Schnackie, I don't think anyone should blame you for seeing the disparity between your rather frugal life and your daughter's extravagant one. You are clearly trying not to burden her with your feelings and value the relationship over the money.
I am in a similar position. Nine years after I retired my DD, for whom I paid prep school fees and on whom I spent many tens of thousands for her education, now earns more than twice what I last earned after 34 years in teaching. She splashes the cash extravagently on meals, treats and experiences while I live pared to the bone and choose between heating and eating in winter.
Nevertheless, she is my darling girl and I don't begrudge her her money as she earns it and pays her dues and taxes. She is good and loving and buys me ridiculously lovely presents which I neither need nor deserve.
My own mother was very poor (all the cash in the house was spent on alcohol and cigarettes) and berated me as a 'Tory' because she thought that somehow I was 'rich'.
It's hard. Life isn't fair or equal but I do see the harm jealousy and resentment wreak. You, Schnackie, are neither but, like me, note the differences!
Scottish political mess. Is Devolution working?