Do you dislike people who disagree with you?

Brexit has made life difficult, we are now a very divided nation.

People, who I thought were nice, started spouting their views on us leaving the EU, and they were unpalatable to hear. A short while ago, a friend totally insulted my husband having discovered that we voted Remain. He's one of our 'friendship group' and an ardent Brexiter. All the others are nice people who don't like to discuss it anymore. It makes life so difficult.

My husband has brushed it off, but I'm hurting on his behalf. No one gets to insult my husband, I wish I could feel differently, but I don't.

I do not dislike anyone even if they have different views. I am not religious but my niece and her family are staunch Roman Catholic so I make sure that subject is not discussed same with those with different political views. If I did I would have no friends there are other subjects to discuss.

I feel more comfortable with people I agree with and who agree with me. Why would I want to spend time being confrontational and having to fight my corner? I know some people like an argument but I don't and none of my friends do either!

They say never discuss politics or religion because people tend to have very very strong views on the subject! People are nuanced though and sometimes behave in contradictory ways and if you disagree on one subject you may agree on another subject. Sadly, I do think the UK is still a class ridden society and people can form opinions about people by the way they speak. The fact we have old Etonions many of whom come from immense privilege, ruling us and one who quotes Latin alot, means there is still an element of doffing the cap in the UK!

I am usually the most left-wing person in the room, so I would be very lonely if I waited for others whose views perfectly matched my own. I suppose that many of my family and friends are generally leftish but not all, particularly my in-laws. I can listen to someone rattling on about why they felt they had to vote for Boris Johnson and think "Well, you're wrong", without hating them.

However, the fact is that you don't hold your views in isolation from your personality. Your thoughts make you into the person that you are. If you really think that people on benefits are just lazy, that the RNLI shouldn't rescue refugees in danger of drowning, and that you're a snowflake if racist jokes offend you, then you are probably not someone I am going to like.

I am afraid that I don't have a lot of tolerance for stupidity either. Fortunately I only know one anti-vaxxer - again, an in-law - as I think that I would find them very irritating in real life. They are bad enough online.

''Do you dislike people whose values or views don't align with yours?

Or do you dislike people purely because of how they speak to you, differences of opinion aside?''

NO! dislike people who will not admit they are wrong. I never argue with anyone. I state my view and let them have their say. After a while of this I simply say ''Oh well we will agree to disagree'' BUT some people cannot leave it there and will insist their view s totally correct even when its obvious to me they are wrong even when presented with facts.
Arguing is pointless and Id rather be happy than be right.

I don't mind people disagreeing with me. I enjoy a friendly debate. I would only dislike someone who disagreed with me if they had ugly extremist, elitist, or racist, homophobic or sexist views.

TBH I think I would find it hard to feel warmly to someone whose attitude to Brexit did not align with mine.

My friends & I have subjects we disagree on but others where we are in agreement. I don't suppose everyone has the same views on everything as friends and family.
I have changed my mind about some things after listening to the opinions of friends.

That is actually a really complex question. (In a good way) I would like to say no but it’s difficult.
In general, it is no, I am a vegetarian but I still I respect people who make a choice not to be. I am an environmentalist so I walk a lot and do all I can do be green, but I still get on with people who drive and are not so green.
However, I am kind and belive in helping the community and there are people who don’t, I find it hard to respect those people. There are people around here who fly tip, or who allowed their dogs to poo and not pick it up. Others who ride bikes on pavements and shout at people to get out their way. People who refused to move their bag on the train or stand up for an older person or pregnant lady. These types of people tend to have other unpleasant values it doesn’t happen in a vacuum, so, no I don’t like their choices or their values, so I don’t tend not to bother to get to know them, so in the end I find I don’t like them . If that makes any sense at all.
If someone disagreed with my answer that would be fine but if someone was nasty or mean in disagreeing then no I wouldn’t respect or like them.

I try and get on with everyone and I accept that others may not feel the same as I do about some things. One of my oldest friends has completely different ideas politically to me but that doesn't make me like her less in any way.

My daughter and me disagree about ca lot of things. After a heated debate. We agree to disagree. Wouldn't life be boring if we all agreed with everyone.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I don't do arguing with people...it is a waste of energy and causes stress

when i meet someone i decide within about 10 mins of talking to them whether i like them or not, i have been like this since i was young, i would never not like someone because they have a different view on something, even people i do not like i will still be polite to.

Differing opinions leads to interesting conversations, as long as what’s said doesn’t offend the other person. I do though think to start a conversation with a stranger on politics, religion or race not advisable

Wow you just want an echo chamber. What happened to broadening your horizons and exploring what other people think ?

Who just wants an echo chamber?

I like people who can inform me and correct me if I am wrong, if they understand what they are talking about. I like people who ask me how I feel about something and don't presume they already know how I feel--that is usually someone who presumes everyone feels the same.

I like to debate and go to philosophy groups. I enjoy others' arguments especially when they are brief and knowledgeable and it's great if they make jokes too.

Bluecat, there are a few American anti vaxxers on the philosophy group I go to. One of them is amusing and to the point, another is obviously a mouth for Rupert Murdoch. I like to keep up with what they are saying and I quite like one of them.

I wish people who try to tell me what I think, how I feel or what I meant would tell me my decision on tonight's dinner.

It was is a very spicy chicken dish and it was somehow too hot to manage and very tasty at the same time.

I need to let my husband know before he goes to the shop lol

No, it’s another way of communication and surely we must learn form others as we all have different ways of thinking.

If it involves a difference of opinion on supporting the poor, the disabled, the old, the vulnerable, then I do dislike those who disagree with me.

Chardy

If it involves a difference of opinion on supporting the poor, the disabled, the old, the vulnerable, then I do dislike those who disagree with me.

Exactly Chardy. Uncharitable people aren't those I like as friends. I'd extend that to any form of bigotry (racism, homophobia, ableism, transphobia etc).

I have very different views from my best friend but we don't discuss things we disagree on ie vaxine, protests, Brexit, religion, politics, covid etc. She is a very kind caring supportive person and we've been friends for many years. My family have lots of different views to mine which we do discuss but agree to disagree.
My extended family fall out over differences and there is a lot of bad feeling for a long time. I really can't understand how long term friends and families have been torn apart over politics, Brexit and vaccines etc. These are people who have been in their life, often for many years, and are now no longer cared about. How do people live with that?

'Variety is the spice of life' isn't it. Different opinions are good to hear. They can expand our minds, provide food for thought and can sometimes provide an entirely new and not considered before perspective.