What do you love about gransnet?

I have joined recently and enjoy reading about the lives of others ( maybe I'm a nosey person) and the discussions. I like the sympathy and advice that is offered to those going through a difficult time. I like certain threads that are positive especially just now when I can feel a bit depressed due to lockdown and I admire those who have the motivation to just get on with their lives and looking forward.
Basically I like it all as I havnt come across any nastiness .

Nor have I polomint. You reflect my experience.

I was feeling very low and joined just before Christmas and received some good advice so l have persevered and log in every day.
It gets better and better.
I love reading people’s choice’s favourites and opinions and sometimes lm in fits of giggles because there are some very funny and witty ladies on here.
I lost my mother only Christmas before last and my ex mil soon after. My mum was as sharp as nine pence and mil was very sweet. Totally opposite in their ways and equally missed. They were 88 & 92. I’m 64 and of course we don’t know how old everyone else is here but sometimes you can guess an age of a GN and the most mature ladies of this group give me a little bit of what I miss in those important ladies from my life.
????for those slightly elder young ladies.

How lovely Nicegranny. I too sometimes laugh out loud at some of the witty comments on here. It runs alongside rather than instead of real life, I find, and I’m sure I’ll stay after ‘all this is over’!

My mum died in 1996 and I still miss her such a lot. Mums are special aren’t they? I’m glad this site helps you.

Aveline

*BlueSky*- letting off steam with unkind unpleasant remarks is what has led to posts/threads being deleted and Grans banned. You really have to watch what you write here.

Yes, no letting off steam here, that’s for sure, although it didn’t use to be this way.
Sometimes now, the most harmless remark is grabbed onto by an attention seeking poster who calls it a ‘personal attack’.
Laughable really.
Still a few good interesting threads but often spoilt by ‘woke’
Comments.
I enjoy the more lighthearted fun threads and the food threads are always good, have noted down lots of recipes from them this last year.

Thank you Granmajet
Yes our mums are special and l shed a few tears every now and then for her my dad and my ex mum in law.
Words are often said her by others that touch me but I have to say the humour really helps.

Lemongrove
I was warned of spiteful mean people on gransnet and I once thought l was being attacked. Sometimes people are sensitive when they have had more than just “Covid” to deal with but as in trust and friendship, online or otherwise time and experience can make a difference don’t you think?
It’s taken me a while to get used to the ways of posters but I enjoy seeing familiar names.

Aveline
Were you reading the thread that led to a very much respected long time poster being banned for life, I was.
There was no nastiness or letting off steam. The only emotion that was expressed was frustration. She was not alone in that feeling.

Yes, time and experience on forums toughens you up.You have to remember that unless you have met in real life, posters are strangers, and it matters not what they think of you or you of them.
Really bad personal attacks on you should be reported, but perceived slights ignored.
The news and politics threads ( for example) can get heated, but most light hearted threads stay that way.Glad you are enjoying the forum NiceGranny?

Kindness and politeness costs nothing. People can obviously differ in opinions but no need to be abrupt with anyone.
There are quite a few witty ladies about with a good sense of humour.
I picture them in my mind as they talk about their lives and try to tie it in with their chosen gransnet name

I was recommended to join last year by a friend.

If I'm honest I can find it a bit addictive and there's often something more useful and pressing I should be doing instead...?

My husband often asks what The Grans are discussing today.
I've told him he could join if he wants to ?

I've learned a lot about how not to annoy my daughter... ?
Thank you all for that.

Thank you Lemongrove

I am enjoying it very much ?

But l have just posted a very rude statement on another subject and fear l may get told off.

MerylStreep

Aveline
Were you reading the thread that led to a very much respected long time poster being banned for life, I was.
There was no nastiness or letting off steam. The only emotion that was expressed was frustration. She was not alone in that feeling.

With you there on that one, MerylStreep.

I’ve missed all the threads about banned members so don’t know anything. ‘Banned for life’ too, rather OTT!

I was a lurker silent participant on this site for some time and have only begun to post recently.

I have enjoyed being reminded that there are a wide variety of personalities out there and 'listening' to the differing opinions...sometimes widely differing!! Since retiring I have found myself mostly surrounded by people of similar age, views, lifestyle etc and it would be easy to become complacent and exist in a bubble.

I read most threads and accept the fact that some opinions will differ from my own but do not like those posts which are unkind, rude or antagonistic.
I very much admire those posters who take the time to research their facts and provide links to back up their arguments. I am far to lazy I know.

I also admire those posters brave enough to ask advice on personal matters. Whilst I have avoided posting any of my own personal problems here I have been able to benefit from some of the good advice given to other posters .....so thank you.

I have also enjoyed the frivilous threads, I have missed the banter of real life conversation with close friends. I have often laughed out loud at some of the comments made. It is nice to be reminded that life can be fun.

Gransnet is probably the only place I can be where absolutely nothing is expected of me - and that's actually the reason I joined; to have a safe space to just be. To me it's a real community, with all the ups and downs of people sharing a space (albeit a virtual one). I joined right at the beginning and have been to meetups as far afield as Scotland, Manchester and several in the Devon area where I live. Everyone I've met has been interesting and some have become quite special to me and I try to keep abreast of what's happening in their lives.

For the past couple of years I haven't been posting so much, but I try to catch up with as many threads as I can when I have time and can focus. Very often I indulge myself and write a really long post about something or other that's going on in my life and then I delete it, because I've got it out of my system and don't need to burden anyone else. So in a slightly odd way it's also a bit of a safety valve.

I like having someone to talk to and a chance to say what I think. Not that I am shy and retiring in "real life" but life is so restricted at the moment that I only have DH to talk to most of the time. The telephone just isn't as good as face to face spats with old friends.

I also like hearing other people's opinions even if, or sometimes especially if, they enrage me.

Yes gransnet reminds me that we are all so different and have different viewpoints. Only mine is the right one of course.?

MerylStreepand Marydoll I was referring to the sorts of things that banned posters said not the threads lamenting the banning.

What I don’t love is not being able to send PMs grrrrrrr

Aveline, I know some of the banned and final warning posters well. Unless you are a moderator, I probably know more about the situation than you do.
There are posters on here, who post fake news and particularly cruel and hurtful comments, yet nothing happens to them.

I saw nothing in their posts to warrant a lifetime ban for vulnerable ladies, one of whom is in her eighties, living alone under great stress, due to family problems. Some compassion wouldn't go amiss.

If they broke the guideline, then a suspension would suffice. I'm not going to say any more in case it threatens farview's thread. ☹

Urm, not ignoring you. Just acknowledging that everyone finds success differently. I saw Jane 10's 8/16 and decided to give it a whirl having never heard of it. I gave myself the pathetic target of 1lb (yes only1) a week with no item removed from my intake simply slightly less of everything. Bingo! 56 weeks later I had lost the desired amount (do the maths in old money!) and - hand on heart- have not put any of it back on. My quality of life is joyfully improved and I already thought I was doing okay before this. Sorry folks, I would have pmd this but apparently not available.

Where nothing is expected of me. I really like that thought grannyactivist.

I have been on here for a few years, mostly just browsing. What I like is reading all the different points of view. I've never been much of a socialiser so am often surprised by how many people have the same thoughts as me on different topics.It makes me feel " normal" when I had sometimes considered my opinions to be out of line with others.

I can't remember how long I have been on GN, some years. I went to a London meet up a couple of years ago, my husband practically had a fit! He was convinced that the people I was going to meet were fake and that something terrible was going to happen to me! He even rang my daughter to get her to try to stop me going! I want and met some lovely people, sadly couldn't make the next meeting and if course, no meetings since then. I love GN, but like others an sad that the moderators aren't more flexible, we are supposed to be grownups.