How often do your adult children call?

DD is not big on phone calls, so she rarely ring us unless it’s that lovely expression that Baggs used - “a phone call of purpose”. We have a family Whatsapp group, and they will FaceTime us occasionally. DS rings or FaceTimes every week and is never lost for conversation! Personally, I don’t care for FaceTime; I find it rather trying, but it’s the only chance I get to actually see him now. I haven’t seen him in the flesh for nearly a year, so technology is the glue that is holding us together these days, is it not?

DD messages several times a day, lives within walking distance.
DS rarely but I do speak/hear from our DIL most days.

We have lots of WhatsApping to and fro in normal times, but just the occasional call, nearly always "of purpose". We're lucky, we live close enough to all our DC to see them regularly, though obviously not so much right now. We've added weekly family Zoom quizzes to the mix since last March, and they've been ringing us every couple of weeks or so.

I have one daughter and we are in contact on a weekly basis as a minimum. No 1 son is a huffy little git and has fallen out with me and I have no idea what for, I guess it's my turn. He hasn't spoken to number 2 son for 10 years and No 2 doesn't know why. He's always been huffy even as a baby. No 2 son and I are in weekly contact as a minimum and No 3 son calls me intermittently when it suits or when he needs a hand with a bail out - much less often these days than it used to be. I think the important thing is they know I'm here for them and, if the chips were down they would be there for me. We're all different.

Eldest Daughter every day on video call, text or messenger.
Youngest (22) still lives with me

One DD used to call only to out babysitting. Now it is never!

Thank you all!
It’s amazing how different our AC are.
I don’t think frequency is important, it’s just good families are in touch.
One or two sad stories, in these cases it’s always important to keep the door open.

Interesting post. My only child, a son, phoned me couple times a week though in beginning of the shock lockdown every day. What hurts is my DIL who has never phoned me for a year when in normal times I used to do so much to help her and their two children. Please can someone help me with all the shortened names for members of the family - just can’t figure them out. Only one I’ve got is DIL

i have one son, he has always been good at phoning even when he suddemly went from the TA to serving for 6 months in iraq years ago, now he leaves it up to my daughter in law, i am on facebook every day so we message and she puts up pics and videos of the children, when i had cancer 2 years ago he called every day and even called the hospital in case i was not telling him everything...lol

My DS lives in Ireland...calls approx once every 6 weeks...I used to get hurt but now I figure if he isn’t ringing then he’s happy and getting on fine.....on the other hand, I ring my parents every single day at least once a day, but then they are very elderly...

DD every day
DS probably once every three months.

Hardly ever but we are in toudc daily with Whatsapp and the like

ALl live locally, text on WhatsApp generally, check in as we call it once week depending on how busy

Like kittylester we have a variety of WhatsApp groups so there is daily text/photo/video chat on there.

Number 1 lives in NZ and she Facetimes regularly.
Number 2 calls her dad and me individually several times a week.
Number 3 Facetimes us about 3 times a week, usually from the bathroom while his daughter is in the bath.
Number 4 FaceTimes almost every day. He lives, (and due to the pandemic currently also works) alone in a very isolated hamlet.

Our Number 2 is also our business advisor so we’re currently speaking much more often than is usual.

I remember when my sister got married, being shocked to discover her husband spoke to his mum every day - and now I am that mum!

How frequently my children call is not something that I keep track of but I would say both Son and Daughter call at least a couple of times a week.
Son calls around to mine maybe a couple of times a week as quite a lot of his ‘stuff’ is still here, mainly paperwork, a lot of which is still delivered here and one of his vintage cars in my garage and his caravan parked on my drive. Luckily, it has room for several cars, so I don’t complain.
Daughter and family live literally across the road, so I tend to wander over whenever I feel like it.
All my family have a key to my house, including Grandchildren and I have keys for my Daughter's house but not my Sons.
No one needs to call if they are coming round, just let themselves in, Son usually rummages in fridge before saying hello.

SheilsM

Interesting post. My only child, a son, phoned me couple times a week though in beginning of the shock lockdown every day. What hurts is my DIL who has never phoned me for a year when in normal times I used to do so much to help her and their two children. Please can someone help me with all the shortened names for members of the family - just can’t figure them out. Only one I’ve got is DIL

Take a look at the 'Acronyms' tag at the top of the page. They're not all there, but a good few are.

DS FaceTime’s us about once. Month.
DD calls when she either wants something or wants to know the answer to something. Both of which now happen once in a blue moon as she’s learned to stand on her own two feet.

My two daughter call at least once a day and message and WhatsApp. I think it’s because I called my mom every day so it’s a family thing. However if they don’t call I panic and think there is a problem and have to call them