left out of mothers will

We had a will from Dad that left everything shared equally between the three children and I was the executor. My brother had caused difficulties with the family all his life and my sister wanted me to not give him his allotted one third share. I explained that it was my responsibility to do what Dad wanted. And I did. My brother accused me of not giving him his fair share and my sister accused me of not sharing the money between the two of us who cared for mum and dad till their death. It was terrible!

Spec1alk you have to do what it states in your Fathers will, not want anyone else wants!

It isn’t a matter of choice it’s the law!
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Sunny beam, I’m so sorry for the pain that this is causing you. Have you thought of finding a psychodynamic counsellor to help you to move on from the pain that your mother has caused and is causing now? I have found such a counsellor to be a godsend. With work, they could help you to reduce your pain now and also help you in the future, when your mum dies.

If she had lived in Scotland you could claim against the will despite her wishes . You can claim against the movable estate so not a house but money , shares etc.. This is sometimes fair and sometimes unfait . My uncle left all his money to one son for a good reason but his two siblings put in a claim and got their share . This caused extra costs because of solisitor's fees and was not what my uncle wanted.

My mum and her brother fell out when I was a child. Mum had looked after their parents, my uncle lived hundreds of miles away and couldn't.

My grandparents left their house to my mum, and the contents to my uncle. My uncle was very upset about this. Eventually, when I got married and went to visit him on the way home from my honeymoon, they sorted out their problems and a good relationship was restored, my uncle realising that Mum had earned the house for the caring she had done.

We all visited each other quite often after that.

My FiL left his house and money to be divided equally, even though DH and I did most of his care, DH's sister doing what she could from a distance and his brother doing very little despite being local.

I dont think leaving money should be related to who does the most care. We care for elderly parents because we want to, not for a monetary reward.

You're right mumofmadboys. It shouldn't be a reward for services rendered. It should be the decision of the person making the will, because that's what they want to do with their property. There shouldn't be any influence from any family members.