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What song do you not like as it brings back unhappy memories?

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polomint Mon 01-Feb-21 23:38:23

The song I dont like is "eleanor Rigby " by the Beatles. I was 8 months married and 3 months pregnant and living in a condemned tenement building. We had no phone,an outside toilet and my husband and i werethe only inhabitants in our close. I moved to my husbands town and had no friends and he was at work all day every time that so g came on the radio I burst into tears as I felt so lonely just like the eleanor in the song. Thankfully my life is so much happier now but still cant stand the song!

Alioop Tue 02-Feb-21 14:04:08

Josh Groban "You Raise Me Up" as it was played at my mums funeral. She always thought it was a lovely song, but to me now it desolves me into tears.

marionk Tue 02-Feb-21 13:48:32

The Ballad of Lucy Jordan by Marianne Faithful, it suddenly underlined the hopelessness of my life at the time, the lack of ability to change my then husband and made me determined to make a change for myself.

Grannyipad Tue 02-Feb-21 13:45:16

I have lost two much-loved husbands. When the first one died after only 3 years of marriage leaving me with two babies I could never listen to Vidor's glorious Toccata organ music which had been playing when we left the church after our wedding.
I eventually remarried another lovely man who helped raise my boys and gave us a wonderful life. When he died 25 years later 'In Paradisum' by Faure was the entry music at his funeral and always upset me when I heard it.
Recently both these evocative pieces were played back to back on the radio and instead of the usual tears it actually made me smile and think 'Hello boys!' as it was almost like they had planned it!

NellG Tue 02-Feb-21 13:42:36

polomint, if we don't have sorrows we haven't lived and would have no benchmark from which to measure the joys. Besides, look how kind people have been to each other on this thread. And, loneliness is never a "just", no one's sorrow is less than another's. x

Nannyme Tue 02-Feb-21 13:38:51

Hey Jude, I was so in love with my best friends brother and I know he liked me too but he was so shy it was painful and nothing progressed but not for the want of trying. My father then got another job and we moved away so that was that but each time I hear the song it makes me feel sad.

polomint Tue 02-Feb-21 13:31:33

Your stories are so sad. I apologise if I brought up tearful memories. Mine was just of loneliness when I was a young married woman. Thank you for sharing. On the plus side, you must all have happy memories of different songs

Jane43 Tue 02-Feb-21 13:30:55

Yesterday by The Beatles. At the end of 1964 my Dad was admitted to hospital and after an exploratory operation on his throat he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He lived to walk me down the aisle in February 1965. I wasn’t told he was terminally ill until June 1965 and it devastated me and my brother. Shortly after my mother told me I was in her kitchen with her and the song came on the radio, she rarely cried but she did then and said the opening lines of the song described how she felt. He died in January 1966 at the age of 54 and my son was born in September 1966. Whenever I hear the song I think of my Mum on that day her stricken face and her tears.

Blinko Tue 02-Feb-21 13:10:50

MamaB252 such a moving story. You were so brave. I was in tears reading it. flowers

flowers too for all those who mourn, whether children, parents, friends. So poignant. Thank you all for sharing.

nanna8 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:48:22

Andrea Bocelli ‘s ‘Time to say Goodbye ‘which I got them to play at Dad’s funeral . That and ‘ Nessun Dorma’ which we also played. Dad loved those tunes. He wasn’t into hymns, unlike me.He stopped being a believer when he was in the RAF flying planes because all his friends were killed. Sad.

Lilikemaho Tue 02-Feb-21 12:42:27

Heard alone again naturally by Gilbert Sullivan on TV the other day broke my heart

Niochorio Tue 02-Feb-21 12:41:38

I had a phone call from my Dad to say my Mum who was terminally ill had passed away at home. As I drove to their house ‘In the living Years’ by Mike and the Mechanics was playing on the radio. Still makes me tearful all these years later.

sazz1 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:41:06

Make Believe by Glen Campbell
I loved him but he was in love with someone else who didn't want him. Always something missing from that relationship but still makes me sad years later

Growing0ldDisgracefully Tue 02-Feb-21 12:39:56

MamaB hugs to you and thank you for sharing such an emotional story.

Ro60 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:38:00

MamaB247 what a beautiful story. The words of the song brought tears to my eyes seeing it from his point of view.
I hope your life has improved & you feel safe now.
Amazing Grace - my Dad's favourite - we had it at his funeral & everyone was so choked up we could barely sing it.

Shawlands2000 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:37:44

Skins by Rag ‘n’ Bone man. It was always playing on the radio when I was travelling back and forward to hospital to visit my very ill daughter who had late stage MS. She sadly died aged just 37.

Grandma11 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:34:39

Foriegner, Do you Know Where Love is? It was always playing in my Car Radio just before my Divorce from my First Husband.I

Then Later, Roberta Slack, The First Time I Saw Your Face. My Daughter chose this to be played at her funeral as a Tribute to her husband who she had married in the same Church 4 years previously. It was a Total surprise to everyone, and even my second husband who had brought her up since she was seven years old and the type of guy who never cries, broke down sobbing.
Kay was 36 when she died after a two year battle with an aggressive form of Cancer.

HannahLoisLuke Tue 02-Feb-21 12:33:12

I want to know what love is by Family. I’d rather not say why.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Tue 02-Feb-21 12:32:46

The soundtrack to the Sound of Musi. This was the only CD Mum's care home could find as some background music for us while we sat with Mum in her last hours. She actually drew her last breath during the wedding march, so I suppose I could envisage her walking down the aisle to be with Dad again as a small crumb of comfort but I now can't bear to hear any of the music from it.

halfpint1 Tue 02-Feb-21 12:27:44

Enya, played it at my Mum's funeral , it was perfect;
Have to remove myself or silence it whenever I hear it
now.
Funeral music really needs some thought.

Ksing Tue 02-Feb-21 12:12:54

My emotional memory of a song is “You raise me up!” sang by Westlife! Our daughter was born very prematurely at 26 weeks! She spent 3 months in Special Care Baby Unit! When the Doctor who was responsible for making decisions which ultimately saved her life retired, a fashion show and a retirement event was organised for him, involving children who had spent their first weeks of life in the unit! All ages attended, Dr Lloyd was presented with a gift, and all able bodied children stood up and thanked him by singing this song to him! Not a dry eye in the house! Wonderful man!

Apricotdessert Tue 02-Feb-21 12:01:48

REM's Everbody Hurts. Absolutely hate the song. Reminds me of when DH played it on repeat after his DM died following a long illness. It obviously said something different to him than to me.

TrendyNannie6 Tue 02-Feb-21 11:57:47

Everybody hurts played at a funeral of a close friend

Chicklette Tue 02-Feb-21 11:55:39

Faith by George Michael. I was 9 months pregnant with second DD. My H loved the song and played it constantly. When I was in labour he admitted he was having an affair and left the next week. That song just brings it all back.

Sararose Tue 02-Feb-21 11:53:43

Danny Boy always upsets me. My lovely granny sang it when she was confined to her bed for several years before passing away over 50 years ago.

Dee1012 Tue 02-Feb-21 11:52:14

I was in the kitchen with my Dad and a song called Secret Love came on the radio, it was the Kathy Kirby version. My Dad grabbed my hand and we danced / jived around the room together.
It became "our song"
I only have to hear the first note and it breaks my heart.