Age Gap Relationships

My mans 15 years younger, I had all the toy boy jokes and he did look young ! You could hear the ‘that won’t last comments’ well it did 24 years later we are still solid. Age isn’t important, I’m semi retired he’s got ages to go but I stay young and he’s old before his time anyway!

This obsession smacks of Victorian hypocritical narrow mindedness. This is 2021 not 1880’s or done bygone era.
All fictitious twaddle.

Circumstances can make a bigger difference than age. There are only 2 years between us but when we met, aged 54 and 56, he had been retired for several years for medical reasons and I carried on working for 9 years after we were married. We’ve been happily together for 23 years, but there was a difference between us during the 9 years. I had a ‘work social life’ and travelled for work, I knew about computers and he had never used one etc. I guess my world was bigger than his, which caused a few problems but nothing major

My husband is 22 years than me, we've been together for 36 years and I knew the first time I saw him that he was the one I wanted to spend my life with. Our age difference is not a problem except I worry about him so much with this pandemic. He is very fit and healthy and I love him more with each passing day I'm truly blessed.

Bilboben

Ten years difference means nothing at 30 and 40. However the difference between 70 and 80 can have serious implications for the relationship.

I don’t agree at all. If anything with age the gap narrows!

I am seventh months older than my "toyboy" husband. His father's second marriage was to a woman 30 years younger. Our youngest daughter's husband is 12 years older than her as is our niece's husband. We seem to go in for age gaps!

First marriage my husband was 5 years older than me, second and hopefully last one my DH is 5 years younger than me, happily married, I think it’s more about how you get on with each other than age gaps,

No 1 was 11 years older
No 2 was 2 years older
Current DH is 12 1/2 years younger (12 years older than my DD) however he is the old fart in our relationship.
My DDs have their dad and in-laws but it’s my current (keeps him on his toes) they go to for help and advice. He is the grandad the grandchildren run to.

He and ex No 2 get on fabulously which is a bonus

DH is 6 years older than me & DD's partner is 12 years older than her. She was married before to a man a couple of years her senior but, when the marriage failed, she soon met & moved in with her current partner. They are so happy, it's a joy to see them together & we can now see why her husband just wasn't the right man for her, lovely though he was.

Can't see a problem with an age gap, an energy and zest for life gap is much more significant. My 2nd husband is 22 years younger than the first and 6 years younger than I am. I had a very happy relationship with someone 13 years my junior in between brought together by a love of tennis. TBH though I couldn't imagine being married to my DH now as he's not weathered well. I am clearly very shallow!

My husband is 17 years younger. We have been together 26 years. Never noticed the age gap, I'm 70, he's 53. We are on the same wavelength. I'm still fit. Good relationship. I had 2 children when we met, he decided he didn't want his own, as he had a difficult childhood, but he's been stepdad to mine and is "grandad" to the 6 grandchildren. It all depends on the people themselves.

It very much depends on the people I think and how much they are prepared to compromise!
My ex was younger than me - only by a year , but after just a couple of years, I realised he had really only married me as a mother substitute! While I was the one making the decisions, it was fine but when I was the one that needed support, that was when he decided it was ok to go back into teenager mode and stay out until the early hours again!
Whatever the age difference , up or down, if people want a marriage to work , have similar interests or are ready and happy to let their OH do things on their own, I think it can work.

My 32year old daughter is currently dating a 50 year old man, although we are trying to be happy for her, we can't help but be concerned for later years when she will still be relatively young and him not so much!

My ex was five and a half years younger than me. When we got together one of his friends accused him of bath chair snatching! He then realised that was a bit rude and spent the rest of the evening apologising! I found it funny and I'm still friends with him and his wife long since divorcing my ex.

My in-laws were very unhappy about the age difference and MiL once suggested my ex find someone 'younger and slimmer'! I don't know if she knows that he told me. They started dropping hints about babies soon after the wedding and I only gained their approval after producing the longed for grandchildren. They were clearly worried that I was too old at 31!

Eventually the ex traded me in for a younger model but she was fatter than me! MiL doesn't approve of her at all!

First husband was 5 years older, second one is five years younger than me. I tell him that if he doesn’t behave I will change him for a newer model!

I Watched a documentary not that long ago about older woman - I am talking here about grannies ages approx 75 years upwards who were very interested in what we term as a ‘toy boy’. I just could not and cannot get my head around those grannies getting all excited about having a toy boy, how they would all dress up quite seductively and be all over each other!??. Sorry but not for me. I would much rather a cup of tea, a good book and a doughnut! ???

But age gaps for me personally say 10 / 15 years - I don’t see any problems at all. I know one of my aunts many years ago married a man 30 years older - he was married before. I was told at first the marriage was fine and he treated her like a princess but sadly as they aged it did become a problem within their marriage.

But then I look at my best friend who sadly met some guy same age as herself who made her life a complete nightmare and social services had to help her escape who by then she had a little baby also to care for. Then some 2 years later she met this wonderful man - 15 years older then her. He eventually won her trust. He absolutely adored her and treated her like a princess. They were married for over 30 years. Sadly he died some 3 years ago but my friend’s marriage throughout was very successful and she was so very happy. She has some wonderful memories to treasure.

DH is nearly ten years older than me, bee together thirty years, still works for us!

My second hubby is seven years older than me, it’s worked well. As we get older sometimes I feel like he is in a different age bracket but mostly it’s just grumpy old man syndrome and I tend to be a bit younger in outlook, love him to bits and wouldn’t change him. When I was 18 I had an affair with a man of 30 (I’ve always been attracted to older men), I shall never forget the sheer passion - it could never have been a long term relationship it was mainly physical but I’m glad to have had that experience in my life.

Two of my children have married partners younger than them. My son hit puberty early and was physically a "man" at the age of 12 whilst his wife is a much younger soul than her years. There are only 3 years between them but he seems older than her. My daughter married a man who was 5 years younger than her. She has always been emotionally immature and he seemed older than his years but actually, I think part of their problems are that he is more immature than we realised. I think he is now regretting settling down early.
My sister went for someone 15 years younger than her...it was a disaster in every sense including his sexuality.
My husband is 5 years older than me and I tease him for being an old man. His first wife was 3 years older than me so he is always threatening to trade me in for a younger model like he did once before. In reality, we are both too set in our ways to each other to bother with anybody else, younger or older.

I do think an enormous age gap can be difficult as time goes by. What doesn't matter when both are still relatively young - say 23 and 43 - can become a huge gulf when one is 63 and one is 83. Having said that, it should concern only the couple themselves as long as they are over 18 and have thought it through. Many people with big age gaps are very happy. I have been married twice and my husbands were/are 5 years older and 3 years older.

I'm 9 months older than my husband. He's my toy boy ?.
We've been together for 45 years .....it was a problem when we met though. He was 14 and I was 15 and I got teased by a girl in my class for dating 'a baby' ??

Late husband was 13 years older than me, reasonably equally matched on the brains front. Sometimes, it was an issue - particularly around popular culture. And when his physical, and then mental, health declined, over the last 14 years of our 31 year relationship, it became very difficult.

Current partner is 2 years older, and it's much better. Like LauraNorder, I'm the brainier one this time - but I find I quite like it that way!

There were 20yrs between my husband and I, however we had 2 lovely children, and 39 yrs happily married until I lost him to cancer 9 yrs ago. My current partner is also older but only by 8 yrs, and to my chagrin he’s much fitter than me and no one ever believes he’s in his 70s! ?

I had grave doubts about Barbara Windsor and her ‘toyboy’ husband, but they seemed to be very happy. He stayed with her for better, for worse, in sickness and in health.
My DH was 27 when I met him, but I thought that he was joking. He certainly didn’t look, or act it. I was 21. Our marriage had its ups and downs, but we stayed together for 51 years. He was almost 80 when he died, 5 years ago.

My husband is 16 years older than me, we've had a perfect 25 year marriage and I couldn't be happier. With a bad marriage behind us both we really do appreciate and care for each other.