Being patronising or maybe not ?

When they phone me up and call me by my first name then I admit I find it so disrespectful as I don't know them so what right have they to do this. If I know the person then I don't mind, but if I don't look out.

Love is the usual term of endearment in Yorkshire. I use it for DH and son but no one else. You just accept it when someone uses it in, eg, a shop. I refuse to use one local shop as the owner addresses his customers as Daaarling, makes my teeth grate.

In my neck of the woods everybody of both sexes gets called ‘duck’ or if you are getting on, it’s fully. It’s a term of endearment. Men call other men it too. I believe it derives from duchess / duke and not the water bird!

That was supposed to be dukky not fully.

I don’t like being referred to as dear, darling, pet etc, but I especially hate Hun!

I don’t mind this from some people but object when it’s a man. No real reason... it just rankles. ?

I suppose it is whatever one deems to be inappropriate for the situation.
In the supermarket, a young assistant, cleaning a fridge accidentally dropped a heavy metal grille on to my foot.
What hurt far more than the assault was that he just grinned and said 'No worries'
i was furious enough to see'Management'

My father (a Brummie) would sometimes call me "me wench." It didn't have the connotations then that it seems to have now. ?

I'm not a great fan of "hun", but not sure why.
I don't mind terms of endearment unless it's clear the person is using it to deliberately patronise or put you down.
I've got a habit of calling people much younger than me "pet" in informal settings. I just had to be carfeul not to do so at work.

It doesn't bother me. They're terms of endearment and are meant well. Here in Leicester, the term is "me duck" but I don't think that you hear it so much these days. Maybe it's a generational thing.

I have never been called "hun" in my life.

Yes, I think I would. Too often used towards women. Never to men.

Don’t really like hun or dear but anything else goes as long as it’s not insulting. Most professional people will ask what I’d like to be called before the conversation begins. Life is too short to get upset about such minor niggles that’s for sure. As others have already said ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’ !

Yes Chardy being referred to as ‘hen’ really common where I was brought up near Glasgow. My dad always called me ‘flower’.
Only one I don’t care for is ‘doll’ brings back memories of a letch of an older man eyeing me up and down when I was in my teens

I don't object. A man came to my aid fairly recently and kept calling me 'love' - it's too trivial to get uptight about. I said what needed to be said - thank you.

There is a particularly arrogant and patronising doctor in our GP practice. He stands at his door and bellows your first name. He stands over you and talks down to you - literally. On leaving the room I asked him for his first name. Why, it's Dr K.. says he. and I am Mrs L. says I. You have not earned the privilege of calling me by my first name. I was astonished at myself, but he made me so cross.

I don't mind any of the polite names so long as they are said in a friendly manner. Up here in Doric speaking land I often get "m'quine" - a compliment since I'm 67 and the word quine means girl or young woman!

Can’t stand ‘ babe’ been though I’m not one! But listening to people calling that name to each other makes me cringe! You used to get ‘ ok hinny’ years ago up north and I kind of miss that now,

It is really annoying...I hate it: especially when men call me “Love”.... I do pull them up on it and tell them I find it patronising....

I find Guys really annoying, and have been know to say Im not a guy! also dislike Hun a lot.

poshpaws

I don't mind any of the polite names so long as they are said in a friendly manner. Up here in Doric speaking land I often get "m'quine" - a compliment since I'm 67 and the word quine means girl or young woman!

"Quine" is one of my favourite words poshpaws! At least they're not calling you a "wifey"

My mum gets called "quine" and she's 83

Hate hun with a passion!

Not keen on dear, makes me think of my grandma! Almost all others are ok with me. X

Pollyj

Yes, I think I would. Too often used towards women. Never to men.

Actually, that's not quite right - my late husband found it rather endearing (if a little salutory since it began when he was an "older gentleman"!) that shop assistants and others would call him sweetheart, dear, or my love.

Alegrias1

Love that your Mum still gets it too! They're a kind lot up here, despite coming across as quite gruff at times.

I hate being called darling or luv.someone called this to me as a volunteer at the charity shop I volunteer at.told him I found it offensive after all I didn't know.told him just call me wendy everyone else does