Dogs on beds

My first dog of three I was told not to allow on bed...later I so regretted that because when he was not well I would have loved to have had him on my bed to keep an eye on him instead once I had to lie on the kitchen floor. I had said 'no' so many times when he was a puppy he could not relax on my bed. So my next one was welcome and such a joy till she had some kind of stroke when she was five after which she would only sleep by dog flap in the kitchen and is often in the garden. She got spooked by something in my house during a thunderstorm and only comes up to my bed if there are fireworks when she lays on top of me to protect me. So another dog and she is bliss. she nestles up at night and at any time I feel anxious just reach my hand out and give her a stroke...so calming as it is proved by the oxytocin that is released. I bless my luck and my Schnoodle Ivy x. Not all dogs are good bed companions but if you find one it's the best thing ever. During fireworks Ivy is under the bed.

Chestnut

Why not just keep the bedroom door shut. The idea of having an animal in your bed turns my stomach. If you could see all the non-human micro organisms between the fur and in the saliva maybe you wouldn't do it, but it's your choice of course. Just remember where they might have been sniffing and licking on their last walk.

You are clearly someone who has never owned a dog or any animal. Far too fussy and quite ignorant about how humans interact with animals. I have always owned dogs and yes, I now have a dog who has his own bed in our bedroom since one of my lovely dogs died and he no longer wanted to sleep in the kitchen by the Aga like he had always done. Dogs are not dirty as you clearly employ.

Fine if it’s your bed, but Please not in a hotel.

All my dogs have slept on my bed except an elderly rescue dog who never learnt to climb the stairs.

Your dog, your house, your bed, so your rules.

I myself wouldn't share my bed with a dog, if I had one, but have happily shared it with every cat I have ever had.

Our Bichon sleeps in-between us in bed every night.

Suggest you tell your friend to mind her own beeswax!
It is your dog and if you are happy with it sleeping on your bed, that is up to you.
I personally wouldn't allow that, but my last cat used to sleep on my bed, my current one sleeps on my laundry basket at the end of my bed. As long as you practice sensible hygiene, keep up with the flea drops etc it's fine.
Having a pet sleep on your bed,can be great company at night, it's totally up to you if you allow it.

You are not the only one OP. Nowadays there are untold numbers of dog owners who turn their pets into child substitutes for their own gratification.
I love dogs. Dogs who are allowed to be dogs. Ones who walk to heel because they wish to obey their owner. Who are respected for all their wonderful qualities and treated appropriately which most certainly does not include taking them into your bed.

I've had dog's all of my life - I currently have 3 and they all sleep in my bedroom.
On not in the bed.
One will have a stroke and cuddle and then he goes off to his own bed (at the side of mine) and the remaining two sleep at the end of the bed on their blanket.

Through a pretty awful couple of years, they have given me more comfort, pleasure, affection and laughter than the majority of people.
My view is also, my dogs, my house so my rules.
I talk to them too....

I agree Esspee, also most dogs I’ve known have been working animals rather than pets.

in 2012, I remember Radio4 had a discussion on this subject. 50% admitted to allowing their doggies to share the bed, I would not have it any other way! My dogs, my business!

Neen, your doggy is gorgeous xxx

Shielall, your doggies are so cute xxx

Thank you everyone . I think I just took it to heart as the friend and I have known eachother a long time. I decided to say sod it ( not actually verbally ), and she still sleeps on the bed and we are still best of friends ( the dog and I that is ha )

Your relationship with your dog sounds lovely Neen and mutually loving and happy. It doesn’t matter what anyone else things. Our two (small) dogs sleep on our bed too. Before them, I had two largish dogs and they slept with me too. Enjoy her!

She777

My dog passed away last Tuesday. She slept on or bed every night, she was my confidante, I auditioned for X Factor to her and she told me not to bother, she was my whole world. I think each to their own if you want to have your pet as a member of the family you should and don’t let anyone else tell you how to live your life.

Sorry to read about your loss She777. It breaks our hearts when we lose them doesn’t it?

Esspee

You are not the only one OP. Nowadays there are untold numbers of dog owners who turn their pets into child substitutes for their own gratification.
I love dogs. Dogs who are allowed to be dogs. Ones who walk to heel because they wish to obey their owner. Who are respected for all their wonderful qualities and treated appropriately which most certainly does not include taking them into your bed.

Oh, Esspee, that's rather harsh.

Child substitutes? Not at all.

How are dogs being allowed to be dogs if you expect them to walk to heel because they obey their owner?

Keep up the good work, Neen. The love of a dog is a wonderful part of many people's lives.

Not everyone gets it

She's gorgeous Neen and I think you should do what you want-it's nobody else's business.

My dogs both used to sleep on my bed, to me dogs are part of the family. Never understood dogs not being allowed home comforts.

Agree Atqui - not in hotel beds please.

Our first dog didn’t want to come on the bed with us but our affectionate Fieldspaniel loves a cuddle. He sleeps on the landing and our bedroom door is open. He’s allowed on the bed after 6am and he’s like an alarm clock, promptly nudging me at 6 on the dot asking to come up

I don't have children but my dogs are definitely not child substitutes. One's dogs always pleased to see us, never get cross with us and don't yell at us.

Stick with what you are doing. You and your dog obviously enjoy your lives together.

I love my 2 little Jack Russel terriers in bed with me. Would not have it any other way.
No harm done to anyone.
I just have a bit more bed changing to do .

Neen, You are not alone in treating your dog like this but that doesn't make it right. Treat your dog as a dog, not a spoiled child.