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Bad hair cut - so annoyed

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Flakesdayout Tue 12-Jan-21 00:44:03

After taking some medication early last year which really thinned my hair it had started to thicken up and grow and I was really pleased with it. My OH asked if I would give him a hair cut with the new clippers we had bought and then he would trim mine. I did a really good job for him and then it was my turn. I had bought myself a gadget which clips onto the hair with a spirit level guide bar. You then cut the hair along the length of the guide. Last time it worked so well. This time I asked for him to take an inch and half off. He took off 4 inches didnt use the guide properly and it is now uneven, He now says it was because he did it wrong and forgot what he was doing. I am so annoyed, upset and angry at him. My hair is now too short (chin length) and I hate it. What can I do? I know we are in lockdown and I do not go out as shielding but that is not the point. Grrr.

FannyCornforth Tue 12-Jan-21 00:51:26

Oh no! I do sympathise! It's awful when you don't like your hair.
What can you do? I can't really think of anything to be honest, sorry. Just let it grow for the time being, and when hairdressers start again maybe have one come to your house (garden?) if you are still shielding.

welbeck Tue 12-Jan-21 02:03:55

he wasn't able to do it, that's all.
does it really matter ?

Kamiso Tue 12-Jan-21 02:24:48

It’s hair and will grow again!

Spice101 Tue 12-Jan-21 02:27:19

Didn't you see that he was taking too much off? I would have stopped him before it became an issue or at least given him a reminder about what you wanted him to do.

Not much you can do now but wait for it to grow.

FarNorth Tue 12-Jan-21 02:44:16

Are you saying your DH had cut your hair before and it was all right then?
If so, it's a bit worrying that he did it so badly this time.

All you can do about the hair, I guess, is resolve to keep a closer eye on him if you let him near it with clippers in future.

Doodle Tue 12-Jan-21 02:54:01

It’s upsetting but why be annoyed with him. You asked him to do it and he made a mistake. I doubt he did it deliberately. I’m sorry you don’t like it but it will grow back. It’s not worth upsetting yourself and your DH about it.

FannyCornforth Tue 12-Jan-21 02:57:26

I entrusted my DH not only with cutting my hair - he also pierced my ears! shock

Doodle Tue 12-Jan-21 02:59:42

By accident ? 😱 😀

FannyCornforth Tue 12-Jan-21 03:06:40

Doodlegrin! No, it was intended, it wasn't a blood bath!
It's a good job that I didn't get my hands on a tattoo gun during lockdown. We could have been getting up to all sorts in the shed!

Doodle Tue 12-Jan-21 03:09:27

My DH has a hand tremor so he’ll not be cutting my hair or piercing my ears 😀

NotSpaghetti Tue 12-Jan-21 07:00:18

Forgive him. He will feel as bad as you do.
As you say, we are in lockdown so at least no-one will see it.
I hope it grows soon.

I think I would definitely think three or four times before I let my husband use clippers on my hair. Mine is long and I've cut it myself for nearly s year now. It's not brilliant but not awful either.
Could you do it yourself next time?

Ladyleftfieldlover Tue 12-Jan-21 07:15:11

Unless they are professionally trained, no one is allowed near my hair. During the last lockdown I managed to slightly trim my fringe myself. When it got long at the back I used a scrunchie.

BlueBelle Tue 12-Jan-21 07:17:12

After reading your past posts and threads about your confusions and unhappiness with your partner I m very surprised you would let him loose on your hair

You have previously accused him of trying to embarrass you in front of friends so why are you surprised ?

Esspee Tue 12-Jan-21 07:43:06

During the first lockdown my OH eventually allowed me to cut his hair. He was stunned at how good a job I made of it so he has already requested a haircut this lockdown.

Sorry your OH wasn’t able to channel his inner hairdresser OP. Just be thankful you don’t have to go out like that and it WILL eventually grow. My hairdresser got a kick out of sorting all the mess when he reopened the last time. Your’s will do too.

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 12-Jan-21 07:58:57

I always shave my husband’s hair, but last night was his second attempt on mine! Better than it was. Not much choice at the moment. One thing for sure, it will grow back🤪

PollyDolly Tue 12-Jan-21 08:13:14

What can you do??????? It's hair, it will grow, it's not as though he has given you a scalp-hugging grade one is it?
You say you're shielding so won't be going out but if you were to do so a pull-on hat can hide a lot.
I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose but a lesson learned, don't let him cut your hair again!
Talk to your OH calmly, tell him how you feel but then put this to bed, don't dwell on it, that will only make you angry and upset.
We can't all be good at everything and it's not a sign of weakness to say " I can't do that, it's beyond me ".
Stay safe.

kircubbin2000 Tue 12-Jan-21 08:25:47

Chin length is hardly short! I'm sure it looks fine and as you're not going out no one will see it.

Witzend Tue 12-Jan-21 08:32:56

Having had a really disastrous cut once (at the hairdresser!) I do really sympathise. I have to say there’s no way I’d let my dh try to cut my hair, which is in dire need of it now, but at least you won’t be going anywhere smart for a while, and a hat will cover it up.

The hairdresser who botched mine - I couldn’t see what he was doing but he’d given me what looked like a short back and sides at the back - awful! - he had done it fine before, so I was at a loss to understand it. I was in tears as I left, I was even told I didn’t need to pay.

As soon as I got home I phoned a dd at uni miles away, still in tears, and she phoned the hairdresser and gave him a bollocking!

Only the very next day the same dd phoned me , in tears, because a male uni friend of hers, who’d stayed at our house and was studying in Russia, had been killed in a road traffic accident.

That certainly put my hair into perspective, and I felt bad for having been in such a state.
It did grow back quite quickly.

Spinnaker Tue 12-Jan-21 08:37:22

Buy a wig ?

Lucca Tue 12-Jan-21 08:41:54


After reading your past posts and threads about your confusions and unhappiness with your partner I m very surprised you would let him loose on your hair

You have previously accused him of trying to embarrass you in front of friends so why are you surprised ?

Elementary my dear Watson

Santana Tue 12-Jan-21 08:55:21

I went through a 'no hair' journey a few years ago, as I'm sure others have on GN.
A wig could be an answer, although it needs to be a good one and cut to shape. For me, scarves were marvelous, and I could tie them around my head in all kinds of ways, twisting and twirling until I was several inches taller. During the last lockdown my DD wore retro type hair bands to tame her unruly mop. Bright colours to cheer the day along?
Hats for going out too.
Your hair will grow so try not to upset yourself. Look on it as an opportunity to try some new headgear.

inishowen Tue 12-Jan-21 09:29:27

The poor man is not a hairdresser. He did his best. Lighten up. Hair grows. Mine is a straggly mess at the moment. Husband may be handed the scissors.

Shropshirelass Tue 12-Jan-21 09:34:33

I wouldn’t let my husband cut my hair under any circumstances even though he would probably do a very good job. My friend’s DH cut her hair in the first lockdown, oh dear! It took ages to grow out.

Kate1949 Tue 12-Jan-21 09:35:55

It's annoying but I would give anything that be in your shoes. Try having alopecia like me.