Tactless remarks.

I was showing a friend around my new home. She looked at my sofa and said “Oh we need a new sofa too”.

My Mum never had anything good to say about much, including our appearance. One time my sister was dressed up to go to an event and was very happy with her outfit.
Mum's comment? "I shouldn't really tell you this, but you do look quite nice."

My Granny would finish a meal that Mum had cooked and say in a surprised voice, "That was quite nice really."

I think the idea was that we didn't get big-headed ?

Teaching a class of 6 year old children about dinosaurs. Cue Child X looking me straight in the eye and asking, "Were you scared of them?"
My mother brought DS and I up by telling us that I was the clever one and DS was the pretty one. That's stayed with me all my life. DS's self confidence is sky high and mine below the floorboards.
MIL, on the birth of DD2 who it took us 10 years to have, 'Oh, I so hoped she'd have long legs like DD1.'

I used to be asked how I felt being the only daughter that got ginger hair, you would of thought it was a disease. I'm the lucky one now as they are all grey and I'm still hanging onto my red mane.

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On telling my MIL I was pregnant with DC3 my MIL then said what did you go and do that for …I was speechless I think she probably thought because I already had one of each I didn’t need another child

When he was about five years old, my youngest (of three) made a comment about how of course he'd been a mistake.
As he was a planned and much-wanted member of the family I asked him why he thought that.
Apparently my daughter (eight years old) had told him that as we already had her and our other son, it was obviously the case. I was so upset to think he'd been feeling that for however many years!
I never did decide whether my daughter had "worked it out" for herself, or overheard someone else's tactless comments, but youngest child was really happy to learn he was a wanted baby after all ?

I have a brown haired daughter and one who is strawberry blonde..When they were about 8 and 11 years old they went with a friend to visit her uncle ...on meeting my daughters he said “they are never from the same father “! The younger one tearfully asked my husband if he really was her dad !

My sister when visiting us what a lovely little house you havd

An older fellow singer in a concert party when I was 17 came back to the dressing room , took me aside and said
“I heard someone in the audience say that plain girl should put some lipstick on”
The same ‘colleague’ much later viewing my ruby engagement ring
“Oh, just garnets, my mother gave me similar, but I lost it”

I went into work one morning after having had my hair cut and styled. A co worker from another department walked past my desk and said ‘oh Folkestone you’ve had your hair cut’. Yes I replied - there was then a pause before she said ‘ it does not suit you’ and walked off!

16 yeas old, and I had just received my first pay packet. Feeling so grown-up I carefully chose an ornament as a gift for my mother. I proudly handed it over, only to be told that I shouldn't have bothered, because she had enough things to dust. I was heart-broken. Even now, 66 years later, I can still remember how upset I was at her tactless remark.

Said in a very loud voice when I told him that the dishy new barmaid was my sister. 'But you don't look alike at all. She's gorgeous!

My ex husband had an affair with the barmaid at the golf club where my dad was also a member. I asked my dad what this woman was like. He said she wasn't much to look at , pause, but she had good boobs ..... sigh

When doing my family tree I was put in touch with two distant cousins I knew nothing about and after emailing for a few months one of them and his wife came to visit.
His wife was very self assured and was telling a tale about visiting someone when she said “ they lived in a very ordinary house” and looking around said sniffing “ just like this one really”.
I have never been invited to visit theirs.

lovebeigecardigans1955 ..... I had a very similar remark from my mother to a friend of mine .. " why couldn't Susan have married a a husband like yours !!! " but the worst was when she said to me When I married my "soul mate" was >>> " your marriage will only last 6 months " it lasted 51 years until his death 3 years ago ! The kindest most caring husband ever !

My grandad, who I'd loved to bits up to that point, told me that although I wasn't pretty, like my sisters, (he might as well have stopped there) I was 'attractive' and that would last longer than mere prettiness. I already knew I wasn't pretty, but I wanted to be...what young girl doesn't? Also, this advice came out of the blue. I had never asked for any reassurance about my looks. Very strange timing!

Fortunately, I wasn't exactly ugly and I was certainly more successful at school than both of my sisters, so I wasn't totally devastated. Also, I didn't lack attention from boys. Ha!

Before I got married my boyfriend often spent the night in my flat. My granny came round to see the flat and admired each room but when she came to the bedroom she pulled back the covers to feel what the mattress was like.I quickly pulled them back hoping she didn't see his pyjamas.

One of my daughters is very pretty. I met a group of her school friends’ mothers when I stopped to pick her up from school. These women made a big deal of pointing out how I looked NOTHING like my daughter. Another time when I brought my daughter to work my boss asked me where she got her good looks!

I hosted on an exchange programme a few years ago... an African woman.
I informed her that my favourite exercise was swimming.
Her response?
"But how can you swim without sinking... you are so plumpy."
Yeah, thanks for that!

I was in a rather nice shop with my tactless sister, she found a lovely handbag and remarked in her normal loud booming voice (directed at the long suffering sales assistant). There is one just like this in the charity shop and it is only £10!!! My list is endless, she has no tact whatsoever and is quite an embarrassment. Needless to say I no longer go shopping with her.

MyDM was putting on some face powder when her GD told her she could hear the sponge scraping on her wrinkles! Luckily she saw the funny side.

When my middle sister had a stillborn son my youngest sister said. "Well, you can have another one next year." When she got pregnant the following year another friend said "it was wonderful how fertile she was."

Feeling very insecure at the prospect of meeting all his colleagues at the Xmas bash, I asked my then husband to be ' do I look fat in this'? 'No' he replied, 'not TOO fat'!

Strangely enough I DID go on to marry him and ,27yrs on, we are still together and he's still coming out with the 'compliments'!

My father when I said to him about my new boyfriend being so interested in all the things I liked. “But you don’t have any interests at all”. Anyway 44 years on………

Some of those comments did make me laugh, can’t believe what people. Say ?
I dont know if this is tactless or just down right nasty.
But my sister rang me 6 months after my son died and asked how I was when I said not good she said you should be over his death by now. I didn’t speak to her for a year.

I remember my mother saying how hurt she had been (aged 14) when she gave her mother a religious painting (I can’t remember what) after my grandfather died, remarking “How morbid, I don’t want that in the house”.
Apparently I was tactless as a child when my mother, trying on a new winter coat, asked my opinion. I said “that woman over there looks much prettier in hers”