Driving

I definitely let my husband do most of the driving, although he'd probably like me to do more, in spite of suffering from motion sickness when he's a passenger. My journeys are pretty short really, I don't really enjoy driving so much, I ought to push myself a bit more.

We still have 2 cars, and since dh’s is bigger, we usually use his for long journeys, and he’ll drive. I often offer to take over but he’s happy.

I’m happy to drive my own, except at night on unlit country roads. Deteriorating night vision would seem to be a hazard of getting on a bit. Motorways don’t bother me - not even the hideous 6 lane bit of the M25 I have to brave on the way to a dd in Oxford.

My mother got right out of the habit of driving once my father retired, so once he became seriously ill, it was a major Thing for her to get back behind the wheel - she’d never been super- confident anyway. But she did it, and carried on driving until she was about 80, when she became even more nervous in traffic.

why do people ask their husband whether/when they can drive.
sounds like a parent/child relationship.

Oh, Lincslass I drive an SUV, but colour my hair! ??

We’re on holiday at the moment in Weston super Mare, I drove, from near Southampton and I’ll drive back. When we used to drive down to the Dordogne for 6 months, we took both our cars, I was lead driver, I enjoy driving.

Charleygirl5

I no longer drive on motorways or in the dark and I only drive locally. Men see a lady with grey hair and think it absolutely fine to undertake or hoot while driving past me at 60mph in a 30 mile area. I doubt if they reach their destination any quicker.

Ha, I’ve noticed this, and I include women in this, especially in an Audi, Mercedes or a SUV.. Still always a pleasure to see them stuck at the next set of traffic lights, as I pull up beside them, they are invariably in the middle lane as they don’t want to get stuck behind someone going left.Happens frequently in my home town, let alone a motorway.

I was all prepared to drive to visit a friend in hospital yesterday when DH said ‘the weather is filthy so I will drive’. I’m glad he did it was an awful journey.

Since I retired 17 years ago I have driven less each year, especially since DH retired 14 years ago. We have a bus service a short walk away and the buses to town are every 15 minutes so I tend to take the bus more and more. We are lucky enough to have free rail travel so tend to take the train for long journeys.

Another one guilty of letting DH do most of the driving. I only seem to drive locally, don’t like night driving, in fact have never really enjoyed driving, only learnt at 17 as you needed to be able to drive, living in the country.

I had to give up driving because I have AMD. Cancelled my car insurance today. It will be a problem because husband has had a stroke and can't drive. Just have to use taxis.

I love driving too. I suppose it’s one of the benefits of being widowed at a comparatively young age. I had to do long drives by myself and there was nobody to sap my confidence.

Now I do most of the driving to see friends because they’ll only do local roads. They say thank you for making the effort but truthfully driving gives me back more well-being than it takes. I love employing my brain, making judgements and reactions to other traffic.

My equivalent to doing puzzles?

I love driving. Assuming I’m still otherwise fit, they’ll be prising my car out of my cold, dead hands. Dh and I pretty much share the driving, though we have two cars so we each mostly drive our own vehicle. Not that I mind a spin myself in his two-seater!

In normal times we’re up and down to London from Aberdeen several times a year and we share that. Whoever draws the short straw has to drive through the never-ending roadworks on the M6, hehe! The best bit is the M6/M74 through Cumbria. Sweeping, uncrowded roads and beautiful vistas. What more could you ask for?

I think it's pretty important to keep driving skills up. Two of my friends recently discovered nervousness at the prospects of dual carriageway and have now limited themselves to local only but are finding that decidedly inconvenient. I keep my hand in regularly to try to avoid this.

rosie1959

My husband does the driving he is a terrible passenger and can feel quesy if not driving
Funny how he is totally fine with me driving on the pub collection runs or driving home after a night out

I can't stand being a passenger with my husband. He is so impatient. He was talking about getting a campervan and I said to my friend if he gets one, it wont be a big one as I wont drive it and I sure as hell not sitting next to him IF HE DRIVES IT

I love driving and really missed it during lockdown. That said, when we are out together dh nearly always drives.

I love driving and have always done most of it when we are together. I actually don’t like being driven! My foot nearly goes through the floor as I sit there wondering why the driver is so close to the person in front!

I do a round trip of about 900 miles when I go to visit my daughter or father.
I've always driven a lot, but am finding night driving more difficult at the moment.

I do all the driving because I don't have a choice, but I like driving and would hate to be dependent on someone else.

My husband was a class one police driver so he did most of the driving. I didn’t learn to drive until I was 30 but used to enjoy it. He was an excellent passenger and was very calm and used to just give me tips like ‘don’t strangle the steering wheel’. I don’t leave the house unless to go the doctors which is just around the corner so have lost most of my confidence. I just don’t need to go anywhere these days.

I absolutely love driving and always have since passing my test at 17 in my own car . The prospect of not being being able to drive for any reason fills me with horror . Living in a rural location with very limited public transport would be a prison sentence to me without a car.
I love being in the car, the physical driving experience and the freedom .

My husband and I have always shared the driving, and when he is the passenger he is the DJ selecting music ? for me which is another one of my passions.

I no longer drive on motorways or in the dark and I only drive locally. Men see a lady with grey hair and think it absolutely fine to undertake or hoot while driving past me at 60mph in a 30 mile area. I doubt if they reach their destination any quicker.

Orlin almost always drives if we go out together. During covid this has been most of the time so I must put my foot down, not on the accelerator of course.
Thanks for this thread, it needs flagging up.

I too have an impatient husband; always telling me off about routes I take etc, etc... So I let him drive.
One year we had Saga's chauffeur service to the Airport and a lady driver turned up. You should have seen his face! All the way to Heathrow he sulked in the back, not able to say a word. She was excellent btw.

I hate driving. We only bought a car during lockdown due to the lack of public transport. Before then we were happy with buses, trains and taxis.
I'm glad we have one now as we can go to places not accessible by public transport, but DH always drives. I have lost confidence, even though I used to be happy driving in France. But we lived in a rural hamlet with little traffic and now we're in a town which is congested nearly all day.
I'll have to get my confidence back but I don't know when that will be.