Age Gap Relationships

There's a 23 year age gap between husband and myself.So many people said it wouldn't last! We have been together 18 years and married for 9.Husband is older.Its been fun& people mistaking him for my grandad!??? It's something I never think about really,it seems to bother others more than us.

My first husband was 27yrs older than me and didn't last long (various problems including our ages), the second, 10yrs older, still didn't last but not down to the age gap this time. After those I had a partner who was only months older, we lasted about 12yrs but eventually bad things happened and I left him.

My current partner is 4yrs older, doesn't live with me and we seem to be muddling along pretty OK, so I think I've found my 'correct age gap' and maybe geography gap too!

My youngest child came home 6yrs ago (age 18) and said he was in a relationship with someone only 17months younger than ME, giving them a 26yr gap, I didn't dissuade him (how could I, it's his life and he has to live it and learn from it) but I used my experience and explained a few of the issues they might face and said that I would be here for him if he needed help or advice. Over 6yrs on, they have their ups and downs, I think we're all surprised it's lasted this long but like everyone else, they muddle through and get on with life.

My conclusion is that people manage age gaps differently. It takes a whole variety of people and ages to get on in this world and no-one can say that one age gap is right and another wrong, its different for us all.

I met a man 19 years younger than me online. Hot relationship!

My partner 4 years younger than me so no real issues especially as he now has a bus pass!!
However, I do have a friend who is 69 and husband of 90 and she is really struggling as he has started with dementia! She feels she is losing a good part of her life! She has had ovarian cancer and he had no idea what was happening so no support! She has very good friends ??

We’ve just had a scam ‘phone call from someone claiming to be from HMRC and wanting immediate payment of £3,000. I was sure it was a scam ( he was too insistent, threatened to send the police etc.) but it was frightening nonetheless. We contacted HMRC to confirm that it was a scam but I feel sick at the thought of what these scammers try to do to honest citizens. I ‘m angry. Just needed to share.

There is 8yrs difference between myself and my husband, I am 71 and he is 63. We got together when I was 40, after my marriage ended and I had been on my own for 10yrs. He was 32 and had never married! I never really noticed the age difference, and he always enjoyed telling people he was my Toy Boy. Over the last few years I have noticed the age difference more. I have had a few health issues and he is still very fit and wanting to do more adventurous things than me, like getting a round the world ticket, when we can, and have the money. He loves to travel and now I think I am holding him back. He saids I'm not but there are times I think he is now feeling the age cap!

My husband is 5 years older than me, not a big difference now but it sometimes was when we were first married as I was 16 and he was 21. Still we have been married for almost 49 years and still happy together.

My partner is 10 years younger (I'm 70) so I'm retired but he is still working. Suits me ?

I'm 16 years older than my (second) husband. He was 25 and I was 41 when we first got together. We married 9 years later (I celebrated my 50th birthday on honeymoon in Cuba). Next month will be our 20th wedding anniversary!

As a young person I dated much older men.
Dd father was 15 years older.
Now I'm facing 50 I'm dating (when we are allowed again) younger men ?
I have a rule though, they cannot be too close in age with my dd, that wouldn't seem right ?
I have never been married.

My husband was 15 years older than me.. we was married 39 years when he passed away 2017.. although I wouldn't have changed anything . been alone from 61 years old is very lonely.. you sometimes think if I'd have married someone closer to my age I wouldn't be in this situation.

I had a father who was 20 years older than my mother . I hated children asking if he was my grandfather . He had had a hard life and suffered some terrible personal losses but all I knew was he was not the dad I would ever have chosen. I was 12 when he died and cannot say I ever missed him . I did not miss the physical punishment he inflicted on my yet his son who was grown up before I was born always told me he never raised a hand to him . On th other hand DD has a DH wo is 18 years older than she is and they are very happy.

My husband is 6 days older than me! I let him know about it for 6 days every year!

My parents had almost 12 years between them, dad being older, I often wonder if he chose mum so she could look after him in old age! If he did it didn't work as she died at 65, and he lived to 101!

14 year Age gap here.
I am 75, he is 61.

Doesn’t seem to bother us.

It would seem that it’s OK for a man to be much older than a woman in a relationship but not vice versa.

My husband is 11 years younger than me. I don’t think about it now really though some eyebrows were raised when we first met. Most people seem to assume we are about the same age...

I think they are fraught with problems particularly if you are in your 20's or 30's and you meet someone alot older. My friend aged 31 married a man who was 52 and he had grown up children, so did not want any more kids, also because they had alway had pets when the kids were young he did not want any pets either because in his words "a dog is as tying as a child", so for years she went without a baby substitute too. Too many sacrifices made by the younger partner in my opinion,

My husband is 10 years younger than me. We married when I was 50 (and him 40 of course!). My daughter is slightly nearer to his age than I am. We have not noticed the difference at all and I am sure he has kept me younger and more active - I am now 74. We both do a lot of pretty tough exercise every day, eat very healthily and enjoy everything we do. I only hope it will continue for a long time yet.........

My partner is 13 years younger than me. We’ve been together over 20 years. I’m told I look and act young for my age so the years are not obvious. We get on well, he was still at school when I got married to my ex which we always laugh about. But the age gap makes little difference to us. It does worry me that he may be left behind if I die first but I’m actually fitter than him so that may not happen.

I am 2 years (minus 10 days!) older than DH. We muddle along quite nicely thank you and have done for 39 years!

Men drive this one - they are all obsessed with having a younger wife/girlfriend once they are over 30.they can't deal with ageing. I don't understand why more women don't have sex and/or relationships with younger men - I really enjoyed this when I divorced my emotionally stunted husband - I had a lot of fun and was never interested in older boring sexist men again

Almost eleven years between my husband and me. I love it when people think he’s the older one, which has happened a few times ?
We’ve been together for 19 years so far.

Jaibee007

Men drive this one - they are all obsessed with having a younger wife/girlfriend once they are over 30.they can't deal with ageing. I don't understand why more women don't have sex and/or relationships with younger men - I really enjoyed this when I divorced my emotionally stunted husband - I had a lot of fun and was never interested in older boring sexist men again

I think you have a point. My ex was 34 when we got together, I was 19.
He told me he’d never find anyone else when we broke up after 18 years. Luckily he did and she’s younger than me by a year or so.

My DH is 16 years older than me, and we have now been married for 34 years, and have two daughters, aged 30 and 32. Yes the fittest one of the two of us now, and is my carer, we home that he's the Brawn, and I'm the Brains as I'm better at sorting out problems and handling the household and financial side of things, whilst he's better at doing the physical chores of day to day living.
We have both been married before, and he has an adult son from his first Marriage who he is estranged from through no fault of his own, but is only 5 years younger than me, which did feel rather strange on the odd occasion that I met him. I also had three daughters from my first Marriage when I was 19, although sadly lost one to Cancer 5 years ago.