Tactless remarks.

On telling my MIL I was pregnant with DC3 my MIL then said what did you go and do that for …I was speechless I think she probably thought because I already had one of each I didn’t need another child

My mum would look me up and down and say " That's very slimming" - I used to wait for her to say it.
My grandson gave me a critical look, when I had to wear a wig during chemo, and said " It's very real but it's young hair and you've got an old face." He was only 8 at the time, but I wore hats after that. However, when we were waiting to go out, I in my nicest hat, he turned to me and said " Are you going out like that? " and realising he'd put his foot in it he said, " cos it's not winter," We couldn't help laughing.

I was staying with a friend in Scotland. We were driving in her car with me in the back. Her sister was in the front and they were discussing me in the mistaken belief that I had dozed off.
Irene : "She's Catholic you know. They should all be taken out and shot. Then a bit later she said, she's got an odd face hasn't she. Bit like a wonky milkmaid".

I never felt quite the same about her after that and didn't stay in touch.

When I showed my future mother-in-law my engagement ring she said she’d have to get out her magnifying glass.

Buffy

When I showed my future mother-in-law my engagement ring she said she’d have to get out her magnifying glass.

I'd blame the way she brought up her son, Buffy

When showing my future mother-in-law my engagement ring for the first time she said she’d need a magnifying glass as the diamond was so small.

My mother was well aware of my hang-up over skinny legs and told me I looked like Minnie Mouse in my first pair of kitten heals. She was probably right but I was mortified.

Some years ago a joined a Singing For Pleasure group (social anxiety levels rising), I had to sit next to a “counter tenor” who wasn’t and I couldn’t hear the other sopranos, consequently I just went for it. At the break someone complained to me that the person behind her kept coming in too soon - she froze as the last word came out of her mouth, realising that person was me. The anxiety levels went up to 11, and although mortified I hung on till the end of the evening. I never went back.
On a funny note though - the “counter tenor”, to reach the higher notes would grab his trousers waist band and hitch them up as high as he could - it wasn’t a pleasant sound.

When I was in labour with my son, my (now ex) husband told the midwife we had chosen a boys name but not a girls. He asked her what her name was and she said ‘Lilian’. He then said, ‘let’s hope it’s a boy then.’ This was long before the name Lily came back into fashion, by the way!

Sago

My late mother…. Unbelievable!
Here’s the best!
I took my mother to see her GP, she was 88, he told her she was fine and not to worry, I said “I told you it was nothing you will probably outlive me.”
“I do hope so” was her reply?

That made me laugh!

I was newly pregnant with a long-awaited pregnancy at age 39 when I went to the hairdresser. I mentioned my pregnancy and he said, “Oh, bad luck!”

Our DD1 died suddenly age 7 months.....I gave up counting the number of people who said "Oh well you can have another one" as if I lost a doll/teddy

My MIL when discovering I was pregnant again, said that I must want a girl as I already had a boy. I assured her I really didn't mind, I would be thrilled either way (she knew we had had infertility difficulties) to which she said that she knew I wanted a girl really, I just needed to be more honest about it! It was another boy and I was over the moon, but she still continued to tell me I must be terribly disappointed!
MIL constantly made unpleasant and tactful remarks. In all the years right up until she passed away, every time I spoke to her on the phone or in person, her conversation always started with telling me how wonderful my husband's ex-girlfriend was, even though by the time MIL died, his ex had been his ex over 30 years before! And yes, I do mean EVERY time, twice a month at the very least!
She once said to me "I didn't recognise you, you've put on so much weight!" even though I was exactly the same weight as usual!

In Milan I bought some very expensive ,brightly coloured gloves. My friend said I looked ready to do the washing up.

We had a very low key registry office wedding when we were teenagers. A few years later when my husband's sister was getting married my MIL showed me the wedding dress and said 'you could have some photos taken wearing this after the wedding as you didn't have a proper dress for yours'

My parents sadly developed dementia in their final years and dad in particular would say whatever came into his head very loudly at inappropriate times. Sitting in the doctors waiting room with him a chap came towards us who had obviously lost an arm 'oh look at that poor b*****' was out of his mouth before I could distract him!!

Probably my own mortifying moment was when a new woman started at work. She said she thought she knew me from school and I said I don't think so - I'm only 21. She looked daggers at me and said so am I!!

When daughter was expecting no 2 I went to the hospital appointment with her and her husband so that I could mind the baby.When we got to the consultants door she stood in front of me and said, you can't come in to the examination, you'll have to wait in the corridor.
I was amazed that she would think I was going to barge in and watch!

Tell me about it! Substitute 'older sister' for 'brother'. I got my own back later in life: after my dad died (much too young) my sister fell out big time with our mum. I never did find out why; my sister and I are estranged and she didn't turn up at mum's funeral.

Tactless remarks from those who just don’t think before they speak can be quite funny if you can shrug them off, hopefully with amusement. The only other way is to launch right in, as I do sometimes with ‘and whatever does THAT mean?’!

@chocolatepudding. I’m so sorry for your loss ?

When my DM was terminally ill and had to go into a nursing home, my DH spent a lot of time and effort clearing her bungalow and sorting out her finance. When I explained to her what he'd done she replied, "I'm beginning to understand what you see in him now."
We'd been married 25 years by then!

Chocolatepudding - so sorry xx

My mum was queen of the barbed comments. I remember sending her a photo on a day out and it was “you look … well. Maybe it’s your coat”! But the one that really shocked me was when I sent her holiday photos of my sons (her grandsons) and she complained that I had cluttered up the scenery with “people”! Other gems: I sent her a bouquet of flowers and she told me not to bother as she had nowhere to put them. I honestly don’t know why I bothered. I was probably used to it. After all, she’d explained time when I was a child that she preferred the male gender. Couldn’t abide women.

BIL takes after MIL. When I had to tell him that I had to have chemotherapy he said, "You'll lost your hair!" he sounded excited about it. When he had to go through chemo a few months later I resisted the temptation to say the same to him.

I have enjoyed reading all the above posts. I’m sure there is enough material there for a sit com series!

I was 14 and achingly self-conscious as only a girl of that age can be. We were at a family get-together and during a lull in the conversation my grandmother, who was sitting at the opposite side of the room looked at me and bellowed ‘she’s got a good big leg on her’. (Just the one? ?) Now granted I’ve never had slender legs but they aren’t anything out of the ordinary. I wanted the ground to open up as everyone looked at my good big leg.