Parent or grandparent, who can tell?

A few kind words from Grans wouldn’t come amiss by the way
It’s lonely being the ‘only one ‘ on the thread who at 27 clearly looked an old crone.
Kate sympathies, but at least you are some years older than your sister.
My friend was older than me yet still taken fir my daughter. Oh how she loved that.

Well silverlining that person obviously had poor eyesight. Our daughter is 51 and is considering Botox as people keep asking her if she's the mother of her friends. I think she looks young for her age but she says that's because I'm her mum but I don't think so. She was miffed recently when she introduced me to someone and they said I didn't look old enough to be her mum. She took it that she must look old. She doesn't.

Kate greetings to your dd, but they were being nice to you, not nasty to her. You both look young. Hooray.

We all look young ?

I’m doing a ‘death clean’ and sorting through old photographs and it’s startling to see how people look ‘old’ to me, even though they were still in their forties and fifties. In one photo my dad looks about forty, but he was only 21! My Nana was two years younger than I am now when my sister got married and, in spite of wearing a very trendy (at the time) trouser suit, she looks considerably older than I do.

I look every bit of my 69 years but my daughters all look young. I was visiting my middle daughter ( age, mid- thirties ) when a visitor at the door asked if her mother was in. She said " She is, but this is my house, and the small child by my side is my son..
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mokryna

I did say to one little girl ´Look your grandfather has come to collect you’. I was told ‘It’s my father’.
Another girl, a teenager, told me that she worried at night because her father was so old and thought he could have a heart attack at any time.

That little girl could have been me I hated having an older dad , he was 54 when I was born , and he was not a fit older dad either . I vowed never to marry someone many years older than myself and I stuck to it . A closed relation is to be a mum at 46, thanks to egg donation ,my family had left home by the time I was that age . I do not envy her .

Callistemon21

Luckygirl3

I once went to Chepstow Races with my DD (who, to be fair, is quite short) and my SIL. They offered SIL and I adult tickets and a child's for our "daughter"!

I hope she got in for half-price ?
Mind you, if they saw her drinking alcohol they might wonder!
???

Well - to my horror - she insisted on telling them she was an adult and therefore it all cost more! Silly girl!

I was 47 when my first grandchild was born and a lot of people assumed I was her mother.
Now I am a great grandma I get mistaken for GGCs grandmother, but I have never really been solo with them, I have not got the energy at nearly 78 to run around after two small boys.

I never make assumptions about parental or other relationships ever since I remarked to DD's new school friend "oh it's nice that your granddad is bringing you to school sometimes". Yup, he was her Dad. But in fairness,her mum was very young and her dad was only 2 years younger than his MiL, her other grandmother

Luckygirl3

Callistemon21

Luckygirl3

I once went to Chepstow Races with my DD (who, to be fair, is quite short) and my SIL. They offered SIL and I adult tickets and a child's for our "daughter"!

I hope she got in for half-price ?
Mind you, if they saw her drinking alcohol they might wonder!
???

Well - to my horror - she insisted on telling them she was an adult and therefore it all cost more! Silly girl!

I hope you weren't paying!!