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hollysteers Mon 04-Oct-21 23:13:14

Due to recent events, do you think you will curtail going out alone at night?

CleoPanda Wed 06-Oct-21 13:22:41

Sorry, appears to have posted twice! No idea why and apparently can’t delete on here?

Annsan Wed 06-Oct-21 13:37:13

I do. Use a torch and stay in reasonable closeness to houses

HurdyGurdy Wed 06-Oct-21 13:43:06

I would go out at night, but if alone, I would restrict it to the town I live in. I know which areas to avoid - some of which I'd hesitate to visit in daylight!

chris8888 Wed 06-Oct-21 13:52:37

I don`t go out much in the evening but would not be afraid too, its just my lifestyle is different now. I don`t think anything has changed. I was 15 (over 50 years ago) when I was molested at a bus stop by three grown men. I decided that I could be forever afraid to walk around or just carry on with my life.

Skydancer Wed 06-Oct-21 13:56:10

(I don't know where my last posting went. I think I pressed a button and it disappeared). But what I said was basically 'twas ever thus. There never was a golden age of safety was there? Attacks, murders, rapes and robbery have gone on from the beginning of time but now there are more humans so more of it. However I must add that I do think the internet has a lot to answer for.

Growing0ldDisgracefully Wed 06-Oct-21 14:04:47

Only if I have my own transport or a lift. Would not rely on unreliable public transport.

What worries me more, is my niece, who has to walk home from working on a pub. Not very far, about half a mile, but it's early hours of the morning, and the local authority turn off the street lighting about 11 pm, this making pitch black streets for people to walk home through.

Dee1012 Wed 06-Oct-21 14:06:46

I have several very large and, according to some, dogs of an intimidating breed.
I walk them on a regular basis and while always aware of my surroundings etc, will continue to do so.

However, in the past few years both my son and brother have been involved in incidents;
My son was on his way to the local G.P's surgery mid afternoon and was threatened by two youths and on another occasion was physically pushed by a woman in her mid 30's while waiting for public transport.
My brother was actually assaulted on his way home from work.

I actually worry more for them than myself.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 06-Oct-21 14:07:34

Yes, I would still feel safe going out in the evening or night, as long as I kept to the roads and streets that are lighted here.

I would not go for a walk in the local woods after dark, though,

This is probably illogical, but based on the fact that in the woods no-one would here if I called for help or screamed.

I would not walk along the unlit country lane in the dark, even although there are inhabited houses along it.

In no Danish city would I feel unsafe out after dark, but in the all there could well be areas I would avoid if on my own.

Deserted car parks? These would not bother me, but there is no way I would go into an underground parking facility at any hour of the day or night, or for that matter park by myself in one of the kind that are entirely built above ground level in stories. - There is just no way you can get to your car quickly enough in them, if danger threatened.

Daisymae Wed 06-Oct-21 14:07:55

Has it ever been any different? Walking home along country lanes as a teen I knew I was in danger and took avoiding action as a matter of course. I was once stalked by a car and managed to get home just as the car drove down our lane. My younger brother was the only one in and he grabbed the double barrelled shotgun, flicked all the outside lights on and we had a standoff. I mentioned it to him recently and he said that if anyone had got out of the car he was going to shoot. He would have been 15 at the time and that was over 50 years ago.

KathrynP Wed 06-Oct-21 15:02:10

I love to go down the the sea when it’s dark and walk along the Esplanade, no busy crowds and a full moon is always a bonus. Never been worried but have always had a personal alarm attached to my bag. If someone were to approach and I was unsure I would grab the alarm and pull if they took the bag they would be running through the streets with an earlier I alarm which would wake up half the town, if they attacked me I would fight back with all the strength I could muster and aim for their eyes. I have bought these alarms for my granddaughters and my friends. Some take them when walking the dogs to call for help if they fall.

Amalegra Wed 06-Oct-21 15:52:25

I rarely go out at night but if I am visiting one of my daughters I am quite happy to get the bus home mid evening as it is virtually door to door and the whole area is quite busy. The area of town where I live in particular has a nice little night time vibe with lots of quite upmarket pubs and restaurants. I sometimes walk home from the daughter’s house who lives closest, about fifteen minutes and feel quite safe on the busy roads. I would not like to think of myself as scared, just careful as I was when younger. Attacks do happen; there is a lot of wickedness in the world and I hope the present media campaign is successful in highlighting the dangers and how they can be prevented from happening in the first place and handled better by the police and courts if they sadly do.

icanhandthemback Wed 06-Oct-21 15:55:08

I don't go out at night on my own and never have. We were always expected to go out in pairs as an adoloscent so that is what I have always done. I don't think it matters whether we target misogyny, there will always be those with severe mental health issues who don't take their medicine and the like. Of course, they could strike in the day too but somehow it seems safer.

CarlyD7 Wed 06-Oct-21 16:55:37

For 3 years I lived in London in my 20's and used to regularly walk the road where Sarah Everard was kidnapped from - this was following police recommendations to always walk on a busy main road! Sometimes I was heckled, or things shouted at me from passing cars. Since then, I've been followed home from a pub (in a car - luckily I spotted him), a friend I was walking home with, until we parted ways was mugged (could have been me) and a man followed me home on foot (whenever I crossed the road, he would too - in the end I went to a brightly lit house and rang at the doorbell; he ran off then). I have never felt safe out at night but at least when I was younger I could run - not the case these days!

CarlyD7 Wed 06-Oct-21 16:56:58

PS just wanted to add - for those who say that it is young men who are more likely to be attacked than young women - go out at night and just look at who is out at the same time. There are at least 10x more men out than women, so it's not surprising that more are attacked. It's a very misleading statistic.

songstress60 Wed 06-Oct-21 17:39:50

I don't feel really safe, but I am tired of people saying women should be careful. How about men exercising self control. They always tell parents to protect their daughters. Well, I say parents of sons educate them, and teach them to respect women!

Galaxy Wed 06-Oct-21 17:42:33

And yes those who excuse cat calling and wolfwhistling have no idea how intimidating that behaviour can be.

Saetana Wed 06-Oct-21 19:33:56

I am rarely bothered about going out in the dark - its my husband who worries. I make sure I am hyper aware of my surroundings, and have some self defence training. We also live in a fairly safe area. Going back a couple of decades when it was not so safe where we lived, lets just say I used to keep something in my pocket. I also think perpetrators pick certain types - some women scream "victim" with the way they hold themselves and looking really nervous. I am not the type of person they look for (neither young nor elderly) and I walk with confidence - the one time someone tried to mug me I fought him off, was wrestling with him in the middle of the street, adrenaline presumably and wouldn't advise anyone to do that. Sensible precautions obviously - I would not recommend anyone, male or female, to be walking through a deserted park/woods at night alone. Stick to well lit areas as much as possible. Carry a rape alarm if you like - they are deafening and will scare off most attackers. Shame we can't use mace/pepper spray here in the UK though.

Neen Wed 06-Oct-21 19:58:43

I can't remember the last time I went out at night ! But a good question .

Happysexagenarian Wed 06-Oct-21 20:41:03

In the rural village we now live in I have no worries at all about being out at night. Rarely see another soul at night anyway. We always carry torches as there is almost no street lighting, we're in a dark skies area. Beyond the village there is no lighting at all, no pavements and very narrow roads so not very safe for walking day or night.

Living in London in my youth I never worried about going out at night even to very rough areas, and apart from being followed a couple of times I never had any problems. But by the time we left London (I was 61 then) I had become increasingly wary of being out after dark and always carried a pepper spray and a personal alarm in my pocket. It seemed like someone was attacked in our area every week. It was one of our reasons for moving, we wanted to feel safe where we lived, and we do.

Naninka Thu 07-Oct-21 03:57:28

I have never felt uncomfortable- but I've only ever lived in villages.
Earlier this evening I babysat for a local couple and walked home alone afterwards (3 mins). I texted the couple to say I was home.
I worry more about my son and daughter (both mid-thirties) who live in nearby cities. Both are out at night (she's a nurse and he's a shift worker).
I don't trust the police either.

BrandyGran Thu 07-Oct-21 11:36:33

When I was a student many many years ago I was followed one night when walking from bus to halls of residence. He caught up with me as I ran to the door and shouted obscenities at me. It happened to other girls too and the police were involved. I remember them saying that places where young women lived were targeted by these horrible men. I wouldn't go out on my own at night.

Rowsie Thu 07-Oct-21 11:43:15

I live in London and have never worried about going out at night. I am not stupid, I don't cut through alleys or cross parks etc in the dark but I am happy to walk from the train station to my home whatever the time. We have to bear in mind that these sort of attacks we have seen recently are very few and we can't let them dictate our lives.

annodomini Thu 07-Oct-21 12:46:03

I don't think I have ever walked alone at night since I became a car owner at the age of 23 - 57 years ago. When driving alone through city streets in the dark, I always locked myself in the car.

Riverwalk Thu 07-Oct-21 14:09:48

I returned home last night at 23.45 after dinner with former colleagues - travelled by tube & bus.

I plan my journey and know exactly where I'm going and strut along with a purpose in my step!

We have to be mindful of surroundings but not cowed into staying indoors at night for the next five months.

Beswitched Thu 07-Oct-21 15:41:17

If I'm out at night I take easy and sensible precautions: Only walk on well lit roads, walk near the edge of the pavement where car drivers can see me and where it would be difficult to drag me into a garden or laneway, and have my door keys in my hand so I can get into the house quickly.