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Childfree and smug

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paddyann54 Wed 30-Mar-22 19:20:43

Its easier to let people think its a choice than face the pitying looks and invasive questions when theres an absence of the patter of little feet.I have 10 years between my (surviving) children ,there was a baby who lived 4 days and 6 miscarriages in that time ,no one knew about any of the miscarriages,not even close family.When my baby died I felt I had to manage everyone elses grief instead of trying to get through each day myself so it was much simpler if people thought we just didn't want anymore children

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Blossoming Wed 30-Mar-22 19:16:10

They may not be child free by choice, their ‘smugness’ may hide an ocean of tears as they try to convince themselves and others that they are better off child free. Just don’t read what they post if it annoys you.

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hollysteers Wed 30-Mar-22 19:03:06

I’m rather intrigued by people who vaunt their childfree lifestyle choices but are head over heels in love with their pets.
A couple of journalists on Instagram who previously disdained ‘breeders’, now have dogs and their posts are inundated with daily photos of them.
I am not referring to women who have wanted children and it hasn’t worked out, or those who bearing children somehow passed them by, but those on social media and elsewhere who have taken a rather aggressive stance on the superiority of being child free.
If they can shower so much love and adoration on a pet, how can they possibly know that they would not have found immense satisfaction from bearing a child?

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