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Secretsquirrel1 Mon 21-Feb-22 00:31:40

I’ve been looking everywhere for a nice dress to wear to a spring wedding. I’ve sadly gone up a size recently so nothing I already have fits me and despite my best efforts I can’t lose the weight I’ve put on ?
I’m short (5ft), bottom heavy, small boobs and narrow shoulders and size 12. Everything I see is one extreme or the other. Either way too young for me, or it looks like I’ve snuck in to Buckingham palace and borrowed an outfit from the Queens wardrobe.
Are there any shops / dresses, people can suggest for short, tubby, wedding guests approaching 60 ? Help great fully received!

sazz1 Wed 23-Feb-22 08:54:41

If you would only wear it once foe a wedding why not look on ebay.
When I worked as a PA for a disabled person and went on a cruise with them I bought a whole wardrobe of cruise wear/ posh clothes from ebay for a fraction of the retail price. Sold the lot on there afterwards and got most of my money back. Put wedding cruise mother of the bride in the search to see suitable outfits
HTH

Tina1957 Tue 22-Feb-22 21:28:36

I find Hobbs do a good range of outfits,they also have a petite range.

Secretsquirrel1 Tue 22-Feb-22 21:03:39

Thank you all so much. I’m so grateful for you all taking the time to reply and I’m going through reading all your helpful suggestions ! ❤️

Secretsquirrel1 Tue 22-Feb-22 20:58:43

Germanshepherdsmum
Thank you. MOTB and MOTG outfits are so expensive.
I got an outfit from something Infantino for my daughters wedding a couple of years ago . It was more than I’ve over spend on an outfit but I felt fab lol. So what the hell

Doodledog Tue 22-Feb-22 20:14:46

SewnSew

I'd like to give another vote for a John Lewis personal shopper as I did exactly that last week and came home with the ideal dress and coat. It was a really pleasant exercise and the shopper was endlessly patient. For what it is worth, I now have a lovely just-below-the-knee dress with 3/4 sleeves in a white, black and green print to wear with black tights and little black ankle boots, and a warm coat in an exactly matching green. I wouldn't have looked at these on the rail, but the shopper knew exactly what she was doing!

That sounds lovely, SewnSew. I hope I have such good luck on my visit?

readsalot Tue 22-Feb-22 19:51:39

I would also say comfy trousers and a glam top. Don't forget your hair, jewelry and a manicure too. Often as important as your outfit.

Lucca Tue 22-Feb-22 18:38:50

Mirren

I have the opposite problem. I'm 66 and 6 foot tall .
I'm currently a 16-18 and need to lose about 3 stone before my equally tall but size 8 daughter gets married next year.
I know I will never be a slim as her but I am endeavouring to stop myself resembling a barn door next to her on the photos.
As Mother of the Bride I want to look really nice but , like OP I have a flat chest and big hips. I am also" blessed " with the family Bingo wings.
Most dresses have waists that only reach my ribs and sleeves that are far too short. Everything is out of proportion for me .
Does anyone else tall have any good ideas .
Please don't say " Long Tall Sally " ... how I hate that shop . I hate their style, their quality and the fact that everyone seems to think us tall ladies are catered for by LTS .
I wonder how everyone else would feel if they were told " you're ok , you can go to M&S " and no where else ?

I’m full of praise for anyone who opts NOT to wear a fascinator…
Far too overused.

Mirren have you looked at Sahara or Masai ? Stylish and often quite long

Blossoming Tue 22-Feb-22 18:26:47

John Lewis have some lovely Studio 8 dresses on offer at the moment.

How about something like this green midi dress? Half price too.

www.johnlewis.com/studio-8-harper-tie-waist-midi-dress-green/p5465889

Fashionista1 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:21:15

I meant to say that you could Google Promo codes for Wallis and Roman to get a discount and if you sign up to their newsletter you get 10% off.

Fashionista1 Tue 22-Feb-22 18:18:47

Wallis are online and have some very stylish dresses. I always go for their petite range because I have small shoulders. Another brand are Roman who are also online. They have petite dresses and wedding outfits for women who like fashionable clothing. I always order a couple of sizes to try on and return what doesn't fit. Look at the ratings to see what people say about the fit and quality. Good luck.

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 22-Feb-22 18:15:40

I thought Alexon disappeared ages ago?

Mummer Tue 22-Feb-22 18:10:45

#ALEXON !!

Mummer Tue 22-Feb-22 18:10:22

Unless money really is no objet, I'd go for Roman too, or maybe have a look online at Esprit if you're confident with fit etc without trying on? Beautiful cotton/natural fabrics with multitudinous styles and genres.or......do try and get a look at Alexa too you can wear anytime but look special!

grannymags Tue 22-Feb-22 17:50:44

Have you thought of a nice jumpsuit im very petite and find them very stylish and comfy with a nice pair of heels

madeleine45 Tue 22-Feb-22 17:40:40

My first place would be to look at some charity shops! If you look around there can be some really interesting outfits that might be worth a look. You might find a lovely fascinator or hat that will inspire you for an outfit.You never know what you might find. for a start you can try one or two things on and decide if that is the sort of thing you want to wear and it might at least give you an idea of where you might go. Then I would be talking to friends about what they wore in a similar situation, they may have some great ideas about a local shop or place you might try. I have a classic shirt , long length in pure silk with a collar and cuffs and in a kingfisher blue. I wear it with a pair of simple black elasticated velvet trousers. it always looks good and if I dont know what sort of things people are going to wear, I know that I shall feel ok , not the latest fashion but not going to stick out! If you look for something now you will be able to wear whatever you find for a couple of times in the house so that you are used to them and feel comfortable before you go to the wedding. Good luck and hope you find something you really like

sweetcakes Tue 22-Feb-22 17:29:22

Marks and Spencer are starting a wedding range also you can hire outfits there it's worth a look.

MerylStreep Tue 22-Feb-22 17:29:22

Mirren
Why not think about what material/ pattern / style you would like and then find a dressmaker to run it up for you.
There are soooo many beautiful materials on line.
Have a look ?

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 22-Feb-22 17:28:59

What's your budget? I must admit to having spent vastly more than I have ever done before for my son's (only child's) wedding but hesitate to forward the details of the boutique (in London but they also sell online, however are mega expensive so you may not want to know).

Mirren Tue 22-Feb-22 17:21:38

I have the opposite problem. I'm 66 and 6 foot tall .
I'm currently a 16-18 and need to lose about 3 stone before my equally tall but size 8 daughter gets married next year.
I know I will never be a slim as her but I am endeavouring to stop myself resembling a barn door next to her on the photos.
As Mother of the Bride I want to look really nice but , like OP I have a flat chest and big hips. I am also" blessed " with the family Bingo wings.
Most dresses have waists that only reach my ribs and sleeves that are far too short. Everything is out of proportion for me .
Does anyone else tall have any good ideas .
Please don't say " Long Tall Sally " ... how I hate that shop . I hate their style, their quality and the fact that everyone seems to think us tall ladies are catered for by LTS .
I wonder how everyone else would feel if they were told " you're ok , you can go to M&S " and no where else ?

Elizabeth27 Tue 22-Feb-22 15:59:08

Hirestreetuk.com is a good place to hire from if you only want to wear it once.

Willjac123 Tue 22-Feb-22 15:18:19

Marmight
I'm going to wear virtually the same as you for a spring wedding- co-ordinating floaty top, trousers and fascinator. Mainly because of a large abdominal hernia , wearing dresses is not a good look. But I feel fairly comfortable with my choice of outfit and I don't care if somebody might think it "doesn't look right".

Chocolatelovinggran Tue 22-Feb-22 15:16:27

I have charity shopped for wedding outfits, myself. Bombshell dresses are super flattering and might be worth the splurge.
I will be recycling my Bombshell MOB frock from last year at my 70th birthday bash this summer.

nipsmum Tue 22-Feb-22 15:15:38

I loved Eastex and bought outfits for both my daughters weddings in House of Fraser. I am 5 foot nothing and a size 14.

grandtanteJE65 Tue 22-Feb-22 14:58:05

side not size! And I did read it through!

grandtanteJE65 Tue 22-Feb-22 14:57:06

Well, being about your height, I would steer clear of anything with a floral design. In my opinion floral designs only suit very young women of our height, although the look nice on taller women of any age.

And knitted dresses make me feel that my tummy is sticking out!

Helpful, aren't I?

I would start by going round the charity shops in the area and trying on anything and everything I could find that looked remotely suitable - in other words that appealed to me.

I would also dig out a pair of high heels and brush up on walking in them, as frankly I feel so much more elegant in high heels whether with a dress, a skirt or trousers.

If when you say bottom heavy, you literally mean you feel your bottom is on the big size a pair of high heels is the answer, as you walk differently in them.

Mma Makutsi in The Ladies' Dective agency series mentions " the delicate matter of what to do with your bottom when walking. Some people just leave it to follow them, others use it" or words to that effect.

Use it - don't attempt to conceal anything you regard as a fault.

If you really feel your entire bottom half is a size larger than your top wear a padded bra for the ocaision.

Actually, a padded bra will balance your large feeling bottom too. (It cannot possibly as large as you feel, if you can get it and the rest of you into size 12)!

Find something you like and feel comfortable in and enjoy the wedding.