FannyCornforth
Don't judge your inside against other people's outside - everyone is putting on an act to some degree
Fake it till you make it
Honestly, you really aren't alone in feeling this way. You are very brave to admit it
I totally agree with this - years ago I read an article by Maureen Lipman, where she said that she was quaking inside and everyone else seemed to have it all together - and I realised that, very probably, everyone we perceive as being confident, coping etc quite likely isn't - and that they're feeling just as wobbly as me.
And definitely fake it til you make it - bizarrely, I started doing party plan by accident - I was utterly terrified at standing up in front of people and talking to them - so I pretended that I was acting - playing the part of a confident, successful woman...and that is what everyone saw. And the 'act' became part of me, and no longer an act - because I realised that I COULD do it, and that I was as good as anyone else.
You've got this Berylsgranny