soon realised that all she seemed to have done was straighten things up rather than do any actual cleaning. I only had her for a few weeks and have never had one since. I couldn’t run to one now anyway!

Well done NanKate! I have a cleaner! I worked full time and looking after parents...a godsend. Kept her on when parents died and appreciate all she does. 2 hours a week, ironing, floors, change beds, vacuum, anything really. Leaves me time to do what I want and look after DH. She doesn't do everything every week but i leave a list, sometimes i feel i ought to do a bit of housework but not often!

I let my cleaner go when I stopped working, bad decision, but they are like gold dust in this area, so now I'm stuck doing those little jobs I loath.

Yes, it's me!!

I've always had one.

When is the exact moment when our children become our mothers, telling us what to do?

I've had cleaners in the past. Usually they give up on me in despair.

Never had a cleaner nor wanted one. Next time your daughter complains that your bathroom and kitchen don't comply with her high standards, hand her the cleaning things.

I broke my leg and other foot and was unable to be weight-bearing - I didn't venture into the kitchen for over six weeks, my husband being the domestic goddess.

A few weeks into this period our daughters came over for afternoon tea which I thought would be simple for my husband to arrange.

To my horror, my girls came in to me and bitterly complained about the sticky kitchen cupboard handles! I was so surprised that I could barely respond. The poor man had had enough to contend with apart from cleaning door handles (but yes, when I could get to them, they were sticky!).

So, I repeat... when is the exact moment that our children become our parents? I hear this situation over and over again but the exact moment this happens seems a mystery!

NO, No and No.

I think your daughter needs a good talking to.

You don’t sound as if you need a cleaner . Maybe just a bit more organisation.

The reason suggested a different name was because the name 'cleaner' reminds me of something like a bottle of Domestos.

No I have never had a cleaner and neither would I whilst I am capable of doing it. Maybe if your daughter is so concerned, she might like to help you!

Once a year I get someone in to deep clean the kitchen, two bathrooms and the carpets.

When I was working full time I had a cleaner, my mum! It gave her extra funds and I knew the job was being done properly plus I could trust her implicitly. When I gave up she retired!
Now I do it all but other half hoovers as we are on 3 floors. Why don’t you get somebody in to give your home a good deep clean when your projects are completed? Then you can decide if you want/ need a cleaner at all.

As your in the middle of DIY, I seriously wouldn't bother, quick wipe over and a run round with the vacuum now and again. When you've finished the DIY and got your new carpet down, then have a blitz.

I resent my daughters telling me off.. and they do try. I just remind them, its my home, it didn't do them any harm when they were living with me, and how would they like it if I went to their homes and critised their house keeping...

I have a cleaner comes every fortnight It’s wonderful and a great help.She starts with the sitting room,then I sit in there with a coffee .Highly recommend it

You are allowed a cleaner to come into your house. I have one......it’s great

I'd have to clean before the cleaner came so no point. I used to clean for a man years ago and he gave me more and more jobs to do as time went by. It got it was impossible to get everything done in the hour he paid me for. When his daughter used to come and stay she treated me like her maid. It was hard work at times and for little money so I had to leave.

I have had a cleaner for years. My oldest child is disabled and it made such a difference to our lives. I work long, irregular hours and pre-Covid my pupils all came to my house and will again when l have been vaccinated (l teach online at present). She enjoys cleaning and l appreciate the fruits of her labour. It means that l just have to do the daily chores. She is worth her weight in gold.

I have cleaners come every fortnight. I have to live in a house with hair shedding dogs so this is, to me, a necessity I will hang onto for as long as I can

I have a cleaning business which I’ve had for over 25 years. Some of clients were working when I started to clean for them and now some of them have retired but I still clean every week for them. I think clients get very used to me cleaning every week and really don’t want to go back to doing it if they are happy with me doing it.
Not everyone likes cleaning and clients love the fact that I do the skirting boards, door frames etc on a weekly basis.
However I probably won’t like a cleaner to do my housework. Lol.

I had a cleaner from an agency until lockdown started in March and I haven't had one since. It's only a small house and there's no really good reason why I shouldn't clean it myself - except my own idleness and ineptitude in domestic matters!

What dies your daughter expect you are decorating? Ask her if she is offering? Haha.tell its your home and you can do as you like

I’ve never had a cleaner and if one of my daughters suggested I wasn’t keeping things clean enough I’d tell her to clean it for me. What a cheeky madam.

We have a cleaner, and this one is a godsend and a proper "little treasure", it has been 3rd time lucky for us, 1st useless, 2nd not much better and then left anyway to have a baby. I have severe arthritis and housework is very difficult for me, my cleaner whizzes through it in no time once a fortnight, I am so grateful for her hard work

Had one once, like several others, caught myself cleaning before she got there! If I get upset about something, I clean like a demon! I find it therapeutic ... is there something wrong with me!?