I understand the overwhelming love, although it very much a one step back relationship and not the same as being a mother. No one can tell you not to love your grandchildren the way you do, we are all different, However unless you are put in a position to become their parent, and it does happen, circumstances have made that the case with a few posters on GN. At the moment I'm thinking in particular, having read about them at the moment, of the parents of the young woman murdered by her husband in Greece who have won full custody of their grand daughter, those grandparents will step in and become the parents, extraordinary heart breaking circumstances and I'm inclined to think when grandparents do take on that role some sort of trauma has occurred. I'm kind of agreeing with Sue Donin though, I think there is a great resentment among young mothers, and I understand why, when mothers/fathers or in laws, try and usurp their position. Clearly they aren't yours and really it's irrational and unreasonable to think they are. We've all had our shot at motherhood, it's time to stand back and reap the rewards of an entirely different and sometimes less stressful a relationship imo.