Good Morning Friday 20th August 2021

On no Marydoll we would all miss the wonderful novellas. I’m sure there are no rules, long posts help us to get to know more about each other and short ones let us know that we are all present.
I think that the only rule that Mick would suggest is that we remain pleasant to one and all.

Your dig didn’t quite work did it Sal?

What a nasty, ridiculous post. No one runs the show as you now know!

I’m in the same boat as you Grammaretto
I have always read the thread through first before posting. By the time I come to post, so many names have been highlighted for special mention and unless I scroll back to double check, I fear I may offend someone if I don’t mention them too so, I very rarely post now which is a pity as I have been posting since our lovely gentle GM thread was stared by Mick

I do wonder if this is why other long-standing members no longer post.

Marydoll. I love your posts. I read this thread every day and the variety of posts, makes it so interesting. Don’t stop posting. Your report today was especially happy and gives me empathy and hope about a situation in my own family.

Can I second what lauraNorder and feeling my age has said.

You have all misunderstood. What I was trying to say was that way back in the beginning, everyone posted just a few lines and I think I may be partly responsible for the change of dynamics and started my ramblings, Marydoll's epistles to the Goodmorningers.
I totally get what Kalu is saying. Sometimes I can't keep up, (brain fog) so mention no-one, rather than miss someone out and upset them. It's not that I don't care.
Everyone should feel comfortable about posting and that bothers me.

Marydoll I think the thread has evolved naturally to become more conversational.

Some days I struggle with my vision and reading and posting becomes hard. On those days it’s a quick ‘hello, goodbye’. Other days I may comment on someone else’s post if it strikes a chord with me. Some days I even have news to share . Some days I don’t feel like talking. That’s OK too.

I don’t feel compelled to post in a certain way and I think the only rule is ‘Don’t be an ass!’. This is a great thread, let’s all do our bit to keep it that way.

I’ve been on this thread for eleven years. It has become more conversational and if that’s what people want, it’s fine, but I have noticed recently comments that clearly refer to conversations started the day before as there is no point of reference in the current day. I find this confusing and disconcerting and would respectfully ask that people try not to do it if at all possible.

I am fairly new here, just 2 years but I feel that everyone is very supportive and people should post how they see fit. I rarely mention other posts but some people remember everything, so be it. Let’s just post the way we want to, just because I don’t mention flamingos does not mean I don’t care for the woes of Iris, it just means I don’t want to mention it that day.
Try not to take this thread too personally, we are mostly virtual friends and it is just a way of checking in on a daily basis. For some, like myself can go three days without talking to another person and it keeps me focused and at least makes me feel that someone is interested in what I have to say. (Even if they are not really?)
Let’s just be happy with the way things are.

I agree scentia. Just let us ramble on, uncritically, unjudgementally, in a friendly manner.
Although I have a chap at home, I am much heartened by the kindness of all my virtual friends here. I rarely if ever post on any other thread but find this one particularly kind.

Good evening everyone, we have had a dull cloudy, but dry day here in Weymouth. As long as it isn't raining or blowing a gale, my friend and I go out every Wednesday for a drive to somewhere differant, we take a picnic and according to the weather, will eat outside the car sitting in our chairs, Usually with a beautiful view. If its cool we eat in the car, and always then take a walk. We are both oldies and feel it helps so much to get out and away from where you live for just a day. \sitting at home to much indoors, dulls the mind and body. To relax and admire a beautiful view does wonders for depression.

I think Gd makes a valid point.

How do you all remember everything? I think that is one of the things that makes the GM thread feel a bit cliquey.

I have thought long and hard about posting this, but it needs to be said and no-one seems willing to actually verbalise it, they just hint.

Whether unintentional or not, why does nearly every poster have to be named in certain posts, with a comment? What if you are one of the few left out? It does happen. How does that person, who has been left out feel, when everyone else has been included. That is what is making me uncomfortable, as we have some very vulnerable posters.

I tend to agree with GreyDuster.
I'm certainly not advocating , not mentioning posters by name, I have no issue with that, I do it, but not a whole list of names, with comments.

Please be mindful of the feelings of people who contribute to this thread, it's supposed to be supportive. I know of regulars who have stopped posting because of this.
It also makes new posters reluctant to post and we should be inclusive.

I know this will not be well received, but it has been niggling away for ages.

For many years I have enjoyed reading the GM posts and totally agree with Scentia and GrandMattie's posts.
Would miss your novello's Marydoll if you didn't post them.
Pleased that things are improving for you family wise.
Pleased to see Urms back posting even though it's not from M/c. Hope your son as a bed now GM and pleased re Iris.Take careNorsat and Birthday greetings toOops and Grammaretto.

Sadly, I think this proves Marydoll’s point exactly.

I must admit I post less and less for the reason that Marydoll has given.

Whilst I occasionally mention a particular poster, more often I just send good wishes to all in general. Just sometimes a comment strikes a chord.

I do hope no one is put off posting on this usually lovely thread. I really enjoy hearing everyone’s news and it is nice to feel that others have you in mind when you are feeling down or to share happy times as well.

ginny, that is not what I am referring to. Nothing wrong with mentioning individuals.

What I have posted is my perception of things, I'm not asking anyone to agree.

Sorry but I really don't like the way this thread had been deemed by a few members to not be progressing the way they think it should.

No wonder many of us no longer post and perceive a clique of members who think they should be the judge of what other posters write.

Why the heck shouldn't some posters refer to previous member's comments and reply to things that have happened in other people's posts ?

To me this shows a very caring person who takes a real interest in the cares or good times in the lives of other people.

I would be very sorry if some of these lovely people think they should stop mentioning people by their name and giving them a heads up that someone is reading their comments and takes the time to respond.

Saturday morning here and a whole lot better than yesterday. Bright , warm and sunny for once. They are talking about stopping us buying takeaway food and coffee now. If they do that I will revolt along with many others. What are they thinking? Talk about Stalag 2021. Who’d live in Eastern Australia just now? Madness.

Marydoll I thought I was agreeing with what you said.
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Ginny, I am sorry I misunderstood, I didn't mean to offend you. Sorry that is not my way!

Fatgran, I never suggested stopping mentioning people by name, that is NOT what I said. Please stop trying to twist my comments.

When just about everyone, who has posted that day, has been named in a post and a poster is left out on many occasions, that concerns me. That is not a coincidence. I am speaking from my own experience and it is not a very nice feeling. Do you read or post on the thread every day? I do, so I know what I am talking about.

I don't plan to post for a few days on the GM thread, just letting my friends know. This week has been particularly upsetting , I just need to regroup.

Sorry Marydoll I did misunderstand what you meant and I now understand where you are coming from.

I wasn't trying to twist your comments. I do read the thread every day.

No offence taken Marydoll. I can see what you mean now.
Please keep on with your posts , which I enjoy very much. ?

Thank you for that, Fatgran. I hope things are not too bad in Tasmania at the moment.

I apologise too! I obviously haven't made myself very clear. Its just that I find this all quite upsetting.