Multigenerational home

I was ? to read this!
High time to tell them, your house, your rules, OP.
If they don’t like it, they are of course free to find somewhere else to live.
If you’re providing free childcare as well as housing, I must say it strikes me that they’re taking the p**s.

My DD is trying to establish her own business from scratch and now I feel that I’ll give her a year to get it started then they will need to move on.

Tell her that now.
Also tell them how illegal, as well as dangerous, it was to let the child go out on the scaffolding.
And that you won't give in on safety on another occasion.

Have you locked the window?

I can see the newspaper headlines!
It’s atrocious parenting and a safeguarding issue.

Is this for real !? If it is Liveinn it is time you told your daughter and her family to move out ! Your GDs parents are irresponsible and social services would be very interested indeed. Who in their right mind would allow a four year old to do this - absolute madness!!!! You know this is wrong , protect your GC. If there was an accident on your property you would be filled with remorse. Your house your rules ! A four year old child has no concept of danger and she will be feeling very smug that her desire has been fulfilled! Can't blame the child , but do blame the parents . this is absolutely NOT RIGHT. If they are sufficiently irresponsible to allow this to happen they should do it on their own premises, not yours . Stand your ground !!! If they stay with you rent free the very least they can do is accept your rules. Put your big girl knickers on and stand up for yourself.

The journalist Katherine Whitehorn commented once that if she had doubts about letting her children do any particular activity, she would ask herself 'What would the Coroner say?' One can only imagine what he or she might say on dealing with the potential result of this particular activity.

your house your rules

Never easy/advisable to have multigenerational homes, not for long anyway. The sooner they have their own place the better.

Rosina I don’t want to sidetrack the thread, but I work with homeless and other people with particular vulnerabilities and the question, ‘What would the Coroner say?’ is one that guides many of my own actions when I’m dealing with difficult situations. ?

I would also like to add that many years go, a caretaker at a school I was working at had the tragic experience of having to cope with his son’s death. Unbeknown to him, his eight year old son had been playing on scaffolding on the school building at the time and had fallen onto the playground tarmac.
It resulted in the caretaker deciding to have an operation to reverse his vasectomy so that he and his wife could try for another baby, and they were successful.

I sincerely hope, Liveinnan, that this experience of your daughter and her partner undermining your authority in your own home will lead to a better way of going forward for all of you from now on.

Wow you are amazing to do all you do for them! Definitely your house your rules!

They shouldn’t have decided to have another child until able to support themselves either!

I would talk to them all and point out how they have upset you and that now keeping a four year old in line will be much harder.

Unbelievably dangerous actions on their half too!