Age Gap Relationships

16 years, it’s has its issues more so now than when we were younger

It is funny isn’t it.. I also have this built in bias that a partner should be older and taller. Is it something to do with “man” being the provider/protector etc?
My ex was taller (I’m only 5’ 2” so not difficult) and I dated a guy a couple of years ago who was just a couple of inches taller than me and it felt very odd. However I have a customer at work who is absolutely no taller than me but has such a fantastic sense of humour that I always wish he were single ?

My husband is nine years younger than me . Never had any problems . He was 28 when we met. I had 2 children and been out of a horrible marriage . He’s been a fantastic husband and father and we still love each other very much. The only slight problem is a financial one . We cannot retire together. My DH will have ti carry on working .

Same age. Though I have friends whose husbands are a lot older and one considerably older. One relationship works one doesn't.
When young age mattered now it is like minds. If your husband is considerably older I think you know what the consequences might be and accept them if and when they happen,BUT would I have thought like that at 20 I don't think so. Depends on how mature you are and what you are looking for when you marry.

My husband is 15 months older than I, so for 3 months he is 2 years older...as I enjoy reminding him... We married at 21 and 12 years later I developed a crush on a 20 year old young man who clearly enjoyed spending time with me at a club where I was a barmaid.... It was only when he kissed me one night that I realised that he was just like my husband when I met him.....

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My DH God rest his soul was 17 years older than me. We met when I was 37 and he was 54. Age was never an issue and he treated me like a princess. I used to pull his leg when people mistook me for his daughter and he took it quite well as he was always full of fun.
I think it bothered him more than it did me because one day he decided to dye his hair, he bought a jet black hair dye and instantly regretted it because thereafter he earned himself the nickname Alvin Stardust. ? Needless to say he didn’t repeat that and decided to stay with the gray hair lol.
I loved his gray hair. He was a very handsome man and looked a lot like Charles Bronson. He’s been gone 15 years now and there’s no one else for me ❤️

My father was 17 years old.
All good until my mother reached late forties. Then the age gap seemed an abyss. And unfortunately they divorced

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A friend married a man 17 older than her about 25 years ago. They had two children although he would rather have not! They are still together, but now he is an old man in every sense and she is still relatively young and fit. He doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything (can’t at the moment anyway) so she tends to do her own thing. It obviously depends on a state of mind. My husband is two years older than me, and I’m glad that we’ve been able to age at mostly the same rate!

My husband is 17 years older than me, he is now 85 but well. We have been married for 35 years and his children are my family (he had been widowed). We have always had a good relationship. there are ways in which we now lead a different life, I am still active and want to do things away from home, but he is more contented and settled at home. But it doesn’t lead to any problems. And I can’t imagine being married to anybody else. It’s the people, not the numbers, that matter.

1st ex was same age, 2nd ex was 13 yrs older. Neither managed 11 years with me! Current DH is 15 yrs younger and we've been together for about 21 years. Nuff said.

My husband is 12 years older than me. It’s never been a problem all through our married life. 43 years married. We are now 65 and 77.
But now the age difference is noticeable. Now I wish we were the same age.

My first husband was 11 years older than me . My second husband is 20 years younger than me we have been happily married for 15 years. We have had to put up with a lot of sly digs and rude comments over the years, surprisingly mainly from the older generations. My thoughts have always been that love is love, life is short and both should be grasped with both hands when the opportunity arises. Don't let other peoples prejudices mar your chance of happiness if it comes along, no matter who it is with.

My husband is 21 years older than me. We’ve been together 30 years. Neither of us can figure how the other puts up with us - I think it’s a cultural difference rather than an age difference.

Wasn't there a school of thought at one time women that as women lived longer male partners should be younger supposedly so that they popped their clogs about the same time. Only 11 months between us so we can reminisce together very easily.

My DH is 4 years my senior, and taller than me. My dad was 3 years older than my mum and taller than her - a pattern there?
My Sil. is 2 years older than my DD and just slightly taller.

First hubby was 8 years older, second 5 years younger....younger is definitely better

my late husband was 15 years older than me,he died 3 years ago,at 81.Some people used to say he was too old for me,but we liked the same things,the age gap wasn't a problem.

My stepson married a girl 8 years older than him. The only one who has a problem with it is his sister who still can't believe that her little brother married someone older than her
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Well, I suppose most people our age were brought up to think that a husband should be some years older than his wife. I know I was and had an example in my parents.

Daddy was six years older than Mummy and they were respectively 26 and 21 when they married in 1947.

How the world has changed! Now-a-days no-one would bat an eyelid if the age difference went the other way, but they would probably be shocked at anyone getting married at 21 or even at 26.

Dh is four years younger than I am, but we married at a mature age, so no-one was concerned.

We were certainly told as girls that if you married a man 20 years older than yourself he would be an old man when you were still comparatively young.

I suppose that is possibly true, but here are no guarantees in life - a lot of men I know, my own husband included, seem to have aged overnight as soon as they retired, something that is not nearly as apparent amongst the women I know.

Many years ago there was a scandal in our village because a man in his 20s was going out with a 14 year old schoolgirl. They’ve now been married over 30 years and seem very happy together.

I know a couple who have a 35+ year age gap. Relationship began in a very dubious way (despite all their denials). They had a baby just after he retired.

My husband and I are the same age 68 he has aged so much faster physically and mentally I feel the same as when we got married but he has turned into a miserable old man we

aren't compatible now after 20 years of marriage

We were exactly the same ages when we got married as nexus63. Sadly my husband of 48 years past away 6 years ago, but we had a wonderful marriage and never noticed the age gap although one or two people in the past who did not know us, referred to him as my father. !!
I too would do it all over again