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Queen’s attitude to being in a wheelchair, supposedly.

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Honeysuckleberries Tue 22-Mar-22 15:57:24

I have been reading about the Queen’s apparent negative attitude to being seen in public in a wheelchair. Her reaction apparently been ascribed to the shock caused to the public by Princess Margaret appearing in a wheelchair. I remember her appearing but I wasn’t shocked at the wheelchair bit, it was the sling, the sunglasses and the general air of malaise.
I would have thought that the sight of a sparkling Queen dressed smartly and with her beaming smile in a wheelchair would have done a great deal for the disabled.
I realise that she has an image to maintain but she is very elderly now and surely it is not a bad thing to have to adapt to her health issues.
If she is going to cling on to the bitter end then she either adapts or hands over to Prince Charles who is already elderly.

Oopsadaisy1 Tue 22-Mar-22 16:06:25

Yes I think that she would look far better than her sister , who presumably was too ill to see how badly her staff had dressed her.
If she doesn’t bite the bullet and get into the wheelchair she will be very limited in her activities and might as well retire, unless she does everything indoors with no photographers or guests.
They will have to prop her up in a corner, immobile but still smiling!

ginny Tue 22-Mar-22 16:11:17

Honeysuckleberries I agree with you.
She could have done a lot for the image of disabled and elderly people. It’s as if she is saying there is something wrong with ageing or needing a wheelchair.

VioletSky Tue 22-Mar-22 16:13:24

It's not my place to tell the Queen how to feel about this, it must not feel good

However, seeing her in a wheelchair would be inspirational to many as a wheelchair is a method to enable people to live their best life and there are a lot of people who can identify with that. For instance, those who need glasses to see

CPL593H Tue 22-Mar-22 16:20:05

I agree that the shock with Princess Margaret wasn't her being in a wheelchair but how ill and changed she looked. It was very sad.

It could send a very positive message and in her position, I would have the tallest best looking guardsman available grin pushing the chair, in full uniform. My poor husband, decades younger than QE and formerly a very, very fit man, has to make do with me. It was a hard adjustment, but I admire him for making it.

Elegran Tue 22-Mar-22 16:23:44

The main word here is "supposedly". We only have someone's unconfirmed rumour that she has said that she doesn't want to use a wheelchair in public.

It is also around that alterations have been made to a house on the Balmoral estate to make it more disabled-friendly, including installing a wheelchair lift. She is said to be planning to leave Buckingham Palace and spending more time at Balmoral.

If I had to make a prediction, it would be that she will hand over to Prince Charles after the Jubilee - but not before. I wouldn't blame her for wanting to go out on a high note.
www.hellomagazine.com/homes/20220319135846/the-queen-balmoral-home-major-updates-revealed/

GrannyLaine Tue 22-Mar-22 16:57:13

Much speculation and not much substance about this. My own lovely mum lived to be 96, fiercely independent even though she was increasingly frail in her last few years. She cooked and cleaned for herself to the end. She absolutely refused any devices that made her look old (in her opinion) These included a shopping trolley when she still walked to the local shops, a wheeled walker when she was having dizzy spells, a walking stick. Heaven help anyone who tried suggesting a wheelchair to her. I think Her Majesty has earned the right to do whatever is right for her. She doesn't have to be a poster girl for anyone.

eazybee Tue 22-Mar-22 17:03:25

Give the woman a break!
She doesn't want to be seen in a wheelchair; isn't she entitled for once to have a personal preference? She has earned the right to do what is right for her, as the previous poster said.

GrannyGravy13 Tue 22-Mar-22 17:12:40

Any confirmation on this, or is it just more speculation?

Chewbacca Tue 22-Mar-22 17:30:11

Well the Daily Mail is reporting it so it must be true, surely??? hmm

Grandmadinosaur Tue 22-Mar-22 17:48:20

Chewbacca

Well the Daily Mail is reporting it so it must be true, surely??? hmm

Also according to Christopher Biggins of all people . Didn’t know he had a hot line to the Palace!

Ladyleftfieldlover Tue 22-Mar-22 17:53:04

I saw that Biggins headline! Perhaps he knows someone who knows someone.Margaret did look awful though and everyone blamed Backstairs Billy. Do people really think that her staff could have just done what they liked! Apparently Margaret was the most Royal of the Royals.

Kim19 Tue 22-Mar-22 17:56:57

No shame to a wheelchair whatsoever but I hope our Queen never finds it necessary/desirable. Don't believe for one minute that the awful paparazzi have any inside knowledge on this.

foxie48 Tue 22-Mar-22 18:10:39

My lovely MIL lived with us and died aged 101, she was very proud and it was quite tricky getting her to accept help of any kind as she liked her independence. She didn't want to use a wheelchair although it became increasingly difficult for her to walk any distance even using a walker. We respected her wishes and felt she was entitled to live what remained of her life as she wished. I have no idea how well the Queen is doing but I'm sure she'll do exactly what she wants to do.

tidyskatemum Tue 22-Mar-22 18:55:35

The difference is that the Queen still has a public role. If she can’t walk and is unwilling to be seen in a wheelchair she can no longer fulfil that role and might as well hand over to Charles. I guess she’s hanging on until the Jubilee.

FlexibleFriend Tue 22-Mar-22 19:37:28

I don't want to use a wheelchair, no one does from choice but it's a necessity for me. I'm about 30 years younger than the queen and age is irrelevant. I need it, end of and there is absolutely no point getting in a strop about it. At least the queen could afford an all singing all dancing wheelchair, I can't I'm stuck with one that needs to be pushed as my arms are no better than my legs to be honest. I think the queen has been very fortunate to remain as fit and well into old age as she has and I'm pleased for her but she needs to face facts. Life in a wheelchair isn't so bad, it's a state of mind and I'm sure she'll realise that soon enough.

Cabbie21 Tue 22-Mar-22 19:50:20

I think people would rather see her in a wheelchair than not at all. It would also save her from needing to struggle to stand then sit then stand and could provide a dignified way of coping for longer with public duties, and yes! an inspiration to other wheelchair users and an encouragement to any hesitating to use one.
Without one I think she will rarely be seen in public after the Jubilee. If mobility is the only real issue that will be a shame.

MawtheMerrier Tue 22-Mar-22 21:22:14

“Supposedly ” = the key word
Why speculate needlessly?

CanadianGran Tue 22-Mar-22 21:33:32

I do feel bad for her; it is very hard to accept that you can't walk distances. I know it was difficult for my father, and my MIL.

One point of note is how large the houses/castles/estates are. We can walk from kitchen to livingroom in about 10 steps; she must have a half mile to get from one room to the other!

Maybe they could rig up one of her shetland ponies to a small trap and she could ride herself around. (I'm only half joking, she would probably love it).

Kim19 Tue 22-Mar-22 21:39:48

I'm with Maw on this. Don't think I remember ever reading such negative speculation on here.

DaisyAnne Tue 22-Mar-22 21:50:45

I hadn't heard about not having a wheelchair but did hear that the Queen had mobility problems. I would love to see her given a specially decorated scooter. She has always seem to me to have a very good sense of humour. I would like to think she could have great fun driving one.

trisher Tue 22-Mar-22 21:57:40

Why does it have to be a wheelchair? The rest of her faculties being in good nick she could drive a mobility scooter. They could decorate one specially for her. She could have a basket with a corgi in it and zoom round.

trisher Tue 22-Mar-22 21:58:45

DaisyAnne

I hadn't heard about not having a wheelchair but did hear that the Queen had mobility problems. I would love to see her given a specially decorated scooter. She has always seem to me to have a very good sense of humour. I would like to think she could have great fun driving one.

Crossed posts DaisyAnne Great minds think alike!

VioletSky Tue 22-Mar-22 22:06:30

I have a mental image of the Queen on a red white and blue mobility scooter, flying the flag off the back and tooting a horn playing the first few bars of God Save The Queen now...

... And it is glorious

DaisyAnne Tue 22-Mar-22 22:24:01

VioletSky grin