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Sarnia Thu 13-Jan-22 11:03:21

I live with my youngest daughter, son-in-law and 2 granddaughters aged 7 & 8. We had wanted a dog for several years but didn't want it to be left at home on its own all day. During lockdown I retired from my job so we decided to get a cocker spaniel puppy. From day 1 he wriggled his adorable way into our hearts and we have all had so much fun with him BUT he became a biter. The vet recommended a canine behaviourist and after some blood and poo tests and working with him for a morning she diagnosed a genetic imbalance causing resource guarding. This condition makes him very protective towards certain people, food, toys and anything they perceive as theirs, such as their basket. If anyone came close to our dog when he was guarding something, he would bite. It can't be trained out of them and doesn't make for a family dog. My son-in-law got badly bitten last week and needed a trip to A&E and the decision had to be made. Our dog walker adopts problem dogs. It's just her and her husband and they offered to adopt him. He has gone this morning and I am so very sad. My head tells me it's the only option we had but my heart is heavy. I shall miss the lovely side of him, licking my ears, cuddling up with me and just being there. Life seems empty today.

LauraNorderr Thu 13-Jan-22 11:09:17

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Grannmarie Thu 13-Jan-22 11:13:37

Aww, Sarnia, I am so sorry that your lovely Granddog has had to be rehomed. With children in the house, this is the right decision, but so sad. Beloved pets do leave a hole in our hearts when they go. Be comforted that you gave him a loving home for as long as you could in the circumstances.
Thinking of you and yours. flowers

VANECAM Thu 13-Jan-22 11:14:35

Cocker Spaniel owner here.
I understand fully your descriptions of the animals behaviours.
These would have been more heightened in a busier house and now he is in home with fewer people he will settle much easier and become more passive.
You must be very upset about it but be reassured that he will be a happier dog in his new surroundings.

Smileless2012 Thu 13-Jan-22 11:16:17

I'm so sorry Sarnia but he will be better off in a home with no children and owners who know how to handle a dog with problems.

You've done the right thing as the alternative would have been even more heartbreakingflowers.

Casdon Thu 13-Jan-22 11:16:43

That is heartbreaking Sarnia. I’ve got a cocker, and he’s absolutely gorgeous, but they aren’t the easiest dogs because they are highly intelligent so easily bored and need constant stimulation, full of energy, clingy and can suffer from separation anxiety. Mine is also obsessed with food - but he’s never been a biter thankfully. The added problem of resource guarding will hopefully be something his new owners will be able to cope with as they are experienced dog owners, I hope he goes on to lead a happy life.
Don’t let this experience put you off getting another dog, they are as different as people are, and have so much love!

Maya1 Thu 13-Jan-22 11:17:17

Oh Sarnia, what a distressing decision that you had to make. However, you had to keep your family safe, of course everyone understands. I am sure he will be safe and happy with your dog walker.
My husband and l have adopted 3 problem dogs over the years and it is very hard work. If there had been young children in house we wouldn't have been able to take them on. You did the right the thing.

Redhead56 Thu 13-Jan-22 11:18:21

Give it time and then look for another dog that suites you. I adopted a Weimaraner dog years ago when my children were young. I had to admit he was too much for me to handle. I found him a home more suitable he was far too big and demanding. I waited a while before I replaced him with a more manageable dog I had her fifteen years. Don't be hard on yourself it can be difficult making the right decision.

H1954 Thu 13-Jan-22 11:26:02

How sad for you all Sarnia, you must all miss him dreadfully. I don't own a dog and haven't done since I was in my late teens and I wouldn't call myself a dog lover now but I do understand.

As others have said, he will no doubt thrive in his new home and I certainly hope he does. Have you thought of replacing him with a rescue dog, one that is a little older with a proven medical background but with a desperate need for a loving home might just fill the emptiness ?

muse Thu 13-Jan-22 11:28:29

I'm so sorry you had to say goodbye to your dog. They quickly become part of the family.

Perhaps in time you might consider another dog. Three years ago I decided the time was right for a pet and a dog was my choice. I adopted Mya (a four year old rescue dog). The rescue centres are brilliant. They assess the temperament and behaviour of the dogs and you get to meet the dog on a few occasions at the centre. Mya had not been trained by her previous owners but the centre said she could still be trained, even at 4 years old. I worked with a canine behaviourist too as Mya and myself needed help with recall training. That's Mya running off not me ?. Now she is such a faithful, lovely tempered dog that hates leaving my side. I'm glued to her too.

I do hope you try again.

Nightsky2 Thu 13-Jan-22 12:20:01

How sad for you after all the hard work in those first couple of years. You really didn’t have much choice. Cocker Spaniels are adorable dogs and you were just very unlucky. I hope he has a good life with his new owners.

It must be heartbreaking for you, I’m so sorry. Please don’t let it put you off getting another dog. I look after my sons 5 month old Cockpoo once a week and she is just such a sweet dog. I have Border Terriers myself and they make lovely pets too.
Best wishes.

Rosalyn69 Thu 13-Jan-22 12:22:48

I’m so sad for you. It’s hard to let a dog go. I had to let my cross breed bulldog puppy go after just three weeks. I just couldn’t manage her. She went to a very good home (friend of DIL) and is having the wonderful life I couldn’t give her.

Deedaa Thu 13-Jan-22 12:24:32

How awful for you! But you have done the right thing and hopefully he will thrive in his new home.

LucyLocket55 Thu 13-Jan-22 12:30:20

My sympathies, I too had to let a beautiful retriever go as he worried sheep, and we are farmers. The breed society found him a wonderful home in the middle of a town
as the pet of a groundskeeper who looked after the rugby pitches etc. Plenty of space and no sheep.

Blondiescot Thu 13-Jan-22 12:31:46

What a dilemma for you, and it must have been a very difficult decision to make. I'm not sure I could have done it. Hopefully he will have a happy, healthy life with his new people.

dogsmother Thu 13-Jan-22 12:39:36

So sorry, it’s really hard to make this decision we had this many years ago with a lab. Heartbreaking but do have another go later, a dog really does complete a home…. ?

Calistemon Thu 13-Jan-22 12:40:57

I feel for you, Sarnia, we had a beautiful cocker spaniel but the children were very young and I was worried he might bite, although he only bit DH once, and we had to rehome him. He was a 'one man' dog and would ignore any commands from me. He settled in his new home and was very happy.

I'd not heard the term 'resource guarding' until recently and realised we had a very small dog who did that but he would respond to a telling off and I could handle him.

You have done the right thing although it is very upsetting.
flowers

Caleo Thu 13-Jan-22 12:41:12

Is this a genetic defect significantly among some strains of cocker spaniels ?

2020convert Thu 13-Jan-22 12:42:22

How lucky you are to have found such. Suitable home for your dog. Will it be possible for you still to see it, and maybe take it for a walk. This could help you decide whether you like another.
I’ve just adopted a puppy, after not having had a dog for a good number of years. It’s hard work when you live alone. He does bite, but this is getting less. My main problem is car sickness and my grandchildren being frightened of him.

Calistemon Thu 13-Jan-22 12:42:46

I'd be very careful adopting a rescue dog as you don't always know the background; a friend did that but he was aggressive and even the dog behaviourist couldn't do anything with him.

Calistemon Thu 13-Jan-22 12:43:49

Caleo

Is this a genetic defect significantly among some strains of cocker spaniels ?

I heard about another one recently that had to be rehomed, very upsetting but he has happily settled with new owners with no children.

Calistemon Thu 13-Jan-22 12:44:54

Caleo

Is this a genetic defect significantly among some strains of cocker spaniels ?

I don't know that it's a defect but some cockers are meant to be working dogs and not just family pets.

Caleo Thu 13-Jan-22 12:52:31

My JRT snarls and guards on rare occasions. As far as I'm concerned this reaction is unpredictable and subjectively unpleasant . The dog is very sensitive and intelligent and immediately apologises. I think in the case of JRT s and similar hunting/killing terriers it's not a defect but goes with the territory.

Chardy Thu 13-Jan-22 12:52:40

Yes you've done the right thing, but you know that Sarnia. All I have to add to what's been said is that the animal rescue people often have dogs whose owners have died or can no longer walk them. These are lovely animals, so deserving of the love you guys have to offer. Good luck

sodapop Thu 13-Jan-22 13:01:56

Very sorry to hear about your dog Sarnia rest assured you did absolutely the right thing in rehoming him. Sounds like you are quite a busy household and need a dog with a calmer temperament. Don't think about getting another dog just yet, you all need a break to recover. I have three rescue dogs,all settled well no behavioral issues,good with children etc. As someone else said rescue centres are very good at matching dogs to families. We had to wait to find another dog who was OK with cats and would fit with the rest of the family but it was worth waiting and searching, our Molly is a joy.