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Grandmajb Mon 06-Sept-21 22:55:19

After three and a half years since losing my husband I would like to find male companionship. I don’t want another husband or live in partner, just someone to enjoy spending time with, maybe have lunch or dinner with, go for days out with, cinema, theatre. But where can you find such a companion. I have had a short dabble with dating sites and these are not the right places. Any thoughts ladies?

Chardy Tue 07-Sept-21 11:37:26

This thread made me think if Cilla Black, who, once widowed, had a host of male mates to escort her - Paul O'Grady, Dale Winton, Christopher Biggins.

Redhead56 Tue 07-Sept-21 11:45:22

I have male friends and still do we treat each other as equals they are like brothers. I have known them most of my life and I would trust them with my life.

Jackiest Tue 07-Sept-21 12:41:34

I have friends both male and female and it is the fact that they are friends that is important not their gender.

Ro60 Tue 07-Sept-21 15:28:49

They are few & far between I find & these days seem to be looking for a carer.
Good luck though.

Jaxjacky Tue 07-Sept-21 15:35:54

My best friend of over 40 years is male, we both have heterosexual partners of over 20 years. But we still go out for a drink together, discuss shared interests, sometimes shared history as we both worked for the same company. I have more male friends than female, never a sniff of anything other than being mates.

Redhead56 Tue 07-Sept-21 15:50:16

My best friend was a male colleague I worked with when I was young. He was a lot older than me I left work to have my children. I decided not to go back it was my original intention. We stayed good friends for over thirty years until he died I adored him. Someone here said it's not about whether it's a male or female friend. So true I have other friends but my friend who died was my soul mate.

Bluebellwould Tue 07-Sept-21 15:58:54

Since being widowed in 2018 my libido knows no bounds, I’ve turned into a rampant old woman. I have no friends male or female due to circumstances so resort to ogling quietly. ?
Having said that, the thought being intimate with anyone but my husband makes me sick. I just couldn’t do it, knocking bits with a strange man yuck.
However, if Jason Mamoa or Jason Statham happened to find themselves in my bed…….?

Esspee Tue 07-Sept-21 16:07:30

I find it rather sad that so many women on here see a sexual relationship as something to be avoided. Come on! Is nobody looking to be swept off their feet and made love to?

Bluebellwould Tue 07-Sept-21 17:09:06

Esspee, I was married for forty years from age of 19. We grew and experimented together with love at the base of everything. He survived 7 years of chemo and horrible treatments that left him physically unable to be romantic but we still tried. It was something wonderful and special between us both, where we knew each other’s wants and desires.
The thought of sex with someone else is like stomping on his bones. It just makes me feel so sick and disloyal. It might sound stupid but I can’t ever do it again.
I hope other people can get over the death of a partner and move on but I’m sadly stuck. I never thought I’d become a virgin aged 59 !

BlueBelle Tue 07-Sept-21 17:16:59

Chardy werent Cilas escorts all gay ???
esspee no no no thanks ?not me

Esspee Tue 07-Sept-21 17:17:16

Would your husband have wanted you to live alone for the rest of your life Bluebellwould?

Kandinsky Tue 07-Sept-21 18:55:02

Esspee
I’m only in my 50’s but if my husband died I’d never have sex again. The thought of having sex with another man makes me feel a bit sick tbh.
Plus, knowing my luck I’d catch HIV on my 1st sexual encounter.
No, I’d be happily single for the rest of my life.

Riaann Mon 03-Mar-25 02:29:01

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Cossy Mon 03-Mar-25 10:25:39

Chardy

This thread made me think if Cilla Black, who, once widowed, had a host of male mates to escort her - Paul O'Grady, Dale Winton, Christopher Biggins.

😂😂😂😂 All lovely and gay!

Cossy Mon 03-Mar-25 10:27:11

Kandinsky

Esspee
I’m only in my 50’s but if my husband died I’d never have sex again. The thought of having sex with another man makes me feel a bit sick tbh.
Plus, knowing my luck I’d catch HIV on my 1st sexual encounter.
No, I’d be happily single for the rest of my life.

Me too! But then I have lovely, not at all boring, female friends, who are all very different but always up for a giggle and chat. I also have one very lovely, very long standing male friend, he’s gay!