Ho ruddy hum. The two big C’s

I'd be livid!!
I am livid on your behalf.
Selfish, selfish man!

Sorry, I have to say this, but I really , really hope that this man has other virtues !

Silverlady79 I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your husband has been totally thoughtless towards you, no wonder you're hurt. I do hope he shows some remorse and consideration to you going forward. Waiting for your revised operation date will be stressful, but do try to look after yourself.

Oh that was really selfish and unforgivable. You deserve better support at this time. I’m
so sorry you have to wait and hope it won’t be too long a delay.
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Selfishness is one of the worst traits to live with.
Such a pity as you end up really disliking the culprit.
Wishing you all the best for your procedure.

Oh nooo He sounds just like mine. (this is why I hate these silly GN initials - DH doesn't describe these men.)
I've often wondered if it's a touch of autism which these men have, and means they honestly can't empathise with other people AT ALL! It's very hurtful in day-to-day matters, but in your case it must have reduced you to despair.
You have dug some strength up from somewhere which is amazing, but at a time like this you need hugs and encouragement too. Do you have any family? Any daughters or daughters in law who might read him the riot act and point out how cruel and selfish he's being?
Sending love and hugs and masses of flowers
Are you in touch with Macmillan? You'll get enormous help from these lovely ladies, be frank with them about your husband's attitude and you'll have allies and amazing support.

I would say unbelievable, except that it is not; it is disgraceful. I hope you have friends and family to support you when you do get your operation.

I would be furious. How selfish of him. Not just that he went racing but his attitude afterwards. I am sorry and send from one Silver to another.

You aren't whinging Silverlady. What a horrible set back. You must have been psyching yourself up for the 15th (I can only imagine). I am very sorry. Keep posting here. People very supportive.

I agree 100% with MissA and jaylucy.
I wish you well Silverlady79.

Your anger and disappointment is well justified Silverlady, I'd be livid with him too. I wish you well.

Oh bless you, that’s just awful. How utterly insensitive and selfish of your husband. Just a thought, but once you get the revised date, would it be possible for you to stay elsewhere for the 10 days or so leading up to the op whilst you self isolate so that you are away from him should he decide to be so thoughtless and selfish once more? I just can’t believe his attitude, and I’m so sorry for you that you’ve had to endure this behaviour. No wonder you are hurt. Certainly don’t apologise for posting, either. ?

And afterwards - can you arrange to be somewhere where you'll get sympathetic care, it doesn't sound likely that he'll even make you a cup of tea.
Time to look after no 1.
Do keep us up to date with your progress.

How horrible for you Silverlady. A total lack of consideration. I’d be furious too, and you really don’t need to be feeling like that right now. I hope your treatment goes ahead as soon as possible, please keep posting, you’ll get lots of support here x

Sending you hugs (virtual and socially-distanced, of course) and very best wishes, Silverlady79

So sorry to hear this. Try not to let it spoil everything. Unfortunately some people have all the sensitivity of a house brick. Wishing you good luck for your future op ???

I'm so sorry Silverlady79! Did he not obey the rules of social distancing for 2 weeks prior to your op? I am having a bunion op in January and instructions are in the pack I've been sent. Mine is just a bunion though and seething on your behalf as it a much more serious surgery. Hope you feel better from Covid soon xxxx

Make him suffer when you get back home after the op!!!
Best of luck and hope you feel well soon

I'm so sorry to hear this Silverylady, what on earth was he thinking.
I can imagine your frustration and anxiety and how you must have built yourself up for the op.
I wish you well for the future xx

Thankyou, everyone. You are so kind to respond. I just don’t know how it’s going to work out. I’m just at the end of my tether with his total selfishness. This has been the straw that…. Well, you know. At a time when I need to feel strong I’m just withering on the vine and considering a solicitor because I just don’t know how, going forward, I’m going to cope with my feelings around him. I’ve watched the crazy excessive spending, all on him, and I mean crazy. If I said amounts you wouldn’t believe it. I am beginning to wonder if it’s some sort of personality disorder tbh.

I’m so very sorry.

What a mess.

Very best wishes to you x

So sorry you are waiting for your op through the selfishness of your H. I understand that you just want to get this over and start to heal and he has scuppered this for you.
It's very hard to live with self centered people.

I'm so sorry, Siverlady, I'd be fuming too.
^ We got there and he pushed in front of me to get there first!!^ He's have sore ears and possibly sore shins if he'd done that to me.

Sending you all best wishes and hope all goes well with your operation. If your pcr test is negative is there a chance it can still go ahead on the earlier date or perhaps before January?