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Toby1932 Fri 11-Feb-22 15:48:55

Hi Everyone.
I have just discovered Gransnet so thought I would introduce myself and hopefully some of you would like to introduce yourselves to me.
I am 57 years old and have 3 grandkids whom I love dearly.
I live in central Scotland with my hubby, our fish, Einstein our parrot and 2 lovely dogs Sula (a chow chow puppy) and my 8 year old border terrier Gabe.
I don’t get out much at all and I am very shy so don’t have many friends although the few I have, have been in my life for over 20 years. But I’d love to make new ones.
Even just to chat on here would be lovely
Thanks for reading xxx

Mapleleaf Sat 12-Feb-22 11:56:49

joanna12, I agree with the other posters who say you have given out far too much personal information about yourself. This is a public forum, where people who have not even registered to join gransnet can read any posts. I think you need to report your own post to GN so that they can delete it so that your name and dob details, etc are removed from public view. Sadly there are so many unscrupulous individuals out there who could use your information for their own ends. In addition, there may be people near you who can identify you from what you have posted. Please don’t let this put you off posting on GN, just try to be as anonymous as possible. Welcome, by the way. ?

maddyone Sat 12-Feb-22 12:06:16

Hi Toby.

Grayling Sat 12-Feb-22 13:02:01

Am I just being thick? Don't think 1932 relates to Toby's age - if so she will be 90yr old not 57 as she state!!

Grayling Sat 12-Feb-22 13:05:03

states !!

TillyTrotter Sat 12-Feb-22 13:22:24

Welcome Toby, pleased to have your company on GN.
You will find many interesting topics, games and threads to follow even if you don’t want to post, but maybe try a few threads like the “Good Morning” one Michael opens up each morning, and “soop’s kitchen”.
I joined 2 years ago in the first English Covid lockdown and turn to it daily for virtual friendship and company.
You’ll be amazed how much time you can while away on here ?

HebeGransnet (GNHQ) Sat 12-Feb-22 14:21:10

Afternoon, everyone. Lovely to see people connecting with each other, but we did just want to remind everyone to be careful not to give away too much personal information. If anyone has any concerns about what they've posted here, do just drop us a line and we can remove posts for you at any time.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 12-Feb-22 14:43:15

I don’t like the way people have waded in with lots of personal information. Their choice of course but not sensible on a public forum. OP seems to have lulled them into a false sense of security. Haven’t noticed her posting anywhere else.

catladyuk Sat 12-Feb-22 14:49:34

welcome toby, pleased to meet you. it is usually very friendly here and i'm sure you will find much of interest. also, if you have any problems or questions about anything, post it on here and gransnetters will help.
to paraphrase tillytrotter "You’ll be amazed how much time you can while away on here", i'm frequently surprised when i check my history, to find that i rarely spend less than three hours, sometimes more!

Riverwalk Sat 12-Feb-22 15:05:29

Germanshepherdsmum

I don’t like the way people have waded in with lots of personal information. Their choice of course but not sensible on a public forum. OP seems to have lulled them into a false sense of security. Haven’t noticed her posting anywhere else.

How is the OP responsible for what other people post - she only joined yesterday, and her first post is pretty innocuous!

Riverwalk Sat 12-Feb-22 15:14:47

And talking of a false sense of security - I continue to be astounded when people post full on photos of their grandchildren, knowing full well they could be lifted and used in child porn, or traced by reverse imaging searches, which will show who they are if the photo has been posted on Facebook, Instagram, school website etc.

I wonder if the parents of the GC have given permission - you never see photos of children on Mumsnet, they've got more sense!

Grayling Sat 12-Feb-22 15:50:16

Well this hasn't taken long to go from a welcoming response to new poster to beginning to turn nasty.

poshpaws Sat 12-Feb-22 16:29:58

Welcome, Toby1932 I'm in Scotland also, north of Aberdeen, previously the Borders and originally Edinburgh.

I had a brother & sister Border Terrier pair several years ago - my wonderful late husband and I used to run a mixed species animal rescue alongside our "real" jobs - who'd been going to be drowned by the gamekeeper who owned them due to being accidentally closely inbred. We homed the rest of the litter and had the love of these two for 18 and a half years - the inbreeding clearly did them no harm in this instance! They died just months apart and I still miss them.

I rather envy you your parrot :-) We had the loveliest cat called Einstein - he was indeed extremely clever.

I hope you find lots of people to chat to and maybe when you get to know them well you'll move on to private messaging them and develop an even closer friendship.

Don't be put off by any nasty comments - we can't all agree!

FannyCornforth Sat 12-Feb-22 16:58:08

Apologies Toby
It was me who said that I thought that you’re thread was ‘dubious’.
You would be surprised how many posters post, never to appear again.
It might just be me, but I still think it’s a bit strange to start a thread and then not post for a day

ixion Sat 12-Feb-22 17:19:46

I don't think it's a bit strange at all.
A day is nothing in the lives of people who have commitments of their own - jobs, families, busy and or complex personal or domestic 'doings'.
One poster, to my knowledge, has an ageing PC set up in the bedroom of her sheltered accommodation and she accesses it, through choice, once a day. Not with the immediacy that those with a mobile phone have.

Zoejory Sat 12-Feb-22 17:24:26

Some people post then return to the real world and totally forget GN. It happens. Life gets in the way. Not everyone posts every day.

FannyCornforth Sat 12-Feb-22 17:30:18

Okely dokely smile
I have been told

Marydoll Sat 12-Feb-22 18:05:47

It never ceases to amaze me how naive some posters on GN are. When I was teaching and responsible for internet safety in my school, we spent an inordinate amount of time, drumming into pupils that posting their photos and personal information online was dangerous, then their parents would post photos of them in school uniform in Facebook, making them instantly identifiable. The pupils had more sense than their parents.

As Riverwalk has stated, I continue to be astounded when people post full on photos of their grandchildren, knowing full well they could be lifted and used in child porn, or traced by reverse imaging searches, which will show who they are if the photo has been posted on Facebook, Instagram, school website etc.

My son would be outraged if I uploaded a full photo of my grandchild anywhere without his permission. I wonder how many grandparents actually ask permission.
I was responsible for maintaining our school website and the strict instruction from the LEA was no full photos of children, only side or back views should be uploaded and definitely no full names. It's common sense.

The reason I was concerned was that a poster on this thread gave her name and the village she stayed in. You will notice that very few posters offer a precise location.
In the last couple of years, I was aware of two posters on GN, who were outed and had to deal with the upset it caused.

No-one is aiming to be unwelcoming, quite the opposite. Those of us with concerns, were trying to alert the poster that giving so much personal information on a public forum, where anyone can read it, is very unwise.

Toby1932 Sat 12-Feb-22 18:38:21

Fannycornforth
Thank you for your post.
I can totally understand where you are coming from ❤️
Sometimes I’m so busy with everything else in my life there will be times I won’t post every day
Sometimes it’s grandkids, sometimes my pets, and sometimes it’s something that is happening in my life, esp just now as I am suffering terrible abuse on line and emotionally from my daughter so there are days I just can’t talk to anyone.
So please excuse me if I don’t post every day, I don’t mean any harm.
But thank you anyway
Much love xxxx

Lucca Sat 12-Feb-22 18:54:54

Good post Marydoll.

grannyrebel7 Sat 12-Feb-22 18:57:53

Hi Toby - welcome to GN. It's funny how the shyness never quite goes away no matter how old we are. I've had two Border terriers in the past and they're great dogs, although one of mine was a nutter and would have a go at anything on four legs! Hope you enjoy this forum.

Ali08 Sat 12-Feb-22 19:10:21

Helloooo Toby, welcome.
I'm a Geordie living in Kent. Been here a loooooong time, my 2 children and 4 grandchildren were all born here. I also have a stepdaughter and step grandchild in Stowmartianland.
I love it in here and can easily mislay a couple of hours while in here reading what people chat about and playing the games.
You'll feel at home in no time!

CraftyGranny Sat 12-Feb-22 19:36:21

hello Toby, it's very nice to meet you. I don't know what your interests are yet but mine are crafts, as my name suggests,
I am a mum to 3 boys, granny to 8 and great granny to 3 and I love it. Aged 57 hey, that is a distant memory for me!

Enjoy

Audi10 Sat 12-Feb-22 19:56:21

Hi Toby welcome to Gransnet! It’s a great site. The people are lovely always found them to be very friendly, I’m older than you I’m mid sixties, have four grandchildren, lots of animals, I also find it a bit strange when people post pics of their grandchildren on social media, I think some people can get carried away sometimes, each to their own of course but some post pics of themselves on here too, me I’d rather be more private, ???

TheOtherCatsMother Sat 12-Feb-22 20:01:45

Hello Toby, welcome.

No grandchildren as no kids but don't tell anyone, I think I have got away with it. ?

Beloved cat and fish.

rafichagran Sat 12-Feb-22 20:19:32

Welcome Toby