Only dog lovers will understand

So sorry you've lost a friend but it was the right decision - and you know he'll be well cared for.

Out of love, you did the right thing for your dog. Just imagine how you'd feel if he bit a child, or your gc became resentful if they couldn't have friends to visit. Greave as much as you need to, maybe one day you'll be ready to invite another dog to your home.

So sorry to hear this. I too had a similar problem with a dog many years ago and it broke my heart to get him rehomed. Be happy in the knowledge that you did the right thing for both the dog and the family. He will be much happier now in a more suitable environment.

Sabrina, I have been through what you have. You have done the right thing, it will get better, but I still think of the very loving dog I had.

You did the right and only thing possible Sardia. Spaniels are intelligent, sensitive, needy and prone to resource guarding as well as separation anxiety.
Urmstongran posted earlier about the advice she was given about solid colour spaniels. It’s often said the solid colours can have temperament problems. I had a blue roan cocker years ago, and have a 3 year old show type blue roan now. Sweet natured kind little dogs. I would avoid solid colours though of course, good breeders only breed from healthy dogs with generations of good temperament in their genes

DH and I owned and occasionally bred spaniels for many years. The saying is ‘born half wild, die half trained’
Can honestly say that as working dogs, we never had a biter - soft mouths that could find and bring back a pheasant egg and drop it so gently into your hand.
Only one puppy was ever returned as a biter, we thought just puppy nips but it went for DH when he picked it up. So unusual, but we discovered it was totally blind and had to be PTS.
No dogs here now, the kennels are gone and I miss them, but a lot of work and responsibility.

I had a cocker when I had my first son, blue roan,she definitely showed some resource guarding traits & had been known to really bite in the couple years I'd had her. I was lucky as my mum was able to take her, I could comfort myself that we were in a flat & Mum had more outdoor space. She had many happy years there, & we saw her often but I didnt trust her with young children. I currently have a 15 year old male cocker who has never bitten or guarded food or toys. He's blind in one eye & deaf but would never bite when startled. He was a rescue with a far from ideal early life, so the idea that it is always the owners causing these problems just isn't always true. I have met quite a few stroppy golden Cocker spaniels I must admit but for sheer joi de vivre it's hard to match a Cocker spaniel

Caleo there is a thing known as cocker rage.

You have definitely made the right decision; the dog has gone to a loving home, he will soon settle in. We have a labrador, the most sweet natured dogs, she is lovely with the grandchildren and you can take her food bowl off her whilst she is eating without her showing any aggression at all. They are the perfect family dog, the only downside with labs is the dog hairs and their obsession with food! If, in a few months you are still missing having a dog, perhaps think of getting another breed who is more suited to family life.

Well done Sarnia on making such a difficult decision. He now has a suitable home and will thrive in his new environment. You most definitely did the correct thing.

Well done for making the hard decision to do what is best for the dog. I had to rehome a relative's dog because she was aggressive towards other dogs and my relative was incapable of dealing with the situation safely. I'd have kept her myself but she was aggressive towards my own border terrier. I was happy that she went to a suitable home and will have a happy life with people who will be able to work with her aggressive behaviour. You have done the right thing but please don't be put off having another dog. I did consider having a rescue dog as I'm quite an experienced owner but I think there's a lot to said for having a puppy from a responsible breeder when you can see the mother and the home it comes from. I'd also advise putting in lots of training etc as it really does give long term benefits.

Sorry for the typos.

I feel so sad for you. Our previous dog was like this and, though we managed to keep him until he was was 12, quite honestly, it was a nightmare. My husband's hands are covered in scars and I had a bad bite on my arm when, without thinking, I bent down and stroked him. I thought he should be put to sleep by DH would not agree. We learned how to cope with him and we didn't have children around, but it was very difficult.
I think you have made the right decision, hard as it is. Hopefully, he will go on to have a happy life with this new owners.
Some people just seem to be able to manage dogs like these. Our groomer could do anything with our dog and did things that would, if we had done them, result in our being badly bitten.
I am sorry for you tha t it has worked out this way.

How very sad for you. I’m sure some cockers have been found to have a recognised brain issue but you would need to research that. We’ve fostered over 30 dogs for a local charity that offers a place of safety to dogs who find themselves in put to sleep situations, or neglected, or with health issues, or strays. We’ve never had a biter and majority have gone on to find their forever homes or we’ve kept them. I really feel for those dogs whose owners die, or go into residential care. So so many wonderful dogs of all sizes and ages looking for homes. Good luck if you decide to open your heart and home to a needy soul again.

You have made the right decision Sarnia I know how hard it must have been for you.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all you lovely GN's who took time to post such kind, positive and supportive comments. Head has to rule heart in decisions like this. You have helped me through a difficult day. Thank you so much.

That is interesting Urmstongran. My cocker is a blue roan, and he’s the softest lump of a dog ever, even though he has the energy and excitability of 10.

That's interesting about cockers, Urmonstongran.

I’m so sorry Sarnia but you have done the right thing and your dog now has the chance of a good life in an environment better suited to him.
I was very sorry to hear about your dog too DinahMo, but so pleased that you have given a home to an older dog - so many people don’t consider them.
My GSD was an older rescue who had been in kennels for two years because she had food aggression - would growl if approached when eating as she was protecting her food. Who knows how or why that started. She had no bite history and the food aggression was the first thing the kennels mentioned about her. Any responsible kennels will tell you about any behavioural problems. We had no problem accommodating her need to eat her food quietly and she has never snapped at anyone since we got her. Her food aggression has improved hugely and I can now give her a little stroke when putting her food down without any grumbling. She’s a very loving, patient and undemanding girl and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend taking on a rescue dog from a reputable kennels if you can.

I am sorry to hear this but glad that the dog has a new home.

We had a cocker spaniel that we had to have rehomed as it was blind in one eye and attacked anyone approaching him on his blind side. Even though it is for the best, it is very hard.

Our Jack Russell was kind of a rescue dog - we got him from a neighbour at about nine months old and he’s now three. His first owners got him as a birthday present for their little boy and it was the usual story - as soon as he outgrew the puppy cuteness the child lost interest. As a result he was neglected and when the family moved away their neighbour offered to adopt the dog. He came to us because the neighbour was getting on a bit and had become ill.

He’s a lovely dog - intelligent, full of personality and very affectionate with his own people, but at first he displayed a lot of the characteristics described by the OP. When we first got him, used to bark incessantly at anyone who came near the house and if anyone walked by his bed or his bowl he would growl. He’s also toy mad and at first was very protective of them - he would round them up and put them in his bed and snarl if anyone went near them.

Thankfully, with time, he’s calmed down considerably, although he’s still very protective of his family and home, and I keep a close eye on him when he’s around people he’s not familiar with. I think in his case his behaviour was rooted in insecurity at being passed around from owner to owner in his early life.

I really feel for you OP - I can’t imagine life without our ‘baby boy’ and I can only imagine your pain at having to give yours up. The pain will pass and at least you have the comfort of knowing you persevered and tried your best. I’m sure you’ve done the right thing for him and for your family. ?

Calistemon

Caleo

Is this a genetic defect significantly among some strains of cocker spaniels ?

I heard about another one recently that had to be rehomed, very upsetting but he has happily settled with new owners with no children.

Years ago, before we downsized to an apartment we bought two sisters from a litter, roan (grey with black & white)cocker spaniels. The gentlest, sweetest dogs we ever had.

Someone we knew had a block coloured all black cocker spaniel. He was a growler and had bitten a family member in the past.

A breeder friend told me that block coloured cockers take some breeding out of multi colours and that encourages a degree of selective breeding, hence the different traits in their natures.

I'm so glad he's found a new home as I know too well that this breed can be very excitable and do tend to bite if they are overwhelmed with people. Like humans with autism in a way, who don't like crowds.----except that they don't bite !

It's terrible having to part from your animals for whatever reason. Latterly I've only had cats and losing two of them over the years was bad enough as it takes a while to get over it unless you get a "replacement". I have 3 strays who live happily together.

At the same time, you have to live peaceably with an animal and if you're on pins about whether it'll bit or not when anyone calls is not really an option as you'd never feel comfortable being in the same room as the dog. Sad as the situation is, there'd have been no other way than to let him go. That's not to say I don't feel for you, I do because I'm an animal lover.

Many male dogs have this " alpha-male " about them and sadly they don't make for family pets

Hi there, Dinahmo

How very sad to read about your dog. It reminded me of my mother's dog, an Irish Setter. She was one of three and had all lived happily together for years

One day Melanie just attacked the older setter, out of the blue. They had both been sitting soundly and Melanie just ripped at the other dog and tore her ear.

Both taken to vets. Melanie had a brain scan and the vet thought she might have had the canine equivalent of a stroke. Sadly she had to be put to sleep but maybe your much loved dog had some neurological issue.

Pleased to hear you have lovely dogs now. The happiness they give is incalculable.

I volunteer at a dog rescue site and we are extremely careful when rehoming dogs. A dog with a tendency to bite will not be rehomed. I have taken 3 dogs with these issues and all have turned out fine after initial problems sorted.

I've had about 20 rescue dogs over the years and not had any problems with them. I would never buy a pedigree dog.

Most dogs are fabulous and I prefer the mixed types rather than pedigrees which can be more demanding and difficult.

Not all of course!

You've done the right thing, Sarnia. Heartbreaking for you but hopefully your next pup will bring you joy.