Mollygo said I do wonder how anyone who purports to be a feminist can be so dismissive of the concerns of women. I am pointing out that not ALL women are fighting for equality. Just being female doesn't mean infallibility.
I think Molly meant that she wonders how people who claim to be feminists can also be TRAs, when there is such an obvious conflict of interest, but obviously she can correct me if I'm wrong.
After that, I've lost the thread of what you are saying. 'Not all women are fighting for equality'. Yes, that's clearly true. Some of them will always put men first.
'Just being female doesn't mean infallibility' Again, clearly true, but what it has to do with the previous statement is not clear.
That a woman can sometimes be in the wrong, and that there are times when men have concerns that need to be addressed is a given; as is the fact that when it is clear that the scales of justice weigh in favour of men then they have to be considered.
Nobody is saying that every woman should always be put first. The point made upthread is that when there is a conflict, and one set of rights has to take precedence, a feminist will support the female rights over the male ones.